Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

And you're one of them.

When my DH was really sick and nearly died, I appreciated people who reached out but I can't tell you who didn't. Who keeps score of this stuff? That in and of itself is a sign of social disfunction...

Anonymous wrote:Even if you "stared it" by scaling back your relationship, there is no reason to be uncivil. I find the previous responses bizarre. So many of you think that if a friend spends less time with you than other friends it's appropriate to ignore her and not say a word when you encounter each other? Grow up. OP, just be normal when you encounter her and make small talk.

+1

I politely greet and exchange pleasantries with people I don't like at all. Because I am a grown-up.

Okay, let me get this straight.

SCENE I Some time ago, possibly years, these women failed to live up to your fantasy expectations of how to act when your child was ill.

SCENE II You dumped them without a word.

SCENE III It is now months or years later and you saw these ex-friends (who were mean to your child) in the neighborhood and they are kind to your child. You are furious and want to know how to deal with the "mean girls."


Okay fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Men do not have these problems. I can't imagine a group of dads acting like this.

As long as we're indulging in gendered stereotypes, I guess we could say that's because dads often have no idea who their kids' friends are, much less who their kids' friends' parents are.

Men tend to be laid back and like to avoid drama.

The only time they fight w/other men is when they are drunk & get into fights at the bar.

But after they sober up, all is usually forgiven.

It is just how they roll.

Women tend to feed off drama, gossip + forming cliques.
And they usually hold deep grudges against other women too.

I personally wouldn't care about what these women did when they ran into me.

They sound selfish, inconsiderate + clueless.

I would actually be happy & relieved that they fail to acknowledge me in their presence.

It would be a huge compliment actually.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

I agree. I've seen this type of behavior over nothing. Several of the women in my neighborhood live for the chance to exclude someone. It is a favorite activity in the suburbs. Op, I would have been bothered by them not reaching out after your child was injured but I would have said something. It was incredibly rude and immature of them to act so rude when you ran into them. The people on this forum who don't see your side are from another planet. They always push women to be door mats.

It's impossible to tell from your post who started it and who is in the wrong. But I think you can never go wrong with being the bigger person. "Go high" as our former First Lady would say. Smile, say hi, nice to see you. If they respond, make pleasant conversation. If they ignore you, that's on them and their own nastiness will likely eat at them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

+1 If I saw a parent and child, and my child was friends with that child, I would say hi, nice day and let the kids talk. It doesn't matter if I don't particularly like that person or not-it's called manners. I have a rule, "Not married to you, NOT related to you, your name is NOT on my paycheck, and you are disrespectful to me or my family, then you do NOT count ". I do Not fill my life with nasty, petty, immature bullies, who I have no respect for. I suggest the same for you OP.

+1

Why does it matter to you? I'm truly curious, because I don't need friends, so I wouldn't even notice this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

You sound just as nasty as OP.

Good. We'll be friends and leave you out of it.

Anonymous wrote:Men do not have these problems. I can't imagine a group of dads acting like this.

As long as we're indulging in gendered stereotypes, I guess we could say that's because dads often have no idea who their kids' friends are, much less who their kids' friends' parents are.

Anonymous wrote:You started it.

She got ghosted and stealthed