Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:42
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It always gets cut before it looks horrible,
Stop nagging him and take the kids to a park when it is "too long to enjoy"... I am not even sure what that means. We live next to woods and we always are in long grass.
My baby doesn't enjoy crawling through grass so long it's seeding.
You sound whiny.
Yes, how dare she whine that her crawling baby doesn't like to crawl in tall blades of grass.
Come again? Coherent sentences please.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:26
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
I'm a sahm in a very similar boat with a cheap, stobboem, resident (long hours) spouse. I ended up hiring a lawn service despite the pouting from him. It actually whipped him into shape enough to do it himself when it needs done now, but it took about 3 months last year of paying for it first. Girl, tony mind his pouting! And don't do that shit yourself! I was out there 8 months pregnant doing it last summer when I finally decided to hire someone!
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:26
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Curious how others would handle this situation:
I'm a SAHM with young kids (one not yet walking.) My husband works long hours, sometimes not returning home until 7-8pm. Getting him to cut he grass is like pulling teeth. On his days off, he doesn't want to do it. "I'll do it tomorrow." But that never happens. Meanwhile, the kids can't even play in the backyard because the grass is so tall. He won't let me hire a lawn service, even though all of our neighbors use the same service, because he's so cheap. I can't cut it while he's at work, because I'm alone with the kids. If I attempt to cut the grass myself when he's home, he gets upset and ends up cutting it himself, but is mad and pouts the rest of the night.
It always gets cut before it looks horrible, the in the meantime, we can't enjoy our yard.
Do I hire a lawn service and be done with it? He will be mad.
Do I try and coordinate the kids naps and cut it myself while they sleep? He will be mad.
I'm so over it.
Same situation here but we both WOH full time. I hired someone.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:24
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Ask your husband for a budget to do what you want with.
Use your budget to hire a mower.
This is why I never wanted to be a SAHM. Sure, people are always going to have minor disagreements in marriage. But without your own money, the working spouse has too much power.
And I let my baby crawl in the mowed grass on the National Mall once for a short time.... she immediately picked up a tick! So no more crawling in grass I am afraid
Use your budget to hire a mower.
This is why I never wanted to be a SAHM. Sure, people are always going to have minor disagreements in marriage. But without your own money, the working spouse has too much power.
And I let my baby crawl in the mowed grass on the National Mall once for a short time.... she immediately picked up a tick! So no more crawling in grass I am afraid
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:24
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Think of this headline as "wife won't do the dishes".
Rather than seeing this as man's work, do a trade off. In te evening after he gets home he tidies the house and you go out and cut the lawn.
Reading comprehension: she said that when she tries to cut it herself, he takes over and then is a crybaby about it.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:23
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
if it's not a huge lawn and you enjoy the exercise, do it yourself on the weekends while he watches the kids.
otherwise get a teenager to come over for $20/30 minutes to cut it every 3 weeks.
talk grass sux with little kids and all the insects.
in general, he needs to grow up and start managing his family and property. get some pride and stop with the excuses.
otherwise get a teenager to come over for $20/30 minutes to cut it every 3 weeks.
talk grass sux with little kids and all the insects.
in general, he needs to grow up and start managing his family and property. get some pride and stop with the excuses.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:21
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Would you -- you, personally -- rather mow the grass yourself, or hire a lawn service?
Whichever you would personally rather do, I think that you should do that.
There's no intrinsic reason that mowing the grass should be his job, vs yours. Women are equally capable of cutting the grass. I know this from personal experience.But, one way or another, the grass does need to get mowed, by somebody -- him, you, or a lawn service.
Or you need to move to a multi-family building where you're not responsible for mowing your own grass.
+1
DW here and I mow our lawn because I don't mind yard work (I also do all weeding and pruning, etc.) and because I'm the cheap one. DH would happily hire a service. BUT he is a brat about other things that are on "his" list that I wind up doing because he doesn't get around to it. At those times, I treat him as he is acting, i.e., like one of my children having a tantrum: I IGNORE it. Just keep mowing. Every other week should suffice in the spring, then even less as summer drags on and things dry out.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:20
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
My sister loves to mow the lawn and is great exercise, go do it yourself you might enjoy it. If he pouts tell him to go stand in a corner if he is going to act like a 3yr old. Coordinate with naps and get her done.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:19
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Curious how others would handle this situation:
I'm a SAHM with young kids (one not yet walking.) My husband works long hours, sometimes not returning home until 7-8pm. Getting him to cut he grass is like pulling teeth. On his days off, he doesn't want to do it. "I'll do it tomorrow." But that never happens. Meanwhile, the kids can't even play in the backyard because the grass is so tall. He won't let me hire a lawn service, even though all of our neighbors use the same service, because he's so cheap. I can't cut it while he's at work, because I'm alone with the kids. If I attempt to cut the grass myself when he's home, he gets upset and ends up cutting it himself, but is mad and pouts the rest of the night.
It always gets cut before it looks horrible, the in the meantime, we can't enjoy our yard.
Do I hire a lawn service and be done with it? He will be mad.
Do I try and coordinate the kids naps and cut it myself while they sleep? He will be mad.
I'm so over it.
Tell him on Thursday that if he doesn't cut the grass by then, you'll go and do it on Saturday morning so that you can use the yard over the weekend.
If he does it and pouts, let him pout. I'm a guy and most will respond better with more exact details of if A, then B. He can accept B or propose a different solution, but he will have made that decision. Part of the pouting is having the decision-making taken from him. I understand that it is caused by his inaction, but that's part of the problem. So tell him what will happen and he can either accept it or change it. He also has the timeline within when he has to make a different decision or else accept your solution.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:18
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you mow it? Do you have a gas or electric mower? It is only hard if you have a push motor.
He gets mad when she mows it.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:17
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It always gets cut before it looks horrible,
Stop nagging him and take the kids to a park when it is "too long to enjoy"... I am not even sure what that means. We live next to woods and we always are in long grass.
My baby doesn't enjoy crawling through grass so long it's seeding.
You sound whiny.
Yes all those kids in country were traumatized by long grass.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:17
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
let it grow too tall then call the county enforcement on your own home to arrest your husband
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:16
Subject: Re:Husband won't cut grass.
always gets cut before it looks horrible, the in the meantime, we can't enjoy our yard
I don't understand this.
If it doesn't look horrible, it should be fine to use, right?
We can go at least two weeks in between mows before it looks horrible and becomes unusable. How long is it between mows?
I would sit down with him and put a bi-weekly mow on the Google calendar (or whatever you use), and either trade off or negotiate that week as to who will be doing it.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:15
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Anonymous wrote:Tell him you want to do it for the exercise.
Doesn't really sound like OP wants to do it, either. Which is fine, I don't want to cut our grass. Neither does my DH, and he was fine with it when I hired a lawn service.
Anonymous
07/31/2017 13:14
Subject: Husband won't cut grass.
Tell him you want to do it for the exercise.