Anonymous
05/15/2017 07:28
Subject: Re:Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are you/him?
I'm 36. I have two kids. He's 40.
You're lucky to have any dates.
Thank you for your comment.
PP is crude but spot on. You're 36 with two kids. You need to be LESS picky, not more picky. THIS guy is the prize, he's 40 with no kids. His opportunities are endless, as opposed to you, who has an immense amount of baggage. You should feel fortunate, he can date much younger than you but he for some god forsaken reason chose you.
God forsaken reason? I'm a wonderful person. That's the reason.
If he has endless opportunities, I'm happy for him. He is a great guy and deserves every happiness. Im not looking to lock down any man despite reservations.
And having children means I need to be picky as hell. If I wasn't picky then shame on me.
Anonymous
05/14/2017 21:49
Subject: Re:Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are you/him?
I'm 36. I have two kids. He's 40.
You're lucky to have any dates.
Thank you for your comment.
PP is crude but spot on. You're 36 with two kids. You need to be LESS picky, not more picky. THIS guy is the prize, he's 40 with no kids. His opportunities are endless, as opposed to you, who has an immense amount of baggage. You should feel fortunate, he can date much younger than you but he for some god forsaken reason chose you.
Anonymous
05/14/2017 21:45
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:
Treat them mean - keep them keen.
Boys, if you treat 'em like shit, they'll love you forever.
Anonymous
05/14/2017 21:44
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Women are amazing. They look for ways to NOT date someone while men look for reasons TO date someone. Women don't deserve mates.
Anonymous
05/14/2017 13:23
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How does a guy see a future with you just from one date?
Yeah, this gives me some concern, too.
What if his version of the future is he'd consider asking you on a second date ? As opposed to running down the aisle tomorrow. It's not high school - communicate
Anonymous
05/14/2017 13:13
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Went on a date last night with a guy I met on okCupid. It was a long date, above average conversation. We had been texting for almost 2 weeks beforehand. He is a very nice guy. It seems like he's really into me and sees a future with me. The thing is, in person, he had a kind of awkward energy about him and I didn't feel a ton of attraction. Do you trust your gut instinct here and move on, or would you give the guy another try? He was definitely very nervous.
You will much prefer a guy who isn't that into you, who ignores you, doesn't call or text, is smug and arrogant, who texts people while he's on a date with you? Who doesn't see a future with you beyond a BJ?
I'm like the guy you dated. Nice, kind, humble, and supposedly smart. But a bit awkward, and eager if I meet someone I like, because women I really like are uncommon.
Treat them mean - keep them keen.
Anonymous
05/14/2017 13:04
Subject: Re:Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are you/him?
I'm 36. I have two kids. He's 40.
You're lucky to have any dates.
Wow you are so lame, and if you have a a partner, I assure you they think you're an asshole and hate you.
Anonymous
05/14/2017 13:03
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Went on a date last night with a guy I met on okCupid. It was a long date, above average conversation. We had been texting for almost 2 weeks beforehand. He is a very nice guy. It seems like he's really into me and sees a future with me. The thing is, in person, he had a kind of awkward energy about him and I didn't feel a ton of attraction. Do you trust your gut instinct here and move on, or would you give the guy another try? He was definitely very nervous.
I almost feel like if I see him again, I'm leading him on, I don't want to hurt his feelings. But is it possible that he was really off last night and I will get more into him if we spend more time together? I know anything's possible, but what's your experience/advice?
What I've learned from this is it's better to meet quicker and see what it's like in real life! (hard because we are both busy) But that's what I will try to do in the future.
Thoughts?
In my many years of dating, I've learned that you have to trust your gut. If your spidey senses tell you something is wrong in a negative way with this guy, even if you can't pinpoint exactly what, you should move on.
Early talk about a future could indicate a commitment phobe. They lay it on thick in the beginning to hook you in, then pull a disappearing act when they feel anxious about actually fulfilling the promise of a future together and a relationship.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 21:44
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
he's a future cuckold. prepare yourself.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 21:22
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
OP, is he your physical type? If yes, I might give it another chance. If not, no.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 21:20
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
If you aren't sexually attracted to him then forget the second date.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 19:58
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:
Uh, no I don't want an asshole. I want someone who treats me well and I have a spark with. It's ok to want both.
Those women you like who are really uncommon, does physical attraction come into play or is it just about their brilliant minds? Women have every right to want to feel strong attraction to a partner, same as men.
It's amazing how many divorced women I have met who "don't want an asshole like their ex" but are still searching for their next asshole husband. Nice guys aren't attractive. I understand this behavior because I fight it in myself.
Chemistry is uncommon because I do need a fantastic intellect and personality, combined with someone who has done something significant with their life (just like me). Like most men, for looks I am much more flexible than most women, and definitely don't have to have anyone classically beautiful. I don't need thigh gap or abs. I've dated every race that I am aware of, heights from 4'11" to 6' and a very wide range of ages.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 19:32
Subject: Re:Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are you/him?
I'm 36. I have two kids. He's 40.
You're lucky to have any dates.
Thank you for your comment.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 19:22
Subject: Re:Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old are you/him?
I'm 36. I have two kids. He's 40.
You're lucky to have any dates.
Anonymous
05/13/2017 19:20
Subject: Say yes to 2nd date?
Anonymous wrote:Above-average conversation and a little awkward? I'd have a second date.
Above average conversation, awkwardness (and just as an aside, 1x month sex) pretty much seems to sum up the vast majority of posters' marriages here.