Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:39     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
Anonymous wrote:In my late-college and early post-college days, I exclusively dated a man for a couple of years. He was highly-motivated but had a tendency to make really bad choices from time to time. We eventually broke it off and went our separate ways.

Months ago, we found each other through a work event (we don't work together, but I was coordinating the conference he was doing some graphic design setup work for.) Coffee after the conference led to dinner, dinner led to another, that led to official dating, and now we are back together, pretty seriously.

It's time to tell my family, who absolutely hated this man, that we are back together, probably indifinetely, if things keep up the way they are. We are both successful in our own careers and lives. We are happy. I'm just tired of living in hiding. Any firsthand advice on getting people to be open minded and not see who he is now for who he was then?


It's not your job to convince them. If he has truly changed they will see it. Just my opinion but it sounds like he conned you once and is now conning you away.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:35     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
Anonymous wrote:Since you won't tell us about him, how about telling us about your family? Are they rigidly conservative?
You said they "absolutely hate him." It must have been pretty bad.
Anyway, if you think you two might have future together, you have to tell your family.


It's pretty telling to me that op won't say what the issue is.
This is DCUM where the mantra is you and your so above family at virtually all costs. Conservative judgmental families are frowned upon. If it wasn't a big deal and op's family where simply being ridiculous she would be supported. I have a strong feeling these aren't youthful shenanigans.
But op needs to tell her family, it will be worse the longer she keeps it a secret.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:32     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
Anonymous wrote:You are two grown, self supporting, healthy, productive, independent people. As such, you get to make your own decisions about your own lives w/o interference from the peanut gallery.

As long as this man is treating you right, you are happy and he is good for you - that is what matters. Your family loves you but they need to step back and respect your decisions...unless, of course, there is something extremely alarming about this guy that you haven't mentioned.


THIS!!! I am amazed at people who have families that control their decisions in life when they are adults.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:30     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
Her family doesn't need to do anything. She can date who she wants. They are not obligated to like him, approve of him or anything else.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:21     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
You are two grown, self supporting, healthy, productive, independent people. As such, you get to make your own decisions about your own lives w/o interference from the peanut gallery.

As long as this man is treating you right, you are happy and he is good for you - that is what matters. Your family loves you but they need to step back and respect your decisions...unless, of course, there is something extremely alarming about this guy that you haven't mentioned.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:17     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
Since you won't tell us about him, how about telling us about your family? Are they rigidly conservative?
You said they "absolutely hate him." It must have been pretty bad.
Anyway, if you think you two might have future together, you have to tell your family.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2017 11:10     Subject: Dating an ex your family never liked?
Anonymous wrote:No lots of people don't get DUIs it's not a "thing" it's an issue even if it was just once at 21.


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