Anonymous
07/30/2017 14:02
Subject: Re:Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:SuZQ154 wrote:Wow! This situation is confusing and would depend on the relationships of the people involved. If OP's relationship with Mom is friendly and supportive, then I might tell Mom.
My differing opinion stems from thinking what I would appreciate if OP's daughter were my own. I would want to know. Not to tell my daughter it is unhealthy or wrong, but I would want to help if her smoking is an indication of something else going on her life.
My daughter had an eating disorder in college I wish I would have known about sooner. Her friends thought it was "none of my business". I wish they would have told me.
Praying for the right decision.
And the daughter might have taken up smoking over the stress of her mom involving her in everything in her life.
Smoking is seriously gross, but the daughter is an adult. MYOB.
Right!
And she may be smoking as a crutch, because she gave up an even worse habit.
Anonymous
07/30/2017 14:00
Subject: Re:Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
This has to be a troll. There is no way anyone in their right mind would see this as an issue. No way.
Anonymous
07/30/2017 11:08
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Seriously OP? Count me as another person who opened this thread expecting it to be about a 12 year old. But 22????
She's an adult. Has been for a while. If she is smoking in her car, mom likely knows. If she is smoking in the house, mom knows. If mom knows and is upset about it, your busting her kid is going to embarrass her, and is not going to make the situation better. And if she has found a way to smoke without mom finding out, she will keep smoking.
Just out of curiosity, do you also tattle on 22 year olds having a beer?
She's an adult. Has been for a while. If she is smoking in her car, mom likely knows. If she is smoking in the house, mom knows. If mom knows and is upset about it, your busting her kid is going to embarrass her, and is not going to make the situation better. And if she has found a way to smoke without mom finding out, she will keep smoking.
Just out of curiosity, do you also tattle on 22 year olds having a beer?
Anonymous
07/30/2017 06:35
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
I certainly butted out when I saw my neighbor's adult son smoking in the back yard. If he was smoking pot I would have said something to the parents, otherwise it's not my business. Later, my neighbor complained to me that the son's girlfriend was leaving empty cigarette packs in the house and I still didn't think it was right to mention that it was the son, not the girlfriend who was smoking.
Perhaps if it were a relative or a very close friend, things could be said, but tattling on legal behavior by an adult is over the line.
Perhaps if it were a relative or a very close friend, things could be said, but tattling on legal behavior by an adult is over the line.
Anonymous
07/30/2017 05:49
Subject: Re:Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
SuZQ154 wrote:Wow! This situation is confusing and would depend on the relationships of the people involved. If OP's relationship with Mom is friendly and supportive, then I might tell Mom.
My differing opinion stems from thinking what I would appreciate if OP's daughter were my own. I would want to know. Not to tell my daughter it is unhealthy or wrong, but I would want to help if her smoking is an indication of something else going on her life.
My daughter had an eating disorder in college I wish I would have known about sooner. Her friends thought it was "none of my business". I wish they would have told me.
Praying for the right decision.
And the daughter might have taken up smoking over the stress of her mom involving her in everything in her life.
Smoking is seriously gross, but the daughter is an adult. MYOB.
SuZQ154
07/30/2017 05:14
Subject: Re:Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Wow! This situation is confusing and would depend on the relationships of the people involved. If OP's relationship with Mom is friendly and supportive, then I might tell Mom.
My differing opinion stems from thinking what I would appreciate if OP's daughter were my own. I would want to know. Not to tell my daughter it is unhealthy or wrong, but I would want to help if her smoking is an indication of something else going on her life.
My daughter had an eating disorder in college I wish I would have known about sooner. Her friends thought it was "none of my business". I wish they would have told me.
Praying for the right decision.
My differing opinion stems from thinking what I would appreciate if OP's daughter were my own. I would want to know. Not to tell my daughter it is unhealthy or wrong, but I would want to help if her smoking is an indication of something else going on her life.
My daughter had an eating disorder in college I wish I would have known about sooner. Her friends thought it was "none of my business". I wish they would have told me.
Praying for the right decision.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 22:57
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
My God, you sound like some of the losers on this board.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 21:00
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is why I love DCUM!!!!
You don't think these type of people exist, but they do!
You're a real life unicorn, OP!!!!!
+1
I love it that you are concerned about this young woman's smoking habit. But you shouldn't mention it to her mother.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 20:25
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:This is why I love DCUM!!!!
You don't think these type of people exist, but they do!
You're a real life unicorn, OP!!!!!
+1
Anonymous
07/28/2017 13:52
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
OP, get a life!
Anonymous
07/28/2017 12:15
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:SURGEON GENERAL'S WARNING: Inappropriately Involving Yourself In Other People's Business Can Result In An Abrupt Loss Of Friends/Acquaintances And A Potential Ass-Whupping.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 12:14
Subject: Re:Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
Let me guess OP. You are same person that calls CPS if you see a kid alone in car for 1 minute when a parent is paying for gas. Amirite?
Anonymous
07/28/2017 11:55
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
OP, out of curiosity, what would you tell the daughter if you did decide to pull her aside?
Anonymous
07/28/2017 11:40
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
She's 22, MYOB
Anonymous
07/28/2017 11:34
Subject: Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
She's 22. If she were 12, I'd say something.