I’m the money maker in this family, so I could carry the weight. I love and desire that man, so we’d continue on.

Loser. Next!

Who's Al?

I wouldn’t leave him. I’d rejoin the workforce full time.

I'd split. Not ashamed to admit it.

He'd leave me if I got fat.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be worried, because I work and have my own money (liquid cash and investments). I've supported us before, and I can do it again. My profession is in high-demand and I could easily make more if I change my schedule/hours (healthcare).

I'd actually be relieved, because it would give us a good reason to leave DC and move to a much more laid-back, lower COL area (which I've been trying to do for 4+ years now).

What is your profession? Most healthcare jobs are becoming saturated.

Depends. My ex suddenly decided to quit working one day and spent his savings on booze, porn, and video games. If I bugged him enough he'd get another job but get fired within a month. He then started pressuring me for kids so he could be a SAHD. I bailed.

My DH makes good money, but if he left his job to pursue another career I'd be fine with it.

No way. Until death do us part. But it would suck and I would be cranky about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given that it's "our" money, I wouldn't worry. He doesn't have much money that's just "his" other than his retirement account which has about the same amount that I have in mine. I also was the sole bread winner at one point, so this doesn't worry me all that much either, as long as he can be a great sahd.

I get it now, thanks for the clarification. His money is “our” money but your money is “your” money. Feminism at it’s best.

Reading comprehension at "it's" best.

Anonymous wrote:What will you do? Would you leave him? Be honest.

Umm, it's not his money - it's our money. And no, we'd keep doing our thing.

Anonymous wrote:It depends on how he lost it. If he blew it on sex, drugs and rock n roll I'd leave him in a second.

This is key. We have a lot of money saved. If DH somehow managed to blow through several million on drugs or whatever, then yes, he'd be out in a flash. But unless he went on one giant expensive bender, I would notice well before he managed to go through all our money.

If he lost his job then no big deal because I earn more and he'd be able to find something new quickly. Even if it was disability and he couldn't work we are totally set.

If he lost his job and we lost our money through some combination of bad investments, free-fall in stock market, etc., then our marriage would certainly survive. We are both well educated and well qualified for good jobs so we would rebuild and probably keep a simpler lifestyle. If he lost his ever-loving mind and spent it on drugs, sex, cars, etc, then our marriage probably wouldn't survive.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't leave him. He'd have to stop buying records, though.

He did.

My husband was laid off a few years ago, and has a lot of student debt, and was also supporting some extended family members. We don't make a ton.

But his money isn't why I married him. We're still married. He found another job.

It depends on how he lost it. If he blew it on sex, drugs and rock n roll I'd leave him in a second.