Anonymous wrote:Everyone with eyes and a brain can tell that you’re not interested in this girl. Cut her loose.

You can not be over someone and still be interested in someone new.

Everyone with eyes and a brain can tell that you’re not interested in this girl. Cut her loose.

I don't understand the jealousy game that people play with each other. When a guy tries to engage me in this behaviour, I opt out. He can have all of the p-$$y in the world, but I am not a part of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah the fact that you used snapchat to make her jealous means you probably shouldn't be dating anyone seriously until you grow up.

Wait how did he use it to make her jealous? He’s single, on a date, and ha job a good time so he wanted to post it (which is what snap chat is for). There’s nothing wrong with that.

Wait did you not read the OP?

Congrats OP it’s a liberating feeling to move on. 26 is a wonderful age to figure out what you want and don’t want. Ignore the people on this thread, you have nothing to feel bad about it. One more thing you’ll learn at this age, don’t let others dictate your love life and never feel bad about moving on, drama is not love.

Anonymous wrote:What a difference a week makes OP!

A week ago, you texted the ex letting her know how tough the break-up was for you.
Then a week later you claim to have “moved on” completely from her after going on just ONE dinner date.

You have not truly moved on.
Reason being is that you wanted to intentionally make your ex jealous which speaks volumes in itself.

It sounds like you are trying to take a shortcut on your way to healing & trust me on this....
It will definitely end up blowing up in your face!

If you truly want to get over your ex, you will cease all contact w/her while at the same time stop trying to find little ways to make her jealous.

Only then, can you truly move on + away.

Good luck!

Good post! It’ll definitely blow up in his face, then adding karma to how he’s intentionally hurting the ex that he still really cares about. From reading the thread I get the feeling OP isn’t doing this as a shortcut to get over the pain. Instead, he’s doing it because he still wants the ex but he’s just hurt. A shortcut to pain would’ve been the date, but still engaging with her, and stilll looking at her Snapchat. What I know of Snapchat is it tells you who has viewed your posts. Almost like OP still wants his ex to say ‘hey I’m still out here!’. Just seems odd to still look at her posts after telling her to pretty much stay out of your business.

Part of healing is taking the time to acknowledge and accept whatever feelings you have and working through them. If you’re angry with her but still want to be with her (puttiing all my money that’s this is the case) then you to acknowledge that feeling.

What a difference a week makes OP!

A week ago, you texted the ex letting her know how tough the break-up was for you.
Then a week later you claim to have “moved on” completely from her after going on just ONE dinner date.

You have not truly moved on.
Reason being is that you wanted to intentionally make your ex jealous which speaks volumes in itself.

It sounds like you are trying to take a shortcut on your way to healing & trust me on this....
It will definitely end up blowing up in your face!

If you truly want to get over your ex, you will cease all contact w/her while at the same time stop trying to find little ways to make her jealous.

Only then, can you truly move on + away.

Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a son your age who just went through a nasty break up. They had been together 7 years. She cheated. It has been really hard on him. I don't think you are a jerk. I think you are human. I don't blame you at all for posting the picture. I would caution you to avoid getting caught up in hurting your ex or making her jealous. A little of that is normal after a breakup, but it's not a place you want to stay.

I know it hurts. But most people look back on things like this and realize that they dodged a bullet.

You seem to have a very different view on things. If OP turned her away when she tried to reconcile, saying he’s happy and moved on (which I don’t believe ), then why is he trying to hurt his ex?

Breaking News: Life is complicated and you know nothing about their relationship. There are thousand reasons about not wanting to get back with someone who left you even if you are still in love with that person.

Relax it was just a question.

Yes you are right, but bombarding the girl with messages after he turned her away, then saying this is hard for me, then trying to make her jealous, still responding to her, and still looking at her social media doesn’t point to someone who doesn’t want to be their ex. That sounds like someone who is hurt and wants to punish at the moment but still wants to be with the ex.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a son your age who just went through a nasty break up. They had been together 7 years. She cheated. It has been really hard on him. I don't think you are a jerk. I think you are human. I don't blame you at all for posting the picture. I would caution you to avoid getting caught up in hurting your ex or making her jealous. A little of that is normal after a breakup, but it's not a place you want to stay.

I know it hurts. But most people look back on things like this and realize that they dodged a bullet.

You seem to have a very different view on things. If OP turned her away when she tried to reconcile, saying he’s happy and moved on (which I don’t believe ), then why is he trying to hurt his ex?

Breaking News: Life is complicated and you know nothing about their relationship. There are thousand reasons about not wanting to get back with someone who left you even if you are still in love with that person.

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Anonymous wrote:Those that are calling OP a jerk are old, bitter hags. You were once young weren't you? You made mistakes, didn't you? What gives you a right to judge? OP might be immature but so were you. It's called being young. You are jealous of his youth and carefree life.

- A 41-year-old woman

We know he’s young, but doesn’t excuse his behavior. Doing anything to intentionally hurt someone is a terrible thing to do to someone . He tried to hurt her and succeeded. That’s being a jerk.

Have you ever been left by someone you were in love with, little judgmental Miss Perfect?
Because he has, he is still suffering from the break up and he is not the only one who will be tempted to make his ex jealous.
Nobody has the details of the break up but everyone is so quick to call him a jerk. I know you are all perfect human beings but give this poor kid a break.
And the ex who broke his heart did not have to look at his social media in the first place. It is not like he sent her an email or was invading her private space.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a son your age who just went through a nasty break up. They had been together 7 years. She cheated. It has been really hard on him. I don't think you are a jerk. I think you are human. I don't blame you at all for posting the picture. I would caution you to avoid getting caught up in hurting your ex or making her jealous. A little of that is normal after a breakup, but it's not a place you want to stay.

I know it hurts. But most people look back on things like this and realize that they dodged a bullet.

You seem to have a very different view on things. If OP turned her away when she tried to reconcile, saying he’s happy and moved on (which I don’t believe ), then why is he trying to hurt his ex?

OP, I have a son your age who just went through a nasty break up. They had been together 7 years. She cheated. It has been really hard on him. I don't think you are a jerk. I think you are human. I don't blame you at all for posting the picture. I would caution you to avoid getting caught up in hurting your ex or making her jealous. A little of that is normal after a breakup, but it's not a place you want to stay.

I know it hurts. But most people look back on things like this and realize that they dodged a bullet.

Anonymous wrote:Those that are calling OP a jerk are old, bitter hags. You were once young weren't you? You made mistakes, didn't you? What gives you a right to judge? OP might be immature but so were you. It's called being young. You are jealous of his youth and carefree life.

- A 41-year-old woman

We know he’s young, but doesn’t excuse his behavior. Doing anything to intentionally hurt someone is a terrible thing to do to someone . He tried to hurt her and succeeded. That’s being a jerk.

Those that are calling OP a jerk are old, bitter hags. You were once young weren't you? You made mistakes, didn't you? What gives you a right to judge? OP might be immature but so were you. It's called being young. You are jealous of his youth and carefree life.

- A 41-year-old woman

You are a jerk. I may be the only one thinking this but it’s clear you still want to be with her.

You’re going to regret what you’ve done.