talk about batsh*t crazy. jeez

They're not going to view it as a threat. They're going to view it as you being an immature psycho and laugh at you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Long story semi short... my ex and I had a volatile breakup. He cheated on me then ghosted me to end the relationship. I'm still extremely hurt, depressed, sad, angry - everything over it. Whiiiich is why I did this stupid thing. I ripped a photograph of him as a little kid that he loved and threw out the piece with his face, and mailed the pieces in an envelope to his house. Now I'm slightly concerned it might be perceived as a threat (by her, the woman he left me for- who just moved in to his house with her kids)

Yes or no: should I email him, "hey heads up I just put in the mail something of yours that I just don't want anymore - it means nothing else" ?

Also yes I know it was immature, mean, and I'm sure I'll even get some psycho comments. My friend tried to talk me out of it. But...whatever

I think it's funny. Move on he's a creep. Not that big of a deal. You overthinking it is occupying space in your brain. Be thankful he cheated and hopefully you learn to pick better next time, or stay single for awhile.

+1

This isn't a huge thing, he'll get over it and it's not something law enforcement would act on. Don't contact him because there is zero upside to that for you- he's a jerk for handling a break up this way. I'm sorry, I know how hard it can be but give it some time and you'll look back on this and be glad he's someone else's problem!

The pic is totally human, shake it off and stay busy , you'll be fine!

As everyone else has said, leave it alone. Let it go.

I think we all feel your pain. He cheats?! A break up. Then he moves the new girlfriend in. WITH HER KIDS????!!!! I'd feel hurt, angry and a little bit crazy too. BUT you don't act on it. As much as you want to.

Cry. Scream into your pillow. Feel the pain. Obsess over it all for a few hours. Then get up out the bed, shower, brush your hair. Then put one foot in front of the other. The next day, put the other foot out. And move on until time, nights out with friends, movies, therapy, time with family, whatever it takes. But DO NOT CONTACT HIM OR HER AGAIN. He's made his decision clear. He wants HER--not YOU.

You want revenge? SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE!

Get over him, look awesome, work on yourself, attract someone 10 times better---while he begins to deal with the reality of a woman, her kids and the ex-husband and all that comes with that.

Anonymous wrote:It's not a good look.
But , it's not likely to get you into any trouble.
Do nothing else concerning him or her.
No more contact. Period.
Sort yourself out. Work on your impulse control.
Keep your friend around and next time listen to her.

OP here, and fully agree with you PP

Anonymous wrote:This is really no big deal. Does it make you look a little psycho? Yes. Does it mean you ARE psycho? No. I challenge everyone on here to say they've NEVER done something a little crazy after a break-up or big argument. Once after a huge morning fight with my DH, he went to the car but left his suit jacket on the back of a chair. I slid it off, stomped on it, and left it there. Was I an asshole? Yes. But doing something a little crazy sometimes can be liberating. Your ex sounds like a real mother f*cker, btw.

+10000000. Thank you PP!!!

Anonymous wrote:The thing about it which could be interpreted as threatening was removing the face from the pieces of the picture that were ripped up. Is that why you are nervous? What message were you trying to send by throwing away that part of the picture and mailing the rest of it to hin?@

OP here. Honestly was not trying to send any message other than one more "f*** you"

OP here. Honestly so surprised by some of the comments- in a good way. Thank you everyone for your honesty and kindness.... I definitely need to work on my impulses and I am considering therapy to help move on. Fingers crossed that I didn't make a huge mistake though.

Anonymous wrote:This is really no big deal. Does it make you look a little psycho? Yes. Does it mean you ARE psycho? No. I challenge everyone on here to say they've NEVER done something a little crazy after a break-up or big argument. Once after a huge morning fight with my DH, he went to the car but left his suit jacket on the back of a chair. I slid it off, stomped on it, and left it there. Was I an asshole? Yes. But doing something a little crazy sometimes can be liberating. Your ex sounds like a real mother f*cker, btw.

OK, I accept the challenge. I'm a guy and I've never done anything a little crazy after a breakup or a big argument.

It's not a good look.
But , it's not likely to get you into any trouble.
Do nothing else concerning him or her.
No more contact. Period.
Sort yourself out. Work on your impulse control.
Keep your friend around and next time listen to her.

Say nothing, block his phone and email, and move on. You have no cause to continue to be in touch with him so you don't need to make yours of accessible, and if he contacts you after getting the photo, it will only tempt you to respond and draw out the drama.

I guess we know why he ditched you.

I hope this wasn't the only copy of the photo he loved.

My ex put a photo of my daughter and I in the trash at my in-laws. If I'd known, I would have asked for it.