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Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Okay, so it was at least 4. Not lying about it. Yes, when the neighborhood is so interconnected and everyone knows everyone, yes, people don't invite others to parties for this reason. It is about screwing being nice to the mom who was sleeping with a friend's husband. My friends see them out together with our kids and they get disgusted.

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Are you talking about ... kids’ birthday parties? As in, some poor kids whose lives have already been upended through no fault of their own didn’t get invited to their friends’ Birthday parties? And this is supposed to be a punishment for the adults who don’t like these things anyway? I hope I’m misunderstanding!

The friends of the kids are absolutely invited to their birthday parties. But sometimes you invite non-friends so the parents don't feel like their kid was left out. These kids aren't friends with his AP's DD. A few people didn't care if she and my STBX felt left out. Her kid has plenty of other parties to go to. But it is noticible she isn't getting the pity invites.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Okay, so it was at least 4. Not lying about it. Yes, when the neighborhood is so interconnected and everyone knows everyone, yes, people don't invite others to parties for this reason. It is about screwing being nice to the mom who was sleeping with a friend's husband. My friends see them out together with our kids and they get disgusted.

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Are you talking about ... kids’ birthday parties? As in, some poor kids whose lives have already been upended through no fault of their own didn’t get invited to their friends’ Birthday parties? And this is supposed to be a punishment for the adults who don’t like these things anyway? I hope I’m misunderstanding!

The friends of the kids are absolutely invited to their birthday parties. But sometimes you invite non-friends so the parents don't feel like their kid was left out. These kids aren't friends with his AP's DD. A few people didn't care if she and my STBX felt left out. Her kid has plenty of other parties to go to. But it is noticible she isn't getting the pity invites.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Okay, so it was at least 4. Not lying about it. Yes, when the neighborhood is so interconnected and everyone knows everyone, yes, people don't invite others to parties for this reason. It is about screwing being nice to the mom who was sleeping with a friend's husband. My friends see them out together with our kids and they get disgusted.

.

Are you talking about ... kids’ birthday parties? As in, some poor kids whose lives have already been upended through no fault of their own didn’t get invited to their friends’ Birthday parties? And this is supposed to be a punishment for the adults who don’t like these things anyway? I hope I’m misunderstanding!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Okay, so it was at least 4. Not lying about it. Yes, when the neighborhood is so interconnected and everyone knows everyone, yes, people don't invite others to parties for this reason. It is about screwing being nice to the mom who was sleeping with a friend's husband. My friends see them out together with our kids and they get disgusted.

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Anonymous wrote:For the PP who pulled all the stupid crap listed (e.g., making sure her XH had trouble buying Christmas gifts for her kids): Every time you tried to hurt him you sent the message of just how hung up on him you still are.

Everyone but you can see it. Including your kids.

you don't know what you are talking about. I have a great relationship with my kids. They prefer me over their father. They wouldn't do that if he was a good guy. He deserves what he gets and don't try to shame me for sticking up for myself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the PP who pulled all the stupid crap listed (e.g., making sure her XH had trouble buying Christmas gifts for her kids): Every time you tried to hurt him you sent the message of just how hung up on him you still are.

Everyone but you can see it. Including your kids.

you don't know what you are talking about. I have a great relationship with my kids. They prefer me over their father. They wouldn't do that if he was a good guy. He deserves what he gets and don't try to shame me for sticking up for myself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.

I'm sure you're lying about that. Nobody would not invite a kid to a party because of a parents affair.

Try again. Keep trying to convince yourself that your bitterness is actually hurting someone other than yourself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the PP who pulled all the stupid crap listed (e.g., making sure her XH had trouble buying Christmas gifts for her kids): Every time you tried to hurt him you sent the message of just how hung up on him you still are.

Everyone but you can see it. Including your kids.

you don't know what you are talking about. I have a great relationship with my kids. They prefer me over their father. They wouldn't do that if he was a good guy. He deserves what he gets and don't try to shame me for sticking up for myself.

Anonymous wrote:Revenge served hot:

1. I aired all our dirty laundry to one of the executive admins at his job knowing she would spread anything I told her.

Revenge served warm:

2. Told him I wanted to work things out and got him into marriage counseling and just when he thought things were settled down I served him papers while he was at lunch with clients. Awkward!

Revenge served cold:

3. Years after the divorce I found out he was getting remarried so I sued for a custodial modification by serving him on the morning of the wedding and also asking for more child support.
4. I also saved up all the medical bills for months and had a few thousand dollars of reimbursement receipts delivered to him the day they returned from their honeymoon.
5. A month into the case I dropped my attorney and started calling his attorney every day to discuss various things because I knew his lawyer was charging $500 per hour. I did that for several months until just before the hearing and I dropped the case. It cost him around 20 grand. I know this caused a lot of problems for him during their first year of marriage. It also made the kids upset with him because he didn't have money for their Christmas and birthdays.
6. Occasionally I'll agree to extended summer vacations for the kids and then play "hard to get" concerning the pickup and drop off dates. This really pisses him off when he needs to buy airline tickets because he can't really make reservations for anything until that gets worked out. He likes to make reservations in advance.

Anonymous wrote:Revenge served hot:

1. I aired all our dirty laundry to one of the executive admins at his job knowing she would spread anything I told her.

Revenge served warm:

2. Told him I wanted to work things out and got him into marriage counseling and just when he thought things were settled down I served him papers while he was at lunch with clients. Awkward!

Revenge served cold:

3. Years after the divorce I found out he was getting remarried so I sued for a custodial modification by serving him on the morning of the wedding and also asking for more child support.
4. I also saved up all the medical bills for months and had a few thousand dollars of reimbursement receipts delivered to him the day they returned from their honeymoon.
5. A month into the case I dropped my attorney and started calling his attorney every day to discuss various things because I knew his lawyer was charging $500 per hour. I did that for several months until just before the hearing and I dropped the case. It cost him around 20 grand. I know this caused a lot of problems for him during their first year of marriage. It also made the kids upset with him because he didn't have money for their Christmas and birthdays.
6. Occasionally I'll agree to extended summer vacations for the kids and then play "hard to get" concerning the pickup and drop off dates. This really pisses him off when he needs to buy airline tickets because he can't really make reservations for anything until that gets worked out. He likes to make reservations in advance.

Anonymous wrote:When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.