Anonymous wrote:Do you have anyone at your old job that you can trust enough to ask if there's an open position?

Why does asking for open positions require trust?

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Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

Apparently it is. Men are babies - 6 months probably felt like 10 years of neglect to him.

Go read Chump Lady
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Go read Chump Lady

Classic behavior. He was accusing you to take the focus off him. Sign the papers and tell him goodbye. You can do a lot better. There are men who don't do things like this. Get strong, and move far past him.

You are soooo lucky. A few years from now, you will realize how good you have it. You're married to a narcissist and you can make a clean break from him.

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

This is why people divorce so flippantly. 6 months is a drop in the bucket over the course of a lifelong marriage. And "treated him bad"? Well, she wasn't abusive or cheating. He just didn't get attention he wanted. If you divorce your spouse over that, you shouldn't get married. And please never have kids. I can't even imagine what he'd do if there was a little baby who competes with his time.

And the worst part of this story, is the mindf*** he does by blaming her for his infidelity and telling her everything is her fault and getting mad at her....for HIS affair!

Anonymous wrote:By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

6 months isn't that long when you are in for it for the long haul.
I'm been married 20 years. There are times we are like honeymooners and times I can't stand him. Sometimes we have sex 25 times a month and then there are times we go for many months without sex ( longest was 7 months). You persevere. You don't go cheating when things suck. Not when you are in it for the long haul.
I had no sex drive for a long time. Thank god DH was patient as we are deliriously happy. You ride out the difficult times.

Trust me, he will not be happy.

I never wish ill on others, nor do I feel good when other are unhappy. But I have seen this rodeo 100 times in my 60 years, it does not end well for him.

By your own admission you treated him bad for 6 months and when he wants a divorce he's an asshole?

If you treated me bad for months, I'd assume you wanted a divorce and make the plans.

The "woe is me" every other post is exhausting

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Anonymous wrote:Dump him, cut all contact and run as fast as you can from this seriously weak character.

You are in a serious car accident and his reaction is poor me, my needs are not being met.

Seriously DO NOT HAVE KIDS with this poor excuse for a human.

Imagine having cancer or a child with cancer. This man will only be worried about his own needs.

FFS, get out.

Thats what im thinking, im just heartbroken, i left everything to move and be with him and when im at my lowest he presented me with divorce papers. Now i have to look for a job to move back to my old state and im still not 100% recovered from the accident

You can look at it as a heart break, I lost everything or you can think your guardian angel showed you who he really is before you had children so you can go back home and be happy.

It's a gift. Embrace your new life.

My brain gets that, but i still feel so depressed and dumb for quitting my job and everything to follow him

Your heart and your head will sync with time. Your head can turn on a dime, the heart changes courses slowly like a ship... Follow your head and your heart will catch up.

I just dont understand how its fair he can cheat and find someone and be happy while im the one who got hurt. How can it work out for him when hes been the ass.hole, how is that fair?

This is a perfect definition of life not being fair ... that said, trust me in this, he is nowhere NEAR exiting the personal Hell he's created. It's not that I wish ill upon anyone but he's setting himself up for a lifetime of disappointment and that's not on you... Your job is to exit HIS Hell - don't let his poor character become part of who you are... not fair either but it's up to you to maintain your grace <3

Thank you

You're very welcome, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Dump him, cut all contact and run as fast as you can from this seriously weak character.

You are in a serious car accident and his reaction is poor me, my needs are not being met.

Seriously DO NOT HAVE KIDS with this poor excuse for a human.

Imagine having cancer or a child with cancer. This man will only be worried about his own needs.

FFS, get out.

Thats what im thinking, im just heartbroken, i left everything to move and be with him and when im at my lowest he presented me with divorce papers. Now i have to look for a job to move back to my old state and im still not 100% recovered from the accident

You can look at it as a heart break, I lost everything or you can think your guardian angel showed you who he really is before you had children so you can go back home and be happy.

It's a gift. Embrace your new life.

My brain gets that, but i still feel so depressed and dumb for quitting my job and everything to follow him

Your heart and your head will sync with time. Your head can turn on a dime, the heart changes courses slowly like a ship... Follow your head and your heart will catch up.

I just dont understand how its fair he can cheat and find someone and be happy while im the one who got hurt. How can it work out for him when hes been the ass.hole, how is that fair?

This is a perfect definition of life not being fair ... that said, trust me in this, he is nowhere NEAR exiting the personal Hell he's created. It's not that I wish ill upon anyone but he's setting himself up for a lifetime of disappointment and that's not on you... Your job is to exit HIS Hell - don't let his poor character become part of who you are... not fair either but it's up to you to maintain your grace <3

Thank you

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Anonymous wrote:Dump him, cut all contact and run as fast as you can from this seriously weak character.

You are in a serious car accident and his reaction is poor me, my needs are not being met.

Seriously DO NOT HAVE KIDS with this poor excuse for a human.

Imagine having cancer or a child with cancer. This man will only be worried about his own needs.

FFS, get out.

Thats what im thinking, im just heartbroken, i left everything to move and be with him and when im at my lowest he presented me with divorce papers. Now i have to look for a job to move back to my old state and im still not 100% recovered from the accident

You can look at it as a heart break, I lost everything or you can think your guardian angel showed you who he really is before you had children so you can go back home and be happy.

It's a gift. Embrace your new life.

My brain gets that, but i still feel so depressed and dumb for quitting my job and everything to follow him

Your heart and your head will sync with time. Your head can turn on a dime, the heart changes courses slowly like a ship... Follow your head and your heart will catch up.

I just dont understand how its fair he can cheat and find someone and be happy while im the one who got hurt. How can it work out for him when hes been the ass.hole, how is that fair?

This is a perfect definition of life not being fair ... that said, trust me in this, he is nowhere NEAR exiting the personal Hell he's created. It's not that I wish ill upon anyone but he's setting himself up for a lifetime of disappointment and that's not on you... Your job is to exit HIS Hell - don't let his poor character become part of who you are... not fair either but it's up to you to maintain your grace <3

Anonymous wrote:Do you have anyone at your old job that you can trust enough to ask if there's an open position?

They are not currently hiring

Do you have anyone at your old job that you can trust enough to ask if there's an open position?