Anonymous
Post 08/18/2017 07:26     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:It is interesting that while most posters agree that tattoos are hideous, they reject the idea that they may cause people to pre-judge the owner. Of course this is true if the tattoo is discrete and usually or always covered by clothing. But would your feelings be the same if you were interviewing a candidate and they had a visible face/neck/hand tattoo? It would certainly give me pause.

To the OP.....why would you cause potentially irreparable damage to your relationship with your son and diminish his future over a one-off incident? It seems spiteful.


Discreet, people, discreet.

Discrete means "individually seperate and distinct".
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2017 07:09     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
It is interesting that while most posters agree that tattoos are hideous, they reject the idea that they may cause people to pre-judge the owner. Of course this is true if the tattoo is discrete and usually or always covered by clothing. But would your feelings be the same if you were interviewing a candidate and they had a visible face/neck/hand tattoo? It would certainly give me pause.

To the OP.....why would you cause potentially irreparable damage to your relationship with your son and diminish his future over a one-off incident? It seems spiteful.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 21:01     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Using "me and DH" in the nominative case instead of "DH and I" is more underclass these days than a tattoo. And I loathe tattoos.

OP, so many worse things that he could have done. This too will pass.


I agree. It's like nails on a chalkboard, even reading it. But somewhat funny in this context.


Hahahaha. So so true!
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 21:00     Subject: 19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Wow you're over reacting! Get a grip. Severing your relationship with him over this will only do nothing and make no mistake cutting him off will forever damage your relationship.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 20:58     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Accept you have no control over your son. If you do stop paying for his education, be prepared that he may cut you off. I think it would be best for him if he does cut you off.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 20:16     Subject: 19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
I got a tattoo at 18. I didn't tell my folks b/c they had threatened to kick me out if I ever got one. I will never forget that threat and I will never treat my children as disposable if we had different values. My parents and I are not close, btw.

I went to a highly ranked university, did well, am married with kids and am also an MD. I truly doubt that that stupid tattoo has held me back at all.

Get over yourself.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 20:10     Subject: 19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:Total control freak mom. He's 19. Take a breath and move on. It could be worse. He could be working for Trump


Or god forbid, Hillary. Just chilling!
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 20:07     Subject: 19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:Lady you are off your rocker.

Also, your grammar offends me far more than any tattoo.


Thank you! I can't believe the earlier posters ignored that!
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 19:54     Subject: 19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Omg. When I came home from freshman semester at college 40 (!!!) years ago with pierced ears my mom had almost the same reaction. (I'm a woman).
Let it go.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 19:46     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:Using "me and DH" in the nominative case instead of "DH and I" is more underclass these days than a tattoo. And I loathe tattoos.

OP, so many worse things that he could have done. This too will pass.


I agree. It's like nails on a chalkboard, even reading it. But somewhat funny in this context.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 18:48     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
I hope this is fake. But if it's real, yiiiikes. You need to calm the eff down, lady. You're talking about him like he's 8 - he's an adult. Is this really the hill you want to die on?? Get some freaking perspective, seriously...
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 18:35     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:Using "me and DH" in the nominative case instead of "DH and I" is more underclass these days than a tattoo. And I loathe tattoos.

OP, so many worse things that he could have done. This too will pass.

More hideous than a tramp stamp or a neck tattoo.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 18:33     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Using "me and DH" in the nominative case instead of "DH and I" is more underclass these days than a tattoo. And I loathe tattoos.

OP, so many worse things that he could have done. This too will pass.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 18:32     Subject: 19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:Lady you are off your rocker.

Also, your grammar offends me far more than any tattoo.


+1

But I like how you plan to withold the support to let him finish college thereby limiting his earning potential and committing him to that "low class" you've envisioned for people with tattoos. Way to create a self fulfilling prophecy.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2017 18:26     Subject: Re:19 YO son came home with a tattoo!
Anonymous wrote:That is pretty extreme of you. Tell him it was a dumb decision and leave it alone. His tattoo is no reflection on his college performance. You are just throwing your authority around


It is very extreme.

I guess he shouldn't displease you? He knows your views but did he know you would go off the deep end?

Now you know... decent, respectable people get tattoos.