Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you get upset when your ex remarried?

I've been divorced 7 years. She filed for the divorce. I Met someone a couple years ago and recently got remarried. My ex went bonkers. She has been saying really bad things about me to the kids and preventing me from spending time with them. She filed a law suit and served me papers days prior to the wedding wanting more child support and alleging all sort of things. The situation has gotten bad with the kids. They are not handling the stress very well.

1. If you asked for the divorce and then got it why get so upset when your partner moved on?
2. What did it take for you to move on yourself?
3. Have any of you done this to your ex husband and got taken to task in court?

She is denying you court ordered visitation with them??

OP here: yes she is. I've asked for help from the police and the court. The response form the police is get a court order enforcing the original court order you already have. The courts response is "you don't want to have the police escort your kids to your car... work towards reunification" At least that is what happened this week when we went to court.

For those questioning my child support payments, there are no issues on my side. She; however, has misappropriated over 100K in child support money by putting it directly into her retirement account over the last 6 years.

Nobody is really seeing what she really is or what she is really doing. She lied in her pleading and got caught. The judge gave her the option of amending her pleading so that she is no longer committing perjury. It wasn't a small omission or mistake. It was a flat out lie. That lie is the foundation for a whole lot of the problems right now.

I've come to believe she is unstable and that she is upset that it looks like my life is happy now and that I'm moving on. I think she wants to inject herself into my life and ruin things.

Anonymous wrote:Why did you get upset when your ex remarried?

I've been divorced 7 years. She filed for the divorce. I Met someone a couple years ago and recently got remarried. My ex went bonkers. She has been saying really bad things about me to the kids and preventing me from spending time with them. She filed a law suit and served me papers days prior to the wedding wanting more child support and alleging all sort of things. The situation has gotten bad with the kids. They are not handling the stress very well.

1. If you asked for the divorce and then got it why get so upset when your partner moved on?
2. What did it take for you to move on yourself?
3. Have any of you done this to your ex husband and got taken to task in court?

She is denying you court ordered visitation with them??

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All my friends took about 2 years to get over the divorce.

If you W is unhappy about the marriage it is because your new wife is mean to your children behind your back or you are just too stupid to see it.

I am not saying this is never the reason for an ex wife to be unhappy, but this is definitely not the norm!!!

Actually, men moving on and leaving their children behind is the norm.

Anonymous wrote:Because sometimes the new wife is unkind to the children or comes between them and their father. Or has more kids and then the man is not able to adequately parent them all or hold up his end of the deal logistically. And it's just another person to deal with. You are disrupting the established arrangement and nobody knows whether it will be better or worse for the kids.

+1

It doesn't make it right of her, but OP it's not about jealousy, don't flatter yourself. It's 100% about $$$$.

My former stepmom did this. She initiated the divorce and she was dating and remarried first, but she still pulled all kinds of sh*t afterward. I think it really bugged her that despite all my dad's perceived flaws, he could move on from her and have a happy marriage. She's just not a happy person - we've all long suspected that she is at the very least dysthymic and possibly bipolar.

Anonymous wrote:God Jeff should just start a new MRA forum and be done with it.

which would pale in comparison to the misandrists' forum

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have been less than 100% perfect about child support and parenting issues, you have only yourself to blame.

She is trying to lock in a higher amount to make sure she still gets enough after you have more kids. It happens a lot and she is not crazy for doing it. You should have expected this.

If she gets enough money from him now, she will still get enough after he has more kids. If he has more kids, he will have less "surplus" money. It is totally crazy for her to ask for more money for this reason.

What if he doesn't even make enough for the kids he has?

Then its his problem if he chooses to have more kids.

God Jeff should just start a new MRA forum and be done with it.

I have BPD, I'm the one who walked out, and I was very happy when my ex got married, because he finally left me alone and quit begging for me to take him back. When I'm done, I'm done. I never go backward, only forward. I've never? understood people who are angry when an ex remarries. They're in your past. You're supposed to be looking toward the future.

newsflash....women are batsh*t crazy

Anonymous wrote:For a friend of mine I think it was because her ex was no longer miserable like he was when they divorced.

She was no longer.... in control. He had someone else on his side. She didn't want him, she wanted him to be miserable as long as possible.

+1. I'm pretty sure my co worker genuinely thought he'd be crying and pining for her for years. Since she "taught him a lesson" by leaving him. Instead, he moved on with an awesome woman and seems happy and and the kids seem happy. Meanwhile, my friend is still single. And constantly taking him to court over dumb stuff. It's pretty sad really.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://local.theonion.com/new-mommy-a-lot-prettier-1819565481

This was obviously written by an ex wife. To say the only reason why the children "love" their step mother is because she has no rules? As a stepmother, this is offensive. Maybe you should spend less time hating your ex's new spouse and more time focusing on the wellbeing of your children.

It was written by a team of comedy writers at a satirical fake newspaper.

Anonymous wrote:All my friends took about 2 years to get over the divorce.

If you W is unhappy about the marriage it is because your new wife is mean to your children behind your back or you are just too stupid to see it.

I am not saying this is never the reason for an ex wife to be unhappy, but this is definitely not the norm!!!

Anonymous wrote:https://local.theonion.com/new-mommy-a-lot-prettier-1819565481

This was obviously written by an ex wife. To say the only reason why the children "love" their step mother is because she has no rules? As a stepmother, this is offensive. Maybe you should spend less time hating your ex's new spouse and more time focusing on the wellbeing of your children.

All my friends took about 2 years to get over the divorce.

If you W is unhappy about the marriage it is because your new wife is mean to your children behind your back or you are just too stupid to see it.