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Anonymous wrote:There are many cultures here and people have different opinions of what is good and bad behavior. Who calls any kid a "monster kid" anyway?

Parents of precious smowflakes who can do no wrong in mom’s Eyes. But guess what? Sometimes these special snowflakes who have parents who are so quick to disparage other kids. And call other kids monsters, are parenting some of the biggest jerks in the school.

I think people who take to anonymous Internet forums to opaquely slam other parents and cast aspersions and generalize are bigger jerks, TBH. OP sounds like a real, smug peach.

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Anonymous wrote:The monster kids I know in upper elementary have parents who are too busy with their phone to look up at their kid. They are either "doing something important" or posting more pics of parties. Their kids notice that mom & dad don't pay attention.

+1. Or standing around gossiping in a circle while their kids run through neighbors' yards and trample fragile flower beds, break pinwheels and other yard items and break branches off trees. Then these moms get upset with the homeowner for telling the kids to get out of their yard.

Loose the tacky pinwheeels please

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I don't see parents justifying bad behavior so much as being completely oblivious to it.

-N.Arlington Dweller

Good point. And, when their child is bullied, they refuse to acknowledge that their child might also be a bully.

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Anonymous wrote:The monster kids I know in upper elementary have parents who are too busy with their phone to look up at their kid. They are either "doing something important" or posting more pics of parties. Their kids notice that mom & dad don't pay attention.

+1. Or standing around gossiping in a circle while their kids run through neighbors' yards and trample fragile flower beds, break pinwheels and other yard items and break branches off trees. Then these moms get upset with the homeowner for telling the kids to get out of their yard.

Anonymous wrote:The monster kids I know in upper elementary have parents who are too busy with their phone to look up at their kid. They are either "doing something important" or posting more pics of parties. Their kids notice that mom & dad don't pay attention.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s N Arlington for you! The only thing you can do is treach your children right from wrong and maybe get out of your neighborhood more!

Can't be North Arlington as OP says grades were still 1-4 in late elementary. Arlington is handing out letter grades starting in third.

Dp- it’s still true of n. Arl. It’s the worst combo of quasi crunchy, yet entitled. It’s truly the worst.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s N Arlington for you! The only thing you can do is treach your children right from wrong and maybe get out of your neighborhood more!

Can't be North Arlington as OP says grades were still 1-4 in late elementary. Arlington is handing out letter grades starting in third.

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Anonymous wrote:There are many cultures here and people have different opinions of what is good and bad behavior. Who calls any kid a "monster kid" anyway?

Parents of precious smowflakes who can do no wrong in mom’s Eyes. But guess what? Sometimes these special snowflakes who have parents who are so quick to disparage other kids. And call other kids monsters, are parenting some of the biggest jerks in the school.

I think people who take to anonymous Internet forums to opaquely slam other parents and cast aspersions and generalize are bigger jerks, TBH. OP sounds like a real, smug peach.

Anonymous wrote:That’s N Arlington for you! The only thing you can do is treach your children right from wrong and maybe get out of your neighborhood more!

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Anonymous wrote:There are many cultures here and people have different opinions of what is good and bad behavior. Who calls any kid a "monster kid" anyway?

Parents of precious smowflakes who can do no wrong in mom’s Eyes. But guess what? Sometimes these special snowflakes who have parents who are so quick to disparage other kids. And call other kids monsters, are parenting some of the biggest jerks in the school.

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I agree with PP. No child of Tiger parents I know has ever been unpleasant to me or my kids. Actually they're the better-behaved ones, because their parents make sure they are.

The bratty kids that I know are the ones running around with no supervision, or the singletons whose parents give in to their every whim.

Of course, I can only tell of my own experience (in Bethesda, MD), so it's all anecdotal!

I totally disagree with this. The tiger parents I know--affluent suburb as well--are concerned with success in school/music/sports and that's it--not character. In other ways, they seem to totally spoil their kids, baby them, let them run totally wild, and treat them like their opinions and whims are of more value than those of adults. I have seen these parents applaud disrespectful behavior as "independent." Like when the kids talk back to adults, they are praised for making themselves heard and for voicing strong opinions. I agree with OP and cannot stand it.

I will admit that I am surprised that these same parents, who let shocking things go behavior-wise, are extremely tough when it comes to academics. I suppose it's better to be strict about something than nothing. But I am very turned off by this trend.

Anonymous wrote:There are many cultures here and people have different opinions of what is good and bad behavior. Who calls any kid a "monster kid" anyway?

Anonymous wrote:OP— everyone has anticdotes. Some of the nicest, kindest most accepting, most supportive kids I know are my DC1’s friends at TJ. DC2 is applying this year, and I don’t see much difference between her friends who are applying and those that are not. Almost all of them are good, kind kids who were raised well. But my kids have great friends.

I do know that TJ has low incidences of bullying and cyber bullying (and substance abuse). And that I have heard of some terrible instances of bullying in the base high schools from parents of the kids being bullied. A freshman girl who started receiving dick pics from a group of boys due to an organized effort to harass her. It got so bad she started refusing to go to school. Her parents have had to involve the police. Another girls who is fit and active but large boned. A group of girls has been standing behind her in the cafeteria every day, and writing down every mouthful of food she eats, telling he how many calories it has, and distributing her food log too the school hallways Both girls are incredibly nice, kind people and are not “asking for” this treatment. But base school kids are dishing it out. And I would never say that isolated problems hear about mean all the kids in these schools are bullies.

Maybe you should realize that the handful of parents you know who cannot be bothered to raise kids properly are not indicative of all, or even most, TJ kids. And that some (but not most or all) base school kids can little sh*ts who treat other people terribly. Certainly you know better than to generalize to an entire group of thousands of kids based on a handful you know?

And PP is right. The fact you are willing to slam all AAP or TJ kids, or all kids in families that prioritize academics makes me wonder exactly what you are teaching your kids about acceptance and tolerance and not being judgmental. Character does indeed count. But in my mind, people of character don’t judge an entire group based on the actions of a few families. Is that the character you teach your kid?