Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:46
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Every once in a while, I read threads like this and I feel like taking my husband up on his offer for me to stay home.
And then I think of all the former stay-at-home moms I know who got divorced, often not due to their own choice, and are now in very tough positions. I also think of those I know who are still married and miserable and trapped. I also know a couple whose husbands lost their jobs and who are now in very bad economic situations. In case it is not obvious, I am from an area with very privileged stay-at-home moms. Seeing what happens to the majority keeps me working.
Same feeling here. Of course people with money don't feel bored. It's like partial retirement after about age 8. You have money to do things you want. The majority of SAHM's who aren't enjoying life are the ones without money.
We don't have a lot of money. At least not by dcum standards. My DH makes about 200,000 a year. Five kids. Two out of college. Two in college college. One high school senior. We are certainly not hurting. But we are far from wealthy. I'm pretty darn happy with my life. You don't need a lot of money to be happy. Just read dcum. Some of the unhappiest women in the country post here. And most have money.
Of course you are happy, you are quite a bit older than most of us and bought a house when they were DIRT cheap. Even if your DH made 1/2 of what he does now, you would be very very comfortable. I suspect not working has really kept you checked out on how life is most people. My impression is SAHM almost exclusively hang out with other SAHMs with kids about the same age. When you work, you interact with a much broader swath and age range.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:41
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
In the end we're all just taking up space until we're not anymore. You binches need to chill the f*ck out.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:40
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)
Not OP, but this was my day today:
I’m a SAHM with a SAC
Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.
Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.
Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.
Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.
I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.
I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.
When I asked the OP how she filled her day I did not hope for this kind of mundane minutae. I think I am just going to have to kill myself now, so bored.
Life IS mundane minutiae. A bunch of boring, routine moments with sprinkling of excitement. I know so many people who go to work every day thinking, I’m so bored; kill me now!
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:37
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Every once in a while, I read threads like this and I feel like taking my husband up on his offer for me to stay home.
And then I think of all the former stay-at-home moms I know who got divorced, often not due to their own choice, and are now in very tough positions. I also think of those I know who are still married and miserable and trapped. I also know a couple whose husbands lost their jobs and who are now in very bad economic situations. In case it is not obvious, I am from an area with very privileged stay-at-home moms. Seeing what happens to the majority keeps me working.
Same feeling here. Of course people with money don't feel bored. It's like partial retirement after about age 8. You have money to do things you want. The majority of SAHM's who aren't enjoying life are the ones without money.
We don't have a lot of money. At least not by dcum standards. My DH makes about 200,000 a year. Five kids. Two out of college. Two in college college. One high school senior. We are certainly not hurting. But we are far from wealthy. I'm pretty darn happy with my life. You don't need a lot of money to be happy. Just read dcum. Some of the unhappiest women in the country post here. And most have money.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:35
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)
Not OP, but this was my day today:
I’m a SAHM with a SAC
Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.
Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.
Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.
Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.
I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.
I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.
I know I should’t feed the troll, but I’ll bite.
I don’t feel I’m “just taking up space”, and that’s a pretty cruel thing to say to anyone. My husband doesn’t think I’m “just taking up space”, and neither does my DD. Most importantly, I feel very fulfilled in life. I don’t have to explain myself to you, but your comment is mean spirited and may be hurtful to someone else who may not be as contented or happy as me.
Ladies, you are not just taking up space. You serve an important purpose in your family, even if you are misunderstood by others. If you’re happy, good for you! If you aren’t happy or this wasn’t your choice and you feel trapped, I encourage you to find a niche in something meaningful to you.
Why can’t we all just accept others for what they are?
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:35
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Meant to say after kids get to be about age 7-8 and are in school all day without much hassle.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:31
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Every once in a while, I read threads like this and I feel like taking my husband up on his offer for me to stay home.
And then I think of all the former stay-at-home moms I know who got divorced, often not due to their own choice, and are now in very tough positions. I also think of those I know who are still married and miserable and trapped. I also know a couple whose husbands lost their jobs and who are now in very bad economic situations. In case it is not obvious, I am from an area with very privileged stay-at-home moms. Seeing what happens to the majority keeps me working.
Same feeling here. Of course people with money don't feel bored. It's like partial retirement after about age 8. You have money to do things you want. The majority of SAHM's who aren't enjoying life are the ones without money.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:30
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)
Not OP, but this was my day today:
I’m a SAHM with a SAC
Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.
Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.
Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.
Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.
I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.
I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.
When I asked the OP how she filled her day I did not hope for this kind of mundane minutae. I think I am just going to have to kill myself now, so bored.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:26
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Every once in a while, I read threads like this and I feel like taking my husband up on his offer for me to stay home.
And then I think of all the former stay-at-home moms I know who got divorced, often not due to their own choice, and are now in very tough positions. I also think of those I know who are still married and miserable and trapped. I also know a couple whose husbands lost their jobs and who are now in very bad economic situations. In case it is not obvious, I am from an area with very privileged stay-at-home moms. Seeing what happens to the majority keeps me working.
And then I think of all the former stay-at-home moms I know who got divorced, often not due to their own choice, and are now in very tough positions. I also think of those I know who are still married and miserable and trapped. I also know a couple whose husbands lost their jobs and who are now in very bad economic situations. In case it is not obvious, I am from an area with very privileged stay-at-home moms. Seeing what happens to the majority keeps me working.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:24
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
new SAHM here, I haven't bore in the 5 months I have been home, sometimes it actually feels like I don't have enough time.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:21
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)
Not OP, but this was my day today:
I’m a SAHM with a SAC
Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.
Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.
Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.
Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.
I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.
I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.
Took three whole pages for the really nasty poster to show up. You do understand that your comment says much more about you than it does the OP, right? Healthy, happy, secure people just don't say things like that.
If you say so.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:16
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
I've never been bored at home. Three kids close together made the early years busy and fun. I had a lot of family and SAHM friends nearby.
As they transitioned into ES I got certified to teach a variety of fitness classes. I play on a team competitively for a sport I enjoy. I see friends a lot, read a lot, and never watch TV.
As they transitioned into ES I got certified to teach a variety of fitness classes. I play on a team competitively for a sport I enjoy. I see friends a lot, read a lot, and never watch TV.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:12
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)
Not OP, but this was my day today:
I’m a SAHM with a SAC
Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.
Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.
Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.
Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.
I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.
I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.
Took three whole pages for the really nasty poster to show up. You do understand that your comment says much more about you than it does the OP, right? Healthy, happy, secure people just don't say things like that.
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:10
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
god the working moms on this site are such bitter b*tches
Anonymous
10/09/2017 21:09
Subject: Am I the only one who doesn't feel bored as a stay at home mom?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Okay op - tell us, how do you fill your days? (plus what is your highest educational degree level, if at all?)
Not OP, but this was my day today:
I’m a SAHM with a SAC
Got DD to the bus at 8:30. Came home, made beds and tidied up, and then went for a run. Got back, showered, sat down to have coffee and breakfast and catch up on some news and check emails, etc.
Turned on a podcast and cleaned the bathrooms. Put away some laundry. After that, I drove to pick up something I bought on a mom2mom site, went to the post office to throw some cards in the mail, then went to Costco.
Came home, put away the things from Costco, and then ate lunch. After lunch, I went outside and cleaned up some yard debris for garbage day tomorrow. I came inside, put on another podcast and prepped a casserole for dinner. I then cleaned the kitchen.
Next, I sat down to watch a 30min episode of a Netflix show, and then left for school pickup at 3:45.
I have a BA and I’m happier at home than I ever was at work. I’m never bored. I find ways to fill my day. Sometimes with mundane tasks, always with exercise, and always with either a book or some other literature, or interesting podcast.
I am beginning to understand why 30 years of this would make someone has unintelligent as my MIL. You are just taking up space.