Op are you male or female?

Is he a top or a bottom?

Anonymous wrote:So, we're getting married in 3 months and my fiance' didn't completely sign out of his email on the lap top. I saw in his inbox that he signed up for a membership to a gay dating/hook up site. That's the description on the site. The email was the link to confirm his membership. He had clicked on it. It showed his log in and password, so I logged in. He has his general location, height, weight, age filled in. His bio says "just a normal guy looking to meet normal people"

OMG.

What's wrong with that?
Even if it is a dating/hook-up site all he said was, "just a normal guy looking to meet normal people."
Not like he was in full-flame mode detailing his explicit interests in gay sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I tell you what, if your 1st instinct was to jump on here and plead for advice as opposed to talking to dude about it then neither one of you is fit for marriage because both of your communication skills are severely lacking.

I found it after he left for work. I'm going to ask him about it when he gets home.

OP he'll just lie I'm afraid.

This is why you research people right from the get go.

Oh please. Are we supposed to hire private investigators to spy on our potential spouses? Are we supposed to search through all of their private correspondence and activities? Are we supposed to grill them with lie detectors? And what if her fiance has had these feelings inside, but only recently started pursuing them? Do we need to do weekly lie detectors and private account searches?

Lots of nice, upstanding people have secrets and keep them well. You can "know" them and even live with them for years, sometimes decades, without finding out. I've lived long enough to have seen this too many times.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I tell you what, if your 1st instinct was to jump on here and plead for advice as opposed to talking to dude about it then neither one of you is fit for marriage because both of your communication skills are severely lacking.

I found it after he left for work. I'm going to ask him about it when he gets home.

OP he'll just lie I'm afraid.

This is why you research people right from the get go.

Anonymous wrote:OP, Consider yourself especially lucky to have found this out now instead of later! Leave him. You'll give him room to be who he is and you'll get on with your life and be who you were meant to be.

100% - you dodged big gay bullet.

You need to go now and ask about it from afar. I hope this isn't a troll thread based on the NYT's article about the Jenny Jones murderer.

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Anonymous wrote:Well I tell you what, if your 1st instinct was to jump on here and plead for advice as opposed to talking to dude about it then neither one of you is fit for marriage because both of your communication skills are severely lacking.

I found it after he left for work. I'm going to ask him about it when he gets home.

Do you live together. Have a place to go after.

I think for all cheaters the psychological damage to the mate is bad but putting them at risk for STDs is superbad. I have male friends that get hookers and their wives know nothing about it. I can't imagine giving my wife an STD because I slept with a hooker. She would rightly kill me.

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to why people do this in today's America . Throngs of homosexual men married women in the decades past in deceitful manners such as this . Some of us have fought for the right of these kind of people to be who they are and yet. ...Why can't he be who he truly is ? He's a hypocritical reckless son of a bitch

I agree - It does not give you the right to engage in deceit and fraud. My ex just blew up our family because they revealed they are gay person who married a hetero mate.

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Anonymous wrote:He would sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding because he wants gay hook ups. What's to figure out?

You shouldn't marry this person.

+1

run !

Anonymous wrote:Well I tell you what, if your 1st instinct was to jump on here and plead for advice as opposed to talking to dude about it then neither one of you is fit for marriage because both of your communication skills are severely lacking.

I found it after he left for work. I'm going to ask him about it when he gets home.

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Anonymous wrote:How the hell do y'all find yourselves in these outrageous predicaments where you find yourselves totally taken aback about something regarding the very character and personality of someone you planned on spending your life with? Are you in such a rush to get married that you just bypass the whole "getting to know you" process? WTF?!!

3 years together, how do you force someone to tell you everything? Why do people hold back information? Why would he sign up for something like this 3 months before the wedding?

Speaking of holding back information have you alerted your fiance' of this recent finding or did you decide to see what the relationship experts of DCUM had to say on the subject first?
If you confronted him, what'd he say?
Curious minds want to know!

Found it this morning, am going to ask him about it when he gets home from work.

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me as well. Run. I found Craigslist ads he was responding to for gay sex and follow up emails after the sex. He was the perfect guy, or so I thought. He just neded a beard, he was bi. I had to do aids tests every 6 months for 5 years.

So sorry. I hope you are clear. Did you test for other myriad of STDs too?

https://beforeplay.org/stds/

This happened to me as well. Run. I found Craigslist ads he was responding to for gay sex and follow up emails after the sex. He was the perfect guy, or so I thought. He just neded a beard, he was bi. I had to do aids tests every 6 months for 5 years.