Anonymous
09/17/2017 20:18
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When I have known such couples, I found that one (or both people) are "unacceptable" or thought they were "unacceptable" to their own race (because of age, looks, attitude,etc) or one or both of these people thought the other culture or race was "better" (which is ridiculous), which is a form of self-loathing. Just my experiences,with many, many couples over the years. You don't need to agree. Just being honest. Marry whomever you like, but I would examine my situation, so you don't bring children into this world with your hang-ups.
This.
+2 I would add the qualifier this is true for people like OP feeling "guilty" If you truly married your spouse for love/compatibility etc. you wouldn't be feeling guilty or embarrassed. So OP please figure out what is going on with you and don't pass your doubts to your children. Life is hard enough without your mom being embarrassed of your father.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 19:14
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:When I have known such couples, I found that one (or both people) are "unacceptable" or thought they were "unacceptable" to their own race (because of age, looks, attitude,etc) or one or both of these people thought the other culture or race was "better" (which is ridiculous), which is a form of self-loathing. Just my experiences,with many, many couples over the years. You don't need to agree. Just being honest. Marry whomever you like, but I would examine my situation, so you don't bring children into this world with your hang-ups.
It must be difficult to be you.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 18:57
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:When I have known such couples, I found that one (or both people) are "unacceptable" or thought they were "unacceptable" to their own race (because of age, looks, attitude,etc) or one or both of these people thought the other culture or race was "better" (which is ridiculous), which is a form of self-loathing. Just my experiences,with many, many couples over the years. You don't need to agree. Just being honest. Marry whomever you like, but I would examine my situation, so you don't bring children into this world with your hang-ups.
This.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 14:00
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
When I have known such couples, I found that one (or both people) are "unacceptable" or thought they were "unacceptable" to their own race (because of age, looks, attitude,etc) or one or both of these people thought the other culture or race was "better" (which is ridiculous), which is a form of self-loathing. Just my experiences,with many, many couples over the years. You don't need to agree. Just being honest. Marry whomever you like, but I would examine my situation, so you don't bring children into this world with your hang-ups.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 13:44
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:white men are falling out of favor with everyone except Asian women, it seems.
White men aren't falling out of favor with Latin, Caribbean, Arab, African, or Eastern European women, either. Or at least that's my experience.
White western women are falling out of favor with white western men, there is no doubt about that.
Only among LOSER white men, who can't get attractive white women
Anonymous
09/17/2017 13:35
Subject: Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Question of how she managed to avoid all men of every other race.
Why exactly? Is she required by law to date a member of every race? She found a guy she apparently loves and married him.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 13:17
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:im south Asian and noticed this trend mostly amongst South Indians. My guess is that they're not considered attractive by other south asians and have to seek people outside their race.
That's because South Indians have smaller, more attractive noses. They are also more likely to be thin.
Pffffff have you ever been to south India?? Every other person has a huge wide nose which looks massive bc they are so petite.
Every south Asian knows Pakistanis and North Indians >>>> South Indians.
Just more h1bs trying to flee Their own culture
Most of the h1bs in the DMV are South Indians.
White female here. Dated a Indian guy in college. Would only marry a North Indian. South Indians dont assimilate well and too dark for me.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 13:14
Subject: Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
My best friend since the first grade in an Indian girl - both and raised here. She is stunningly beautiful with a brain to go with it. She dated white guys on and off but "came back to her roots" as she says and married a similar north indian she met in college. She has been happily married for 10 years. She tells me her parents would only object to two types as as suitable man for her: any muslim or a black. All others were negotiable....
Anonymous
09/17/2017 12:45
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
And this is why people don't like Indians. You're obsessed with race.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 12:21
Subject: Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Also Indian men often treat women like second class citizens, so it makes sense to marry a non-Indian man.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 12:20
Subject: Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
I think it's cultural to marry 'lighter' skinned people. Indian culture is very prejudiced against dark skinned (lower caste) people. Light skin is valued as more attractive and desirable - so I don't think it's against Indian values or culture to marry white.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 12:14
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:im south Asian and noticed this trend mostly amongst South Indians. My guess is that they're not considered attractive by other south asians and have to seek people outside their race.
That's because South Indians have smaller, more attractive noses. They are also more likely to be thin.
Pffffff have you ever been to south India?? Every other person has a huge wide nose which looks massive bc they are so petite.
Every south Asian knows Pakistanis and North Indians >>>> South Indians.
Just more h1bs trying to flee Their own culture
Most of the h1bs in the DMV are South Indians.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 11:25
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:im south Asian and noticed this trend mostly amongst South Indians. My guess is that they're not considered attractive by other south asians and have to seek people outside their race.
That's because South Indians have smaller, more attractive noses. They are also more likely to be thin.
Pffffff have you ever been to south India?? Every other person has a huge wide nose which looks massive bc they are so petite.
Every south Asian knows Pakistanis and North Indians >>>> South Indians.
Just more h1bs trying to flee Their own culture
Anonymous
09/17/2017 10:53
Subject: Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:I'm also an Indian woman married white (Jew). We are a thing for sure. All my cousins who were born here, too. Male cousins who have married married either white or other Asian. The exceptions are my cousins born in India who found good partners there. I never really hit it off with Indian guys, much to my parents' chagrin, but it has all worked out.
Your Jewish husband probably wonders the same thing about his relatives who all married non-Jews.
Anonymous
09/17/2017 10:47
Subject: Re:Feeling slight guilt by the marrying white trend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:im south Asian and noticed this trend mostly amongst South Indians. My guess is that they're not considered attractive by other south asians and have to seek people outside their race.
That's because South Indians have smaller, more attractive noses. They are also more likely to be thin.
Pffffff have you ever been to south India?? Every other person has a huge wide nose which looks massive bc they are so petite.
Every south Asian knows Pakistanis and North Indians >>>> South Indians.