Anonymous
07/20/2017 17:45
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. My understanding is my brother didn't take any furniture. I think he rented a furnished apartment but I don't really know his living situation. I actually sort of get her impulse to redecorate since it's the stuff they shared (and a lot was inherited from my relatives) but I still feel really sad about the waist. Apart from concern for my brother and nephew I also assume this will indirectly impact my finances - if my parents feel compelled to help my brother (and I'm sure they do) there's less, for instance, to help with gifts toward our own college savings etc. That's not a main concern at all, but I do think that's in the back of my mind.
When his erratic behavior and threats required my ex move out, he initially didn't remove furnishings he owned from before marriage. However, I knew he would get them in the divorce and I replaced them before he claimed his stuff so here wouldn't be a night my kids and I didn't what we needed. Solid wood. Not IKEA. It was not an issue for the judge.
Your case sounds absolutely NOTHING like this one.
Your ex was forced from your home due to his threats & threatening/erratic behavior, of course a judge is going to sympathize with you, duh.
She also said that her SIL is spending extravagantly on non essential items. A judge is definitely going to take issue with reckless spending in an irresponsible way, especially when it's to the tune of emptying out their children's college funds to pay for her spa dates & over priced nonsense.
You're ridiculous if you think buying your "solid wood" furniture (lol) even compares to the frivolous spending in this case.
There's always one who just has to make everything about themselves though.
Written in response to the person who implied that only furniture already removed was acceptable to replace and that it should be IKEA type.
Uh, wrong again.
I'm not the paralegal who wrote what you quoted, I'm just someone with common sense.
Anonymous
07/20/2017 16:25
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. I heard that she has spent $300k on non-essentials (so not including food, mortgage, lawyers etc) in the past year.
Consider that you're getting this information from an extremely biased source who's trying to convince people to give him money. His story, as you have laid it out here, doesn't make sense. How do they even have $300k in outstanding credit lines for her to run up those kinds of bills?
NP here and I think this would be pretty easy to do over the course of several months. I probably have about $50K in credit lines among three different credit cards so it would only take me six months to go through $300K. Could actually go through it faster if you pay off the bill mid-month.
Anonymous
07/20/2017 16:04
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I heard that she has spent $300k on non-essentials (so not including food, mortgage, lawyers etc) in the past year.
Consider that you're getting this information from an extremely biased source who's trying to convince people to give him money. His story, as you have laid it out here, doesn't make sense. How do they even have $300k in outstanding credit lines for her to run up those kinds of bills?
Anonymous
07/20/2017 15:36
Subject: Reckless with money during divorce
You need to let this go. Your parents will bail out your brother if he "runs out" of money. My parents have done it for my siblings and DH's did it for his sister and sister's children. We don't expect to get an inheritance from either side and paying our own way, including private school for our kids.
Anonymous
07/20/2017 15:29
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't know how much he makes but we each inherited money when my grandparents died. Either he makes way more than I think, or they're in debt, or he's using the inheritance to cover her spending. At this rate, that will be gone soon if it isn't already.
"Non-essentials" can be highly subjective. This is a common complaint in divorces.
Anonymous
07/20/2017 11:32
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Op here. I don't know how much he makes but we each inherited money when my grandparents died. Either he makes way more than I think, or they're in debt, or he's using the inheritance to cover her spending. At this rate, that will be gone soon if it isn't already.
Anonymous
07/20/2017 11:01
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I heard that she has spent $300k on non-essentials (so not including food, mortgage, lawyers etc) in the past year.
How is that even possible? They must make a ton to have that much cash/credit available to blow.
Anonymous
07/20/2017 10:39
Subject: Re:Reckless with money during divorce
Op here. I heard that she has spent $300k on non-essentials (so not including food, mortgage, lawyers etc) in the past year.