Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I will add, the approach I always used to sleep with a woman early in dating was to invite her over to my house for dinner and a movie.

So should a woman who doesn't want to sleep with someone early in dating just decline or deflect these dates? And how early is "early"?

First, if she came over, and did not want to sleep with me, no big deal. (I usually let her make the first move).

Second, I made the suggestion. If she did not want to come over, but wanted to do something else, I was good with it. I can understand why someone might not want to come to my house after a few dates....While I do not think of myself as threatening, I am build like a linebacker: 6'2", 250 lbs mostly muscle.

Now, I have not done this in 20 years (been with wife that long). But, when I was single, I 1) wanted to show I as single by having her over, 2) show I can afford a decent but modest place, and 3) show off my cooking skills (I am a very good cook).

With that said, my experience was when a woman came to my house, we had sex most of the time. Not all, but most.

OP using 'we' too quickly has been a red flag with two men for me. They ended up being very jealous and controlling in passive aggressive ways.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I will add, the approach I always used to sleep with a woman early in dating was to invite her over to my house for dinner and a movie.

So should a woman who doesn't want to sleep with someone early in dating just decline or deflect these dates? And how early is "early"?

Yes, you decline this, unless you want to gave sex with him. This is classic Netflix and chill. If you want something more, you hold out on sex until you're exclusive and in a committed relationship.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the responses.

Here's another interaction that hit a nerve. He went away to some place without cell service and we've been chatting on one of the apps that uses wifi, but I had to download it and I've never used it before. I mentioned I don't see his messages right away, apologized for taking so long to respond sometimes.

He said, "LOL we need to get your phone fixed at some point."

WE don't need to do anything about my phone that works just fine.

Trying not to jump ship so soon. Trying to wait it out. Probably going to run for the hills. UGH.

Run for the hills. I've had men come on strong, saying they'll get me a better new tv, buy countertops, take me on trips, yada yada yada. It's all big talk. Sounds good in the moment but not a single one of them EVER followed through on their big plans. Lesson learned.

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I will add, the approach I always used to sleep with a woman early in dating was to invite her over to my house for dinner and a movie.

So should a woman who doesn't want to sleep with someone early in dating just decline or deflect these dates? And how early is "early"?

PP here. I will add, the approach I always used to sleep with a woman early in dating was to invite her over to my house for dinner and a movie.

Guy here. It is either creepy or someone too immature to realize it is creepy.

At 18, we were planning a life together on the second date. Immature.

Same thing at 30: creepy.

Some people just really like camping.