Anonymous wrote:Awww. That guy needs a dating coach. And a good allergist. Rashes are not the best first date topic-eek. Sounds like a nice man, but not a love interest for you. The cats thing will be endearing to the right person for him.

I know right. I have friends who are nurses and they talk about whatever when we eat and it doesn't bother me, but the rash was too much (and seems like a big issue).

The cats - I felt like well its probably a positive that he values having some company as he has no kids, but I really don't like pet fur everywhere so I think sex with cats around turned me off too.

Okay he also talked about himself and his two siblings (all over 40) and said none of them are married. He was married for 5 years but divorced by 30. This seemed maybe a red flag to me about relationship issues.

Awww. That guy needs a dating coach. And a good allergist. Rashes are not the best first date topic-eek. Sounds like a nice man, but not a love interest for you. The cats thing will be endearing to the right person for him.

Anonymous wrote:You believe the actual goal of online dating is casual sex with new people?

I hope that's in your profile. Otherwise, you might be misleading some women who think the actual goal is to find a long term partner/spouse.

Not the PP but the way Millennials, and increasingly others, date is to have casual sex with several people until they find someone they like enough to be in a relationship with. This is reality in 2017. Don't like it? Find a time machine and set the dial to 1955.

Affixing should be affirming

OP again - what it takes to get me sexually interested initially in person is probably most tied to body language or how someone carries themselves.

I started the thread because I've never had sexual attraction on other levels, attraction to their appearance, then complete inability to imagine sex with them. I didn't want to kiss him either and I love kissing.

I don't think it will go anywhere.