Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 22:34     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
If you want your kid to confident and self-assured relative to their age, and to avoid silly issues, then get your kid active and involved in activities. Sports, art, church, scouts, music, dance , volunteer work, etc. . .

A kid with other friend groups can blow by lots of petty crap.

Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 22:14     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is typical, and unfortunately it gets worse until college or young adulthood. This is why most of my friends were guys in high school.


So the idea that girls are all drama and social games, and guys are straightforward no-drama types, is actually sexism. If you couldn't find any girls in high school who didn't play social games, that says something about you, not about girls.


It doesn't really. And just because someone observes typical characteristics doesn't mean she's wrong or sexist. Girls are INCREDIBLY mean at this age and full of drama. Of course guys do but, I agree with this PP, it tends to be a much smaller number.

Not sure why you're so upset about that.


Some girls are. Some girls aren't.

See above, about sexism.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 22:14     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Sad!
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 22:10     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is typical, and unfortunately it gets worse until college or young adulthood. This is why most of my friends were guys in high school.


So the idea that girls are all drama and social games, and guys are straightforward no-drama types, is actually sexism. If you couldn't find any girls in high school who didn't play social games, that says something about you, not about girls.


It doesn't really. And just because someone observes typical characteristics doesn't mean she's wrong or sexist. Girls are INCREDIBLY mean at this age and full of drama. Of course guys do but, I agree with this PP, it tends to be a much smaller number.

Not sure why you're so upset about that.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:53     Subject: Re:5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:This is a tough time OP - I second the Queen Bees and Wannabes Book - it has lots of great practical advice. I would also talk to your daughter about finding true friends and not getting caught up in the drama. The kids that manage to navigate tween drama best seem to lay low and not get involved/react to the nonsense. Hang in there - it does get better.


I second this. The way to stay out of the drama is to stay out of the drama.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:53     Subject: Re:5th grade girls - is this typical?
Yep, DD told me that a group of popular girls told DD's best friend that she could hang out with them if she lost weight because she was too fat right now
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:52     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:This is typical, and unfortunately it gets worse until college or young adulthood. This is why most of my friends were guys in high school.


So the idea that girls are all drama and social games, and guys are straightforward no-drama types, is actually sexism. If you couldn't find any girls in high school who didn't play social games, that says something about you, not about girls.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:52     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:Yup, this shit happends in 5th grade. Gets better by 10th.


Not necessarily. My 11th grader has had a small close knit group of friends since elementary. There has been zero drama until now. Her two closest friends are now trying to get in with the "popular" crowd, and keep ditching her. It sucks. And all there is to do is wait for everybody to grow the hell up. Unfortunately, some never do.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:49     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
This is typical, and unfortunately it gets worse until college or young adulthood. This is why most of my friends were guys in high school.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:44     Subject: Re:5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:This is a tough time OP - I second the Queen Bees and Wannabes Book - it has lots of great practical advice. I would also talk to your daughter about finding true friends and not getting caught up in the drama. The kids that manage to navigate tween drama best seem to lay low and not get involved/react to the nonsense. Hang in there - it does get better.


If I could put in a heart emoji, I would Thank you.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:37     Subject: Re:5th grade girls - is this typical?
This is a tough time OP - I second the Queen Bees and Wannabes Book - it has lots of great practical advice. I would also talk to your daughter about finding true friends and not getting caught up in the drama. The kids that manage to navigate tween drama best seem to lay low and not get involved/react to the nonsense. Hang in there - it does get better.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:13     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:Yup, this shit happends in 5th grade. Gets better by 10th.


That's 5 years.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 20:13     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Anonymous wrote:I was just reading this thread and then my 5th grader came home and was crying because three of her closest friends went home together and she wasn’t invited. So sad.


I'm sorry. It's getting really weird in 5th. I hope my daughter is weathering it and I am actually looking forward to next year when the pool of fish gets bigger. As much a I want to call out the kids being jerks, I know it won't help my DD and I need to wait for this to pass.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 19:22     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
I was just reading this thread and then my 5th grader came home and was crying because three of her closest friends went home together and she wasn’t invited. So sad.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2017 19:06     Subject: 5th grade girls - is this typical?
Yup, this shit happends in 5th grade. Gets better by 10th.