Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally get it. I would be upset, too. Former DW here.

But having a 5 yr old in what became a sexless, abusive marriage, I want him to handle himself when he reads I can't do it. I will still have sex later and if it is a problem, I will say "please don't orgasm before I see you because I can't last that long. And I want to make you to orgasm."

It is not about you being attractive. It is about the fact that some of us just need to or operate better with one or two orgasms a day. It builds up. I spent way to long in a marriage where I was guilted for masterbating.

Be happy that he is getting off without straying.

Who actually talks like that?

A foreigner? Their English isn't great.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally get it. I would be upset, too. Former DW here.

But having a 5 yr old in what became a sexless, abusive marriage, I want him to handle himself when he reads I can't do it. I will still have sex later and if it is a problem, I will say "please don't orgasm before I see you because I can't last that long. And I want to make you to orgasm."

It is not about you being attractive. It is about the fact that some of us just need to or operate better with one or two orgasms a day. It builds up. I spent way to long in a marriage where I was guilted for masterbating.

Be happy that he is getting off without straying.

Who actually talks like that?

An EX DW

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread makes me sick. Porn is disgusting.

Then you're not watching the right kind

Anonymous wrote:I know you don't want to talk about it, but you need to get it out. Have a quick conversation, tell him it's really no big deal at all and if he wants some help next time, just let you know. I promise that a HJ or just being with him while he takes care of himself would be hugely appreciated.

Oh ffs, there is nothing to talk about! We're all allowed to masturbate in private and he doesn't need her to be asking if he needs help, clearly he doesn't!

Is this your first baby?

Before kids, I was very anti-porn and would get extremely upset over it (as in, storm out of the house in the middle of the night upset). Now, between taking care of a baby, hormones still completely out of whack, and intense pain during sex from scar tissue, I *wish* my DH would take care of himself and stop bothering me for it. Hell, I even told him he could get a girlfriend on the side.

Just keep in mind your hormones are likely making you feel more upset over this than you would normally be.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally get it. I would be upset, too. Former DW here.

But having a 5 yr old in what became a sexless, abusive marriage, I want him to handle himself when he reads I can't do it. I will still have sex later and if it is a problem, I will say "please don't orgasm before I see you because I can't last that long. And I want to make you to orgasm."

It is not about you being attractive. It is about the fact that some of us just need to or operate better with one or two orgasms a day. It builds up. I spent way to long in a marriage where I was guilted for masterbating.

Be happy that he is getting off without straying.

Who actually talks like that?

Who doesn't? Sounds like polite dinner conversations to me.

Anonymous wrote:Married couples still hide masturbation from one another?

Not so in this house!

Not your house. But definitely my house. When I masturbation DH is nowhere near. I have never seen or felt DH jerk off. Assume he does it but ... it's a private thing

Anonymous wrote:OP, totally get it. I would be upset, too. Former DW here.

But having a 5 yr old in what became a sexless, abusive marriage, I want him to handle himself when he reads I can't do it. I will still have sex later and if it is a problem, I will say "please don't orgasm before I see you because I can't last that long. And I want to make you to orgasm."

It is not about you being attractive. It is about the fact that some of us just need to or operate better with one or two orgasms a day. It builds up. I spent way to long in a marriage where I was guilted for masterbating.

Be happy that he is getting off without straying.

Who actually talks like that?

Anonymous wrote:OP, use your hands or your mouth.

I agree.

OP, totally get it. I would be upset, too. Former DW here.

But having a 5 yr old in what became a sexless, abusive marriage, I want him to handle himself when he reads I can't do it. I will still have sex later and if it is a problem, I will say "please don't orgasm before I see you because I can't last that long. And I want to make you to orgasm."

It is not about you being attractive. It is about the fact that some of us just need to or operate better with one or two orgasms a day. It builds up. I spent way to long in a marriage where I was guilted for masterbating.

Be happy that he is getting off without straying.

I tell mine to find some kind of video and help himself when I'm not in the mood. He already knows what videos I like. I don't want to interrupt him or he will come and "bother " me. We would laugh it off. not sure what's there to be upset about. Why did you 2 even get married if being naked, jerking off in front of each other is a no-no or an upsetting thing.

Of course you know that he has masturbated many hundreds of times since you were married, and before and during your pregnancy, right? It's nothing to do with your attractiveness. It's what guys do.