Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of them were in serious relationships coming out of grad school. They became financially secure after becoming married. The best time to catch one is when they are young.

If you want the still single late 20s early 30s attractive financially successful, normal man, you are competing heavily for them. They are rare and they know it.

The most successful men I know (the ones I'd actually want to be married to, not the rich assh*les) were married young. Few of them seem to look to their personal lives for adventure, they get enough stress from their jobs. Most of these guys wanted just someone attractive and supportive, which is why so many women look at the wives of these guys and are stumped as to why Successful Guy is so happy with his lovely, but largely unremarkable, SAHM. Women tend to think that successful men should be reserved for female professional powerhouses, when most truly successful men just don't care about that stuff.

Yes, your average $200,000/year striver type guy might care what his future wife does, but virtually none of the seven figure earners I know see to care one bit.

LOL I'm so happy my average $200,000/year striver guy wanted a female professional powerhouse.

From my experience the "good quality guys" are a hot commodity and the "good quality girls" usually make a bee line for them in college and the first few years out. In order to identify these guys early, you need to already have a good head on your shoulder and know whats what.

That dorky STEM major who isn't the "YAAAA BRUHHH" party boy and wears button downs at 20 probably comes from a "good" family with parents who care and invested in his personal and educational achievement. A good girl from a "Good" family will be able to identify this and date him even though many many girls would pass him up at that age.

By the time these people hit 30...this dory kid would have a stable career maybe not earning millions but will be supplemented by occasional help from parents etc. He will also be married with a girl smart enough to see his potential when he was young and uncool.

Any guy with some game and money definitely won't be looking to find a woman in DC. There are tons of places in Asia and Latin America that are way better. But there are some scrubs with money in the US and they still poke around US girls. It's like they've never seen the light.

Anonymous wrote:You are all so quick to judge. Maybe when the OP wrote "successful and financially secure" she meant a regular guy with a good job and not alot of debt. That phrase can mean a lot of different people. You all jumped to the conclusion that her friend is a gold digger. Maybe she is an educated woman who does not want to be the sole breadwinner.

"Successful" means $150k, $250k, or $500k per year. Occasionally Ivy League, "pedigree", retirement plan details, car model specifics, or medical degree are also required. Various women on this site define it different ways, but it is always defined to exclude employed guys who are actually available.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:define "financially secure"

I don't have to work.

Saudi Arabia

Anonymous wrote:define "financially secure"

I don't have to work.

define "financially secure"

Anonymous wrote:And at the office, doing what made them successful and financially secure.

Farting into an office chair and checking baseball scores?

lol it's not like they travel in packs.

It may be a function of where I lived during my dating years, but in Atlanta, most of the good guys (and by that I mean nice, decent looking, had a decent job, not super hot millionaires) were married by 33 or so at the very latest. Usually earlier. I wonder if that is different outside of the south?

Anonymous wrote:
I married a very working class man that first time around, thinking shared values would see us through. He was so busy trying to make money for himself that I was of little value to him.

You ungrateful shrew

Anonymous wrote:Chatting with barmaids and anyone else not snotty enough to demand successful, financially secure men.

Pretty much. OP is probably the same ingrate who was saying in another thread she'd rather say single for the rest of her life than marry a man who wouldn't allow her to stay home.

Anonymous wrote:They are picked up early by smart girls who see their potential. Married by 28 latest!

Truer words have never been spoken!

They are picked up early by smart girls who see their potential. Married by 28 latest!

At home with their wives