Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm very recently separated - a month and a half - and reeling, vulnerable. I have had sex ONCE in the last year, and it was in January. (Part of why I left is due to my husband's cheating, which I found out about last June). Anyway, I am in no position to start dating, but really want to have sex. Should I?

Do you have someone in mind for this or are you looking for a man on dcum?

OP here. No one in mind specifically, though I've been talking with some blasts from the past. I'm really just looking to screw a strange man - lol.

Maybe hire an escort?

No way. If OP is halfway decent, she can get laid for free. There's a whole sea of men wishing they could run into someone like OP on a Thursday night.

Actually pps idea of an escort makes perfect sense for OP's situation.
Minimal risk of contracting an STI/STD professional escorts are tested regularly.
She can pick a fit body to her liking and not have to wait around for whatever guy agrees to it.
There's no mess of dealing with a friend or an FWB who might decide he want more.
The entire encounter is about pleasing OP and given that she hasn't had sex in a year and that sex was probably bad a professional focused entirely on her and OP not needing to give anything back seems like the perfect solution.

Do you have kids? I wouldn't bring a strange dude back to your house. I would leave them with your ex, and do a girls trip. Hotel sex is better anyway.

This thread makes it pretty clear that the whole "women need emotional connection to want sex" trope is untrue.

Anonymous wrote:oh god. Men are so pathetic. You don't even know what she looks like or if she's fun, but you smell blood in the water and begin to circle like sharks.

Yet you say nothing about the woman advertising she wants sex after a recent breakup? Now that's pathetic.

oh god. Men are so pathetic. You don't even know what she looks like or if she's fun, but you smell blood in the water and begin to circle like sharks.

Yes. It will make your divorce smoother.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm very recently separated - a month and a half - and reeling, vulnerable. I have had sex ONCE in the last year, and it was in January. (Part of why I left is due to my husband's cheating, which I found out about last June). Anyway, I am in no position to start dating, but really want to have sex. Should I?

Do you have someone in mind for this or are you looking for a man on dcum?

OP here. No one in mind specifically, though I've been talking with some blasts from the past. I'm really just looking to screw a strange man - lol.

I'm the PP who asked you if you have someone in mind. If you are looking on dcum, PM me and lets see if there is some sexual chemistry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm very recently separated - a month and a half - and reeling, vulnerable. I have had sex ONCE in the last year, and it was in January. (Part of why I left is due to my husband's cheating, which I found out about last June). Anyway, I am in no position to start dating, but really want to have sex. Should I?

Do you have someone in mind for this or are you looking for a man on dcum?

OP here. No one in mind specifically, though I've been talking with some blasts from the past. I'm really just looking to screw a strange man - lol.

Actually this would be good therapy for you. Women feel if their husband cheats on them, they have to have sex with a complete stranger and that makes them feel its getting back at their husband especially if you can have sex with someone of a different race.

So untrue.

The more OP posts the more I see how she landed herself such a peach. My advice would be more self reflection and no strangers. Like the cheater she is free of she also needs to uplift herself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm very recently separated - a month and a half - and reeling, vulnerable. I have had sex ONCE in the last year, and it was in January. (Part of why I left is due to my husband's cheating, which I found out about last June). Anyway, I am in no position to start dating, but really want to have sex. Should I?

Do you have someone in mind for this or are you looking for a man on dcum?

OP here. No one in mind specifically, though I've been talking with some blasts from the past. I'm really just looking to screw a strange man - lol.

Actually this would be good therapy for you. Women feel if their husband cheats on them, they have to have sex with a complete stranger and that makes them feel its getting back at their husband especially if you can have sex with someone of a different race.

I went through this so here are a couple of ideas. First - protection, protection, protection! Soon after my separation I went to a resort on my own for a few days in Mexico and ended up with a happy ending massage - just intimate touching but it was heavenly. Then I was at a week long seminar and hooked up with a nice single guy. I was incredibly nervous as he was the first new person in over 12 years and the first sex in two years. But I made up for two years of no sex in one night. I told him no quickie and I would make it worth his while and I really did. After that experience I was able to take my time hitting the dating scene.

Anonymous wrote:I'm very recently separated - a month and a half - and reeling, vulnerable. I have had sex ONCE in the last year, and it was in January. (Part of why I left is due to my husband's cheating, which I found out about last June). Anyway, I am in no position to start dating, but really want to have sex. Should I?

NO. Now is the time to use better judgement in your life and not make those same mistakes. When people end up with a cheater it means they missed the red flags in the dating stage. They didn't see a very flawed dishonest person who probably did that many time before you met them.

Heal yourself and your self esteem. Makes positive changes in your life and when the time is right try and find a good partner.

That means take your time and establish a relationship BEFORE you have sex. The last thing you need is some creep or a horrible STD.

The fact you posted this is a red flag to your judgement.

Post on okcupid that you want a fwb for unsafe sex. Recent test results required.

You don't have to show your face.

You'll get 1000 replies per day.

Hire a hot personal trainer. A freind of mine did this and he found some really creative ways to work the extra weight off of her!

TBH I think your emotional state is going to make it so you don't feel good afterwards. In fact it may trigger more hurt. I think if you were in a different place, I'd say go for it, but this feels like it's not going to end well.

OP needs a finger blast from the past, get one tonight!