I have a female FWB in her early 50's (I'm 58) and it works great. She is financially independent and has no need for a man to support her and she is an empty nester. She loves her independence and I love mine and we have a great time together. We do typical dating stuff and travel together. The idea of a LT GF is appealing for emotional reasons but right now we are having a great time.

Anonymous wrote:Right now I have a FWB. We escort each other to events, see movies together and try to make ourselves available when the other is doing something where having a date/companion is helpful. We often have sex and sometimes we just get together to have sex. He's a really nice guy and a good friend but he's not what I'm hoping for long term. I'd really like a boyfriend. Being in love is a wonderful experience and I don't have that with my FWB.

Guy: not a lot of experience post divorce but 3 women I have been with for more few months want more than just someone to hang out with and have sex etc. shame as I just don't want a full relationship

Ladies - if you found one, would be okay with a FWB or would you hold out for a boyfriend?

Anonymous wrote:Right now I have a FWB. We escort each other to events, see movies together and try to make ourselves available when the other is doing something where having a date/companion is helpful. We often have sex and sometimes we just get together to have sex. He's a really nice guy and a good friend but he's not what I'm hoping for long term. I'd really like a boyfriend. Being in love is a wonderful experience and I don't have that with my FWB.

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I don't need to clean up after somebody else or do his laundry or write his thank you notes, or otherwise take on responsibility for another adult.

Men my age (50+) should be able to pick up after themselves, do their own laundry (or pay someone to do it), and write any note (thank you or otherwise) needed. If they cannot do these simple things, they are not adult but a very, very, very old child.

With an AARP card.

Boyfriend, ideally see each other 2-3 times per week. But I don't want to live together or get married at this point. I don't need to clean up after somebody else or do his laundry or write his thank you notes, or otherwise take on responsibility for another adult.

I am divorced, in my low 60s and very happily single. I would love to know a nice guy near my age who likes to go to a movie, dinner, watch the Nats (either on TV or at the stadium), or a few other standard activities. I would not be interested in sex with him unless I knew him for awhile, liked him and was attracted to him, trusted him, and knew he wasn't having sex with anyone else. Maybe even passed an STD test. I love sex, but I know the negative consequences very well and don't want to go there. I am not looking for this guy at all, but if he showed up unexpectedly I would be receptive to getting to know him.

Right now I have a FWB. We escort each other to events, see movies together and try to make ourselves available when the other is doing something where having a date/companion is helpful. We often have sex and sometimes we just get together to have sex.

I would love to have a relationship like this one. To be with somebody I cared about enought to have sex with and see for dates, etc.

Even better if she had a high sex drive and wanted to make lots of time for us to have sex.

Ladies - before you start a situtation like this one (i.e., a true FWB) do ask if he is having sex with anyone else? Most of the women I have dated have said either: 1) if we are having sex I want to be your only partner (less an ultimatum and more just rule of the relationship); or 2) nothing.

As far as rule of the relationship, I have felt that their request was simply "I do not want to have sex with you if you are having sex with other women." I thought it was a fair enough request in that I could either agree or move on down the road.

Right now I have a FWB. We escort each other to events, see movies together and try to make ourselves available when the other is doing something where having a date/companion is helpful. We often have sex and sometimes we just get together to have sex. He's a really nice guy and a good friend but he's not what I'm hoping for long term. I'd really like a boyfriend. Being in love is a wonderful experience and I don't have that with my FWB.

I'm looking for a girlfriend.

Where are you looking? Online? At happy hour? Via friends? At Harris Teeter when you are there?

Please tell us.

I'm looking for a girlfriend.