Anonymous
10/23/2017 20:07
Subject: Do You Consider this Harrassment?
Anonymous wrote:You tell the person directly you consider it harassment don't do it again or I will report you.
If he does tell immediate boss and demand he formerly confronts him or you will go to HR
If he does it again go to HR
If it still happens dig in and sue, quit and sue, go on disability due to issue or just get new job and let it go.
Or agree to meet him for drinks and invite his wife and watch the show.
i agree with the first part of this advise. Tell him direct!y that it makes you uncomfortable and it is sexual harassment. Tell him you're writing down his inappropriate comments (and do it). Ideally tell him this in front of colleagues.
Anonymous
10/23/2017 20:01
Subject: Do You Consider this Harrassment?
Anonymous wrote:First, document. Keep a journal with objective, specific details about every inappropriate encounter -- sounds like you could put together a long list in about a week.
For each instance, include the date, time, location, who was present, what was said/done, and how you responded. I suggest that you only say one thing: "Please stop. You are making me uncomfortable." Nothing cute -- calling him "Harvey" sounds almost flirty. Say the same thing every time he acts inappropriately and he will start to get the idea.
Once you have a nice long list, write an email with the subject line: "Official complaint of sexual harassment." See this link for a template https://www.thebalance.com/how-to-formally-complain-about-harassment-at-work-1919091
Send the email to everyone you think needs to read it and copy yourself. If they don't respond to that, your next call should be to a lawyer.
This is the best advice here. Since you have hr people who don’t know what they are doing, the trick is to make it sufficiently formal that they understand they need to run it by their legal counsel. Also include reference to your previous complaints and how they haven’t successes in making the man change his behavior. You could even say something like “If you are not the correct person to handle an official complaint of sexual harassment, please give me the contact information for the company’s general counsel so I can reach out to him or her to discuss this issue.” That usually gets their attention.