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Anonymous wrote:Is there a lot of cheating among women in the U.S. when their husbands are overseas? Sadly, yes. No different for men.

I know more women who cheated on their husbands while deployed than vice versa.

This. The military men were working 12 hour + days while deployed...mostly with other men. The women were staying home twiddling their thumbs, throwing MLM parties and looking for new relationships.

Big difference between being deployed to a base in Afghanistan or Kuwait, and being on a one year unaccompanied tour to South Korea or Kosovo. South Korea was 100% drinking 100% of the free time, which was pretty frequent for officers and enlisted (even junior enlisted, who aren't allowed to drive partially for this reason). STDs and cheating were rampant. There are local women everywhere.

Do I think everyone does it? No. But there is waaaaay too much drinking. Way too much. And people make bad choices. And the women talk to each other; they know how to make it look bad enough that a soldier may find himself divorced first (texts, chats, invitations home, showing up at the hotel if the family visits, etc..).

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a lot of cheating among women in the U.S. when their husbands are overseas? Sadly, yes. No different for men.

I know more women who cheated on their husbands while deployed than vice versa.

I've slept with several USAF wives while they're husband was overseas in active duty. I'm not military but have worked on several USAF installations. So, yes, it does happen and was easy.

Ha I'm a military wife now. I knew girls in college who had boyfriends over seas... every single one of them cheated on their significant other. But they were 19-21, so I can see that.


Now my DH is a doc. I'm always shocked with his stories of married friends that ask him for a VD prescription. I don't know any names, but I can guess. I think military life can be really stressful and lonely. I hate to hear about it, but I can understand why it would be more prevalent than in the civilian community (although honestly I don't think there is evidence of that, despite what it may seem on this thread)


On a side note- it is illegal for an active duty military member to cheat on their spouse, although it is hard to actually prosecute. I found this:

There are three "Elements of Proof" for the offense of Adultery in the Military:

That the accused wrongfully had sexual intercourse with a certain person;
That, at the time, the accused or the other person was married to someone else; and
That, under the circumstances, the conduct of the accused was to the prejudice of good order and discipline in the armed forces or was of a nature to bring discredit upon the armed forces.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife of former USAF NCO here. It is pretty rampant. Our last duty station was Dover AFB in Delaware. Plenty of spouses would head down to the beaches to party while the military member was deployed. Seacrets in Ocean City was very popular.

I need to head to Seacrets the next time I am in Ocean City apparently. Thanks for the idea.

Read the 22:37 post by the Army doctor before you go!

So you are saying use a condom, got it.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife of former USAF NCO here. It is pretty rampant. Our last duty station was Dover AFB in Delaware. Plenty of spouses would head down to the beaches to party while the military member was deployed. Seacrets in Ocean City was very popular.

Funny story- I have a friend in the Navy who was once stationed on an aircraft carrier out of Norfolk. These carriers hold 5000 sailors and go out on six month deployments. On the day his carrier was to deploy he was held back for logistical reasons.
That night he went to the Petty Officers club on base and recognized several of his shipmates' wives hanging with strange men. They asked him what he was doing there and he told them the ship had a problem, had to return to port, and had docked an hour ago. He told me the place cleared out faster than an Ariana Grande concert.

Hilarious!

Anonymous wrote:Army doctor here. Luckily, due to the nature of my work and high demand for my specialty, my family has been able to travel with me to all of my stations . Longest I've been depolyed without family was 3 months.

I would never ever ever marry a military man (I married a teacher and his job travels with him basically). The cheating is rampant and often disgusting. The number of venereal diseases we see from sex workers and unprotected sex is really awful.

Not all men cheat. Mine did not. His wife did. I was concerned why he was divorced and asked several people, including the ex-wife of his ex-wife's boyfriend. I didn't want to marry someone who cheated on his first wife. Its very common but not all men are cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife of former USAF NCO here. It is pretty rampant. Our last duty station was Dover AFB in Delaware. Plenty of spouses would head down to the beaches to party while the military member was deployed. Seacrets in Ocean City was very popular.

I need to head to Seacrets the next time I am in Ocean City apparently. Thanks for the idea.

Read the 22:37 post by the Army doctor before you go!

Anonymous wrote:Wife of former USAF NCO here. It is pretty rampant. Our last duty station was Dover AFB in Delaware. Plenty of spouses would head down to the beaches to party while the military member was deployed. Seacrets in Ocean City was very popular.

Funny story- I have a friend in the Navy who was once stationed on an aircraft carrier out of Norfolk. These carriers hold 5000 sailors and go out on six month deployments. On the day his carrier was to deploy he was held back for logistical reasons.
That night he went to the Petty Officers club on base and recognized several of his shipmates' wives hanging with strange men. They asked him what he was doing there and he told them the ship had a problem, had to return to port, and had docked an hour ago. He told me the place cleared out faster than an Ariana Grande concert.

Anonymous wrote:Wife of former USAF NCO here. It is pretty rampant. Our last duty station was Dover AFB in Delaware. Plenty of spouses would head down to the beaches to party while the military member was deployed. Seacrets in Ocean City was very popular.

I need to head to Seacrets the next time I am in Ocean City apparently. Thanks for the idea.

Wife of former USAF NCO here. It is pretty rampant. Our last duty station was Dover AFB in Delaware. Plenty of spouses would head down to the beaches to party while the military member was deployed. Seacrets in Ocean City was very popular.

Anonymous wrote:My sister's Fiance is oversees right now until next June.
She says she is worried about all she has heard with the partying and clubs. Her FI works until 11pm and then they 'go out for beers' occasionally.
I personally think he is going to clubs and strip clubs but would NEVER tell her that. She wants to believe he would never do that. Personally, it is just to easy NOT to do that oversees where there is like 0 chance of your significant other here in the US ever finding out or meeting 'the other woman'.

Clubs and strip clubs are mild. It's the whore houses you need to worry about.

What many don't know is that, until the 1990's, the US military actually sanctioned prostitution as a was to keep soldiers happy in places like the Philippines and South Korea. At the time of its closing in 1992 Clark AB in the R.P. had over 300 bars and 3000 bar girls. The Military Police there conducted a town patrol and had a list of approved bars and those ones off limits. All the bars were registered with the base and prostitution was known. A "short time" with these girls was $10 and an "all night" date was $20. The base hospital kept a record of all these bar girls and if someone were to catch an STD the patient would have to ply through binders of bar girl pictures kept at the hospital to pick out the one they got it from. The town patrol and local police would then pull the girl out of the bar to be treated. Kinda like Uncle Sam pimp.

Not just the deployed soldiers, my neighbor is active military and I am pretty certain he is cheating on his SAHM wife based on several observations I have seen, particularly how he very quickly gets off his cell phone each time I see him away from his house.

The psychological stress of deployment can be a lot. And sex helps relieve that stress and anxiety. All natural stress relief.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. The involvement of US military, US military contractors, and other high level UN and international officials in sex trafficking and prostitution in Bosnia was a major problem that eventually was uncovered but, sadly, never resulted in prosecution, although the woman fired for uncovering it did eventually win a court-ordered employment settlement. It resulted in the addition to all USG contracts that the contractor shall not take part in prostitution or trafficking in persons. It's also been a problem in the Secret Service.

In a lot of countries the vast majority of prostitutes are not victims of sex trafficking. The media makes it sound like they are all forced into prostitution, which isn't the case. You don't see the pimp/prostitute dynamic much in some countries. The problem with the secret service in Colombia was that they were acting like jerks and didn't pay her.