Anonymous
10/22/2017 07:03
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
high SES parts of the DC area skew towards older parents (who put off childrearing to establish their careers, etc). so, you may be on the younger side here but quite the opposite in other parts of the country.
still, you're hardly a unicorn around here. plenty of people have kids in their early 30s and late 20s. if people comment on your age, they probably think you look younger than you are!
still, you're hardly a unicorn around here. plenty of people have kids in their early 30s and late 20s. if people comment on your age, they probably think you look younger than you are!
Anonymous
10/22/2017 06:47
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
I'm almost 40 and DH almost 48, and we have a preschooler (4.5). DH will turn 60 when she's 17.
It really is noticeable at her preschool, where we are NOT among the oldest parents-- I am actually probably within the younger third of moms. Between this year and last, I can't say there were any moms under 30, maybe 5-10% were even under 35. Most moms late 30s to late 40s, which means they will be about 50-60 when their kids are graduating. We have SEVERAL dads in their 50s and 60s NOW, with 2-5-year-olds.
This is DC proper, not wealthy, but a certain demographic. The DC area in general (and I grew up in upper MoCo) is much more highly educated than average America. No snobbery, there's just a strong correlation between higher ed and later kids. What's BS is then making assumptions about young-- and worse, young-looking-- parents.
It really is noticeable at her preschool, where we are NOT among the oldest parents-- I am actually probably within the younger third of moms. Between this year and last, I can't say there were any moms under 30, maybe 5-10% were even under 35. Most moms late 30s to late 40s, which means they will be about 50-60 when their kids are graduating. We have SEVERAL dads in their 50s and 60s NOW, with 2-5-year-olds.
This is DC proper, not wealthy, but a certain demographic. The DC area in general (and I grew up in upper MoCo) is much more highly educated than average America. No snobbery, there's just a strong correlation between higher ed and later kids. What's BS is then making assumptions about young-- and worse, young-looking-- parents.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 23:26
Subject: Re:Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:DH 58, I am 55 with 17 and 10 yr old. DH will be almost 70 (68) when younger DD graduates and I'll be 65!
I’ll also be 65 when our yougest graduates high school. My DH will be 70.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 22:32
Subject: Re:Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
DH 58, I am 55 with 17 and 10 yr old. DH will be almost 70 (68) when younger DD graduates and I'll be 65!
Anonymous
10/21/2017 22:02
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
At 47, we have a freshman high school, 6th graders, and Kinder. We had done secondary infertility so that is how we are space out.
So we will be late 50s at 3rd graduation!
So we will be late 50s at 3rd graduation!
Anonymous
10/21/2017 21:48
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am asking because I always feel out of place at DD's events, school and her school sport. I just found out that most of the moms of 16, 17 year olds that are her friends are in the 55-60 age range and they think I am way too young to have a junior DD. I have an older child too. I am in my mid 40s. This is so awkward, I am told I look younger, but I thought that is just small talk. I am not imagining it either, I thought it is bcs I am an immigrant, and that might have something to do with it, but the age thing I just found out. I think I am an older mom, and they think I am a spring chicken. Is this the norm here? I don't really care to fit, but I am curious about the age thing.
You are just noticing this now??? I noticed that I was way younger when I walked into kindergarten.
We lived overseas for a long while before moving here.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 21:25
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
I am 57 and DH is 65, our now fifteen year old is happily away from her senior citizen parents at boarding school. Most of her friends grandparents are younger than my DH.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 21:23
Subject: Re:Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
DH 62, and I am 56. Our kids are 20 and 17.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 21:21
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
My kids have friends with parents 15 years older than me and others that are 10 years younger than me. It really doesn't seem to matter. We are all going thru the same stuff with our kids right now so the age thing doesn't seem to make a difference.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 21:19
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:I am asking because I always feel out of place at DD's events, school and her school sport. I just found out that most of the moms of 16, 17 year olds that are her friends are in the 55-60 age range and they think I am way too young to have a junior DD. I have an older child too. I am in my mid 40s. This is so awkward, I am told I look younger, but I thought that is just small talk. I am not imagining it either, I thought it is bcs I am an immigrant, and that might have something to do with it, but the age thing I just found out. I think I am an older mom, and they think I am a spring chicken. Is this the norm here? I don't really care to fit, but I am curious about the age thing.
You are just noticing this now??? I noticed that I was way younger when I walked into kindergarten.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 21:16
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
It never occurs to me to wonder how old other parents are. OP, nobody cares how old or young you are.
--51 y.o with kids who are 19 and 14
--51 y.o with kids who are 19 and 14
Anonymous
10/21/2017 16:23
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. thank you for all the replies. So, it is not that usual for this area after all? I actually think some older parents than me seem to have more energy and are really into lunches and dinners and sport events for their teens. I think maybe sometimes people don't actually really look at other people and might get the impression that I am younger, I have my dark hair natural, few grays, but unnoticeable. (and just on dcum I will admit that I had botox done last summer)Though, if they do think I am younger, I honestly don't feel like I am or look younger. Most of the days, I barely have enough energy to go to these sport events and dinners. But, since there are so many of these, it would be nice if I kind of had a few parents to gravitate to. They certainly are very involved but in a good way. They are all very nice and polite, but not chatty with me. BTW, I am not a grouchy, negative European type at all. I actually dislike those exact behaviors when I go back for a visit. But, anyway, this was more me putting my thoughts on "paper" here, so to say.
I am one of the PP's who is over 50 with a young child. I just want you to know that I am always happy to talk to people and enjoy meeting other parents at games and dinners and events. However, in addition to the young child you know, I have a full-time job, I am a "sandwich" with elderly parents and kids, and we have kids in college. It is all I can do right now to keep my balls in the air and not drop any. So don't think that I'm not inviting you to lunch because I don't like you. I'm not inviting you to lunch because I don't have time to eat lunch. Talk to me in 10 years.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 15:23
Subject: Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
I'm early 50's now and I'll be 55 by the time my youngest graduates from HS.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 15:15
Subject: Re:Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
By the time I'm 50 my youngest will be 20. Don't worry about age.
Anonymous
10/21/2017 15:06
Subject: Re:Are you almost 60 and have a teen? How many people are over 55 with a teen on DCUM?
I am 42 with 16,14,and 12 year olds. I don't feel particularly young although I think I am in on the younger side as compared to the kids friends