Anonymous wrote:Not that they're not happy and nice, but if I'm being frank, honestly, their kids are so dull. We can tell our children run academic & soft skill circles around their solidly middle class cousins. I really don't think it's IQ, it's just environment and better schools and higher-caliber peers. Makes me so sad. I wonder if their parents are as cognizant as we are while we watch them interact?

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Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

That's even funnier! No, dear little Arabella is not fluent in Mandarin. I can't stop laughing that you think this!
And I hope she has inherited some smarts to go along with all the desirable cultural exposure her parents pay for, otherwise it's not much use.
Finally, people with really powerful connections have a lower bar to financial and social success, as you can imagine.

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Anonymous wrote:OP hit on a important observation of inequality here. The kids she's talking about aren't dirt poor but they are not given the opportunities that her own kids are given. That's the real problem in this country. Shouldn't all kids be able to reach their full potential? It's a systemic issue and not one that a lot of people give a lot of thought to.

Thank you. I'm not talking about family in some Appalachia trailer park. Solidly middle class kids and I'm not exaggerating the diff in knowledge, polish and soft skills between our children and same age cousins. They can't articulate anything going on in their life. They are obsessed with football all day, fantasy football scores, and their iPhones. And sure, if you want me to go there, I can: their table manners are awful. Excusable, maybe for pre-teens; not excusable for middle and high school kids (in front of company, no less).

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Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

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Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

Nothing wrong with what OP said. You think Arabella Kushner would be so fluent in Mandarin if it weren't for her ultra-wealthy parents? Let's not pretend that having certain parents from certain classes give kids a leg up.

Anonymous wrote:It's so cute how you think you have so much control over your children's achievements.

One day you will be in for a big surprise. Your child might bring home a girlfriend or boyfriend from a "less affluent" background who is very well-spoken and has a wide-reaching culture.

One day your children might miss expectations and fall short in comparisons with others, who may or may not be affluent.

Be very humble, OP, and don't think it's all thanks to YOU and YOUR MONEY.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you really really suck. I have a spent A LOT of time around people like you -- I went to Ivy League schools but I'm from the middle class background you look down on. You think you're cultured and mannered and whatever but you are an insufferable snob and no better than anyone else. Middle class kids do great interpersonally in the real world when all is said and done because people actually enjoy hanging out with them, unlike judgmental people like you. And, yes, people can tell when you're looking down on them.

How can people tell?

Anonymous wrote:OP, you really really suck. I have a spent A LOT of time around people like you -- I went to Ivy League schools but I'm from the middle class background you look down on. You think you're cultured and mannered and whatever but you are an insufferable snob and no better than anyone else. Middle class kids do great interpersonally in the real world when all is said and done because people actually enjoy hanging out with them, unlike judgmental people like you. And, yes, people can tell when you're looking down on them.