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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

At 32 you are getting quite old to be so picky, especially if you want to procreate (you realize your eggs go downhill fast at 35, right? And freezing is not a great bet.). You must have waited too long to start your program (and, yes, guys can afford to wait longer, just look at George Clooney! But ladies, not so much, just a fact of biology.) you really should have met and married someone in your MBA program. Now those guys are happily dating and marrying 28 year old bright and perky Ivy League lawyers, although I'm sure they are happy to take you out as a favor to friends. Your odds are not getting more favorable, pretty soon you will find all the musical chairs are taken and you can't compete. $150K will be the least of your concerns. Most women I know in your shoes settled for wealthy divorcees with young kids around 35 or stayed single for life (They sometimes make better husbands though because they have learned from their mistakes.) Seems like you have a lot of reality to reconcile with though.

Eh. I started dating my "catch" DH when I was a bright and perky 28 year old, married at 30, first kid at 31. Marrying a wealthy guy and having kids really isn't all that great. In retrospect I wish I had spent more time on my career and myself, and put off marriage/kids until later. This life can be an unfulfilling one since DH's career will always come first, making it hard for me to have my own life. We can't develop our relationship much because he's always exhausted from work; it's too hard to meet both work's needs and my needs.

In my 30s, I haven't really found that men have less interest in me. Maybe fewer overall, but they seem to be of a much higher quality. They appreciate that older women don't have the insecurities and drama that younger women often bring to the table. And they aren't all old guys, many are in their 20s.

Hahahahahahaaj you have the dream life, your an idiot, hopefully he replaces you with a younger sweeter version

Sure, if your dream is essentially being an indentured servant.

This town sickens me.... it's power and money disgusts me! Focus on what matters and fame or wealth aren't even in my top 2.

Anonymous wrote:I was making $220k at 32 but would never share it with a greedy bitch like you. What are you bringing to the table besides a vagina?

Obviously a charming personality

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Anonymous wrote:How much money should a woman make?

The same?

Course, I've dated guys with fragile egos who can't handle smart/ high earning women.

Having $ = having resources to outsource = makes life easier, esp. with young children.

Or maybe it was just you?

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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

At 32 you are getting quite old to be so picky, especially if you want to procreate (you realize your eggs go downhill fast at 35, right? And freezing is not a great bet.). You must have waited too long to start your program (and, yes, guys can afford to wait longer, just look at George Clooney! But ladies, not so much, just a fact of biology.) you really should have met and married someone in your MBA program. Now those guys are happily dating and marrying 28 year old bright and perky Ivy League lawyers, although I'm sure they are happy to take you out as a favor to friends. Your odds are not getting more favorable, pretty soon you will find all the musical chairs are taken and you can't compete. $150K will be the least of your concerns. Most women I know in your shoes settled for wealthy divorcees with young kids around 35 or stayed single for life (They sometimes make better husbands though because they have learned from their mistakes.) Seems like you have a lot of reality to reconcile with though.

Eh. I started dating my "catch" DH when I was a bright and perky 28 year old, married at 30, first kid at 31. Marrying a wealthy guy and having kids really isn't all that great. In retrospect I wish I had spent more time on my career and myself, and put off marriage/kids until later. This life can be an unfulfilling one since DH's career will always come first, making it hard for me to have my own life. We can't develop our relationship much because he's always exhausted from work; it's too hard to meet both work's needs and my needs.

In my 30s, I haven't really found that men have less interest in me. Maybe fewer overall, but they seem to be of a much higher quality. They appreciate that older women don't have the insecurities and drama that younger women often bring to the table. And they aren't all old guys, many are in their 20s.

Hahahahahahaaj you have the dream life, your an idiot, hopefully he replaces you with a younger sweeter version

My ex was making $80k at 30. I recently turned 30, and I make $55k (public service job).

40 year old woman may make money but she can't make her own eggs, ohhhhhhhj

Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

His age minus $7K, MINIMUM!

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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

At 32 you are getting quite old to be so picky, especially if you want to procreate (you realize your eggs go downhill fast at 35, right? And freezing is not a great bet.). You must have waited too long to start your program (and, yes, guys can afford to wait longer, just look at George Clooney! But ladies, not so much, just a fact of biology.) you really should have met and married someone in your MBA program. Now those guys are happily dating and marrying 28 year old bright and perky Ivy League lawyers, although I'm sure they are happy to take you out as a favor to friends. Your odds are not getting more favorable, pretty soon you will find all the musical chairs are taken and you can't compete. $150K will be the least of your concerns. Most women I know in your shoes settled for wealthy divorcees with young kids around 35 or stayed single for life (They sometimes make better husbands though because they have learned from their mistakes.) Seems like you have a lot of reality to reconcile with though.

Eh. I started dating my "catch" DH when I was a bright and perky 28 year old, married at 30, first kid at 31. Marrying a wealthy guy and having kids really isn't all that great. In retrospect I wish I had spent more time on my career and myself, and put off marriage/kids until later. This life can be an unfulfilling one since DH's career will always come first, making it hard for me to have my own life. We can't develop our relationship much because he's always exhausted from work; it's too hard to meet both work's needs and my needs.

In my 30s, I haven't really found that men have less interest in me. Maybe fewer overall, but they seem to be of a much higher quality. They appreciate that older women don't have the insecurities and drama that younger women often bring to the table. And they aren't all old guys, many are in their 20s.

If your husband is a disengaged husband and father but makes a lot of money, he’s not really a “catch.”

That's her point.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

At 32 you are getting quite old to be so picky, especially if you want to procreate (you realize your eggs go downhill fast at 35, right? And freezing is not a great bet.). You must have waited too long to start your program (and, yes, guys can afford to wait longer, just look at George Clooney! But ladies, not so much, just a fact of biology.) you really should have met and married someone in your MBA program. Now those guys are happily dating and marrying 28 year old bright and perky Ivy League lawyers, although I'm sure they are happy to take you out as a favor to friends. Your odds are not getting more favorable, pretty soon you will find all the musical chairs are taken and you can't compete. $150K will be the least of your concerns. Most women I know in your shoes settled for wealthy divorcees with young kids around 35 or stayed single for life (They sometimes make better husbands though because they have learned from their mistakes.) Seems like you have a lot of reality to reconcile with though.

Eh. I started dating my "catch" DH when I was a bright and perky 28 year old, married at 30, first kid at 31. Marrying a wealthy guy and having kids really isn't all that great. In retrospect I wish I had spent more time on my career and myself, and put off marriage/kids until later. This life can be an unfulfilling one since DH's career will always come first, making it hard for me to have my own life. We can't develop our relationship much because he's always exhausted from work; it's too hard to meet both work's needs and my needs.

In my 30s, I haven't really found that men have less interest in me. Maybe fewer overall, but they seem to be of a much higher quality. They appreciate that older women don't have the insecurities and drama that younger women often bring to the table. And they aren't all old guys, many are in their 20s.

If your husband is a disengaged husband and father but makes a lot of money, he’s not really a “catch.”

In my 30s, I haven't really found that men have less interest in me. Maybe fewer overall, but they seem to be of a much higher quality. They appreciate that older women don't have the insecurities and drama that younger women often bring to the table. And they aren't all old guys, many are in their 20s.

So you feel validated when younger men so interest in you...how? At your age, you should be very aware that a man showing interest in having sex with you is very different than a man showing interest in having anything else with you (unless the 20 something guys are asking you to marry them.) Are you married now? If so, how are they approaching you to show interest?

OP - Worried about how much money a man should make before you select him for what exactly (what would he be a catch for)? To have sex with? To marry? My bet - you have banged your way through your MBA class and none of your partners stayed for breakfast (or to fill out the 10 year personal income projection matrix you wanted them to complete.) How about looking at something beyond money, like finding someone you care about and who cares about you?

For example, a solder might make a excellent partner for you except for the fact he does not make as much money as you think is needed. However, his sense of duty to his country and pride in what he does could be wonderful items for someone looking for a spouse. Sadly, we do not pay those who protect us well so if that is very important than this is not advice you can use.

Oh sweetie, you aren't super content if you're asking an anonymous forum how much a man should make. Sounds like maybe you went out with a guy who makes less than your arbitrary number and you're looking for justification to not be interested in him.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

At 32 you are getting quite old to be so picky, especially if you want to procreate (you realize your eggs go downhill fast at 35, right? And freezing is not a great bet.). You must have waited too long to start your program (and, yes, guys can afford to wait longer, just look at George Clooney! But ladies, not so much, just a fact of biology.) you really should have met and married someone in your MBA program. Now those guys are happily dating and marrying 28 year old bright and perky Ivy League lawyers, although I'm sure they are happy to take you out as a favor to friends. Your odds are not getting more favorable, pretty soon you will find all the musical chairs are taken and you can't compete. $150K will be the least of your concerns. Most women I know in your shoes settled for wealthy divorcees with young kids around 35 or stayed single for life (They sometimes make better husbands though because they have learned from their mistakes.) Seems like you have a lot of reality to reconcile with though.

Eh. I started dating my "catch" DH when I was a bright and perky 28 year old, married at 30, first kid at 31. Marrying a wealthy guy and having kids really isn't all that great. In retrospect I wish I had spent more time on my career and myself, and put off marriage/kids until later. This life can be an unfulfilling one since DH's career will always come first, making it hard for me to have my own life. We can't develop our relationship much because he's always exhausted from work; it's too hard to meet both work's needs and my needs.

In my 30s, I haven't really found that men have less interest in me. Maybe fewer overall, but they seem to be of a much higher quality. They appreciate that older women don't have the insecurities and drama that younger women often bring to the table. And they aren't all old guys, many are in their 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

At 32 you are getting quite old to be so picky, especially if you want to procreate (you realize your eggs go downhill fast at 35, right? And freezing is not a great bet.). You must have waited too long to start your program (and, yes, guys can afford to wait longer, just look at George Clooney! But ladies, not so much, just a fact of biology.) you really should have met and married someone in your MBA program. Now those guys are happily dating and marrying 28 year old bright and perky Ivy League lawyers, although I'm sure they are happy to take you out as a favor to friends. Your odds are not getting more favorable, pretty soon you will find all the musical chairs are taken and you can't compete. $150K will be the least of your concerns. Most women I know in your shoes settled for wealthy divorcees with young kids around 35 or stayed single for life (They sometimes make better husbands though because they have learned from their mistakes.) Seems like you have a lot of reality to reconcile with though.

Um...you seem to be projecting quite a lot. I make much more than $150k, am 31, and have an incredible active social life and wonderful group of grad school friends (among others). To get into a top MBA program you typically have to work for at least 4-6 years, and I was right at the average age-wise when I went/ graduated. My mom had me at 41 and my little brother at 44- I'm in no rush to start a family and be stressed about life in some dumpy suburb. I'm really happy and tons of guys that I work with and see regularly at events, etc. want to be with me. I don't need the external validation, but it's fun and I'm super content with life right now. Whenever that changes, I'll readjust. You should take a xanax.

You are 'super' content right now, but you may not enjoy being on your own when you want kids or when you are in your 40's and mainly hanging out with couples. Strategically you want to plan ahead for those days, which I'm surprised didn't already occur to you. You mother's fertility has no bearing on yours, (check the science), statistically you will be substantially less fertile after 35, and the reality is men already find women younger than you more attractive, despite your considerable self-confidence. In fact, making a lot of money makes you LESS desirable for marriage, I'm sorry to say (lots of science on this, even the ones in your peer group) so not sure why you are bringing that up. I'm sure many guys are having fun with you, but the odds of one of them actually marrying you are rapidly diminishing and will be near zero in just a few years. If you are in DC you are really in trouble, as the single male numbers in your cohort are stacked against you. It's just statistics, mainly driven by biology, nothing personal. I get that you are quite certain you are exceptional, but we are all subject to biology and statistics. As I said, 150k is the least of your problems. I genuinely wish you luck, though. I feel lucky to have met my spouse at 35 and have a lovely kid now, I live in the city and think it's a great life, but had almost given up on married life before I found him. I have an Ivy League masters and therefore know many highly educated women who didn't get married during the 26-32 window, and are now single for life or married divorcees.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the least amount a man must make around here to be considered a catch?

I say 150k by 32.

Ok. 99% of women are then lonely

Uh...not in D.C.?

Honestly it depends entirely what circles you run in. I work in finance in NYC as a woman in her late twenties, so $150k would be on the low end, though I wouldn't ever be dismissive over something as superficial as current salary.

Relatively few men make will ever make $150k in this area. Relatively. What is your plan for outcompeting all your peers for a few percent of the available men?

Well I graduated from a top MBA program last year, so my social world is 100% a bubble- fully admit that. Out of 500 guys in my program, very, very few accepted jobs with starting salaries less than $150 (including signing bonuses). Most went back to private equity or started at hedge funds. And I had and continue to have zero trouble "completing" for them. They're my friends and their high paid coworkers are now my friends, and when I want to date them I do. I'd say 90% of my class lives in SF or NYC, though. You're not going to find these jobs in DC.

$150k doesn't go very far in SF or NYC.

Exactly. Which is why it's not so uncommon in those cities.