Here's someone maybe a little more relatable http://www.celebsnow.co.uk/celebrity-news/little-mixs-perrie-edwards-truth-behind-stomach-scar-481935

Stars with Scars:http://www.thedailybeast.com/stars-with-scars-kate-middleton-tina-fey-and-more

My son ran headfirst into the side of our house when he was five. (He was chasing his brother who zagged. DS1 didn't follow and continued forward, headfirst into the house.) He split his head open and had a long, purple scar down the middle of his forehead. We dubbed it his "Harry Potter scar" and that's what he said when other kids asked. "That? It's my Harry Potter scar." It made him sound sort of cool, in a nerdy, smart kid sort of way.

FWIW, I think scars are awesome.

I'll bet that there are a bunch of hairstyles if she's really feeling self conscious. Can't you pull he hair back in front and clip it in back underneath her crown? Half up is a common hairdo:

DD has a cleft lip scar. A few kids asked about it in kindergarten, and she told them what it was. She was with the same kids all through elementary school, and it was never an issue. We worried a bit (as parents) about it when she got to middle school. We never mentioned it to her though. As far as we know it has never been an issue at middle school either.
Honestly, lots of middle school kids look jacked up in their own way. The hygiene, the hairstyles that they will come to regret when they look at their school photos later in life, the acne they haven't figured out how to deal with.

My four year old has a scar between her eyes - I hope she doesn't get made fun of. She's never talked about it, and I don't intend to ever bring it up. DH calls it her harry potter scar

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Anonymous wrote:I feel you OP. My dd has a large port wine stain on her face. She gets a lot of curious looks. We are very open about and let people know it is her birthmark and that is doesn't hurt. We got her a stuffed animal off etsy that has a port wine stain and she loves it. We make sure we talk about openly such that she will not be conscious or ashamed of it. I think the more you say...this is who you are, it is cool, and anyone who is not nice about has bigger issues...like not being a nice person in general.

My son also has a large PWS on his face. Are you part of the facebook group?

Yes!

This thread is so helpful. My daughter just had surgery on her face and it is nice to hear how other people felt growing up with facial differences.

Anonymous wrote:Humor, humor, humor - works for everything! Works especially well with kids.

Kid#1: "What's that on your head?"
DD: "Oh shark attack."
Kid #1: "No really?"
DD "Yeah shark attack - my father is a pirate"
Kid #1: "No he's not. Seriously?"
DD: "Yes seriously."
Kid #2: "Your dad works at NIH!"
DD:" He's a weekend pirate"

Kid #1:"Why is your hair like that"
DD: "Had a run in with a sloth."
Kid #1: "Sloth?"
DD: "Yeah, they are slow but surprising irritable if you run into them."
Kid #1: "nuh - uh"
DD: "For real. Have you seen the claws on them? Google it"

Stick to the story. She can change it periodically just to mess with them. Once it seems she doesn't care, neither will they.

I had a conversation today with a colleague who was teased horribly for a stutter when she was a child. She said that as soon as her attackers realized they couldn't upset her, they left her alone. There was no fun in it for them and they had no reason to feel satisfied so they left her alone.

I like the nonsense stories. They are a great way to deflect without antagonizing!

Humor, humor, humor - works for everything! Works especially well with kids.

Kid#1: "What's that on your head?"
DD: "Oh shark attack."
Kid #1: "No really?"
DD "Yeah shark attack - my father is a pirate"
Kid #1: "No he's not. Seriously?"
DD: "Yes seriously."
Kid #2: "Your dad works at NIH!"
DD:" He's a weekend pirate"

Kid #1:"Why is your hair like that"
DD: "Had a run in with a sloth."
Kid #1: "Sloth?"
DD: "Yeah, they are slow but surprising irritable if you run into them."
Kid #1: "nuh - uh"
DD: "For real. Have you seen the claws on them? Google it"

Stick to the story. She can change it periodically just to mess with them. Once it seems she doesn't care, neither will they.

I meant noticeable, not notification

I think you should take her to a doctor from advice. I had a small neck scar from a fall as a teen. It has faded with time. Just help her come up with a short answer when people ask. She needs to get used to answering about it but learn how to not feel bad, easier said then done, I know.

Maybe explain that a lot of people have something different about themselves that others initially notice, and they might or might not comment , but eventually people don't notice anymore once they know you.

A relative had a notification scar. I just don't notice it anymore.

Can you maybe post a picture of the scar (blurring out her face or anything else that might make her recognizable)?

I'm sure we'd be able to help you out much greater if we could see exactly what it looks like.

Hugs to you both!

What about a French braid?

The crossing of the sections of the hairs would sit on top of the scar.

Also, what about the really wide fabric headbands?
Plenty of girls wear them, especially in summer.