Anonymous wrote:I've been ghosted a dozen times by women from OLD. Enough times that I don't feel a bit bad doing it myself. Thinking about doing it with the girl I'm seeing now.

Why do men do it? Because we can. I'm 52, divorced, and can easily get a date for every day of the week (some of them in their 20s).

Well you sound like a real catch. Pretty modest...refer to women as girls... no wonder they’re lining up to date you!

Sorry this is happening to you, OP. If it makes you feel better, this may be happening to me right now as well. I haven't heard from the guy I've been seeing since Thursday...its the longest we haven't talked since we met. He went out of town Sat-Sun and told me he would be in touch and text, and just nothing. We've been struggling lately though, as he's very, very unhappy in a new job and possibly dealing with some situational depression issues, so I suppose its not totally unexpected. However, given we've just had some fairly significant come to jesus talks about this within the last week where he told me repeatedly he wanted to keep seeing me and wanted me in his life, so this definitely stings. I'm hurt, but I'm mostly just really, really angry he would treat me like this after I've supported him through some pretty heavy stuff. Instead of crying, I mostly just want to punch him in the face

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Anonymous wrote:My ex boyfriend did that, too. Turned out he was still on the online dating sites, the entire time we were dating, looking for the next best thing. His new girlfriend is absolutely adorable but so young that he looks like her dad in pictures. I take solace in the fact that he wasn’t great in bed and didn’t like to go down... (which should have been my dealbreaker from the beginning). He was also a narcissist and very selfish.

Makes it easier to deal with when you focus on their flaws!

He's going down now on his sweet young thing.

Hopefully he doesn't have to listen to the "sweet young thing" talk after. He will lose more of his probably already low number of IQ points.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Happened to me in my 20s, and it stunned me. I thought we were magical together and then he just cut me off with no warning. I missed him so much. 15 years have passed, I’m married with a family, and he never married. Just offering empathy, bc after all this time I remember the pain. But as PPs have said, he was not who I though he was, so I was in love with just a fantasy. hugs.

So many of my exes wanted me back after I moved on. They love a challenge. Never give too much of yourself. That is what I learned and now am happily married.

Yes, he wanted me back after I moved out of state and moved on. He contacted me even after I got engaged, and again after my first child was born, wanting to meet while he was in town for business.

Anonymous wrote:[OP] Thank you, PP. I am so sad. Wish I hadn't gone down this path. I will miss him immensely.

What do you mean by this OP? Where there any red flags that you ignored?

Years ago I was ghosted and my reaction was WTF! Now when I want out I simply say why.

It happened to me with a college boyfriend. He ghosted me after a two year relationship, we were even talking marriage. When we finally spoke and I told him that the way he ended things was not acceptable, he mentioned a discussion we had when had just started dating, he told me that he had warned me that I would know/ he would make it obvious when he would want to breakup.

It took me a year to completely forget about him because I loved him and we had friends in common. He finally came back and proposed on our first meeting since the breakup and I said no. Shortly after that, I got engaged and married a wonderful men.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Happened to me in my 20s, and it stunned me. I thought we were magical together and then he just cut me off with no warning. I missed him so much. 15 years have passed, I’m married with a family, and he never married. Just offering empathy, bc after all this time I remember the pain. But as PPs have said, he was not who I though he was, so I was in love with just a fantasy. hugs.

So many of my exes wanted me back after I moved on. They love a challenge. Never give too much of yourself. That is what I learned and now am happily married.

Anonymous wrote:After 9 months of dating someone with great chemistry and physical compatibility, we appear to be through. He is ghosting, big time. This hurts so much. We are both middle-aged, intelligent, generally fit people with a lot in common. Just...hell, I have no idea what happened.

Anyone care to offer words of support and encouragement? I could really use some right now.

You gave him too much of yourself. Shut him out completely and next time, don't put men on a pedestal.

Sorry, OP. Happened to me in my 20s, and it stunned me. I thought we were magical together and then he just cut me off with no warning. I missed him so much. 15 years have passed, I’m married with a family, and he never married. Just offering empathy, bc after all this time I remember the pain. But as PPs have said, he was not who I though he was, so I was in love with just a fantasy. hugs.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been ghosted a dozen times by women from OLD. Enough times that I don't feel a bit bad doing it myself. Thinking about doing it with the girl I'm seeing now.

Why do men do it? Because we can. I'm 52, divorced, and can easily get a date for every day of the week (some of them in their 20s).

If you want to be with ugly chicks in their twenties go for it. They enjoy taking your money.

They aren't ugly (or fat) and they aren't into my money.

When I was a young man in my early 20s, at least two of my friends were dating men 20+ years older than them. One of the women was a solid 9, the other was a 6 (and she's actually hotter now). I didn't think it strange that they were dating, or living with, men 25 years older than them.

When I was in my early 20s I dated some older men and it was fun and that is fine, but you don't sound like a good person.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been ghosted a dozen times by women from OLD. Enough times that I don't feel a bit bad doing it myself. Thinking about doing it with the girl I'm seeing now.

Why do men do it? Because we can. I'm 52, divorced, and can easily get a date for every day of the week (some of them in their 20s).

If you want to be with ugly chicks in their twenties go for it. They enjoy taking your money.

They aren't ugly (or fat) and they aren't into my money.

When I was a young man in my early 20s, at least two of my friends were dating men 20+ years older than them. One of the women was a solid 9, the other was a 6 (and she's actually hotter now). I didn't think it strange that they were dating, or living with, men 25 years older than them.

OMG dude. This thread isn't about you. And the more you write the more pathetic you sound.

Op, I'm sorry you are sad. You've gotten some pretty good advice. I hope you find peace soon.

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Anonymous wrote:My fellow ladies - the lesson is the same whether you are 18, 25, or 43 - do not give up the goods. You will feel used once he leaves you. Wait for a man that is willing to wait for you. They exist!

Maybe women truly enjoy sex and don't think of it as being used.

Someone said it so well: the more sex romps the ladies of the Sex and the City had the more they were miserable.

So, ladies, be smart - you control the sex in relationship - withheld it until the right man comes. This means controlling your own sexual urges. Yes, it's old fashioned. If you want to be respected and loved you will have to do it. There is no other way around it.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been ghosted a dozen times by women from OLD. Enough times that I don't feel a bit bad doing it myself. Thinking about doing it with the girl I'm seeing now.

Why do men do it? Because we can. I'm 52, divorced, and can easily get a date for every day of the week (some of them in their 20s).

If you want to be with ugly chicks in their twenties go for it. They enjoy taking your money.

They aren't ugly (or fat) and they aren't into my money.

When I was a young man in my early 20s, at least two of my friends were dating men 20+ years older than them. One of the women was a solid 9, the other was a 6 (and she's actually hotter now). I didn't think it strange that they were dating, or living with, men 25 years older than them.

My guess he is married and his wife found out about you.

Sorry you are hurting but you’ll come to see you’re better without him.