Anonymous
05/17/2017 22:40
Subject: Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Err on the side of caution. No to any sleepovers with anyone. There's no need. Friends can come over. She can go over friends' houses. But no sleepovers.
--lesbian mom of 2 teenagers
Seems like the child would be robbed of some quintessential teenage social events because of her sexual orientation.
"Sexual orientation" at 14? Please.
i knew I was straight at 14. no different
It's very different. 14 year olds who claim to be gay are dealing with serious mental or emotional issues in their lives, and this is how it manifests itself. Or they are just trying on this week's latest fad.
In either case, OP, I think you have issues bigger than sleepovers to worry about.
Really?? You had my comment deleted you ignorant bigot?
Anonymous
05/17/2017 21:55
Subject: Re:Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should deny your kid sleepovers because she's gay. As the PPs said, you should generally know if it's a love interest or a friend. And if you don't know, ask.
How many parents would let their heterosexual daughters have a sleepover with a male friend, if they didn't think he was a love interest?
Anonymous
05/15/2017 18:10
Subject: Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Err on the side of caution. No to any sleepovers with anyone. There's no need. Friends can come over. She can go over friends' houses. But no sleepovers.
--lesbian mom of 2 teenagers
Seems like the child would be robbed of some quintessential teenage social events because of her sexual orientation.
"Sexual orientation" at 14? Please.
i knew I was straight at 14. no different
It's very different. 14 year olds who claim to be gay are dealing with serious mental or emotional issues in their lives, and this is how it manifests itself. Or they are just trying on this week's latest fad.
In either case, OP, I think you have issues bigger than sleepovers to worry about.
Anonymous
05/15/2017 15:56
Subject: Re:Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
I don't think you should deny your kid sleepovers because she's gay. As the PPs said, you should generally know if it's a love interest or a friend. And if you don't know, ask.
Anonymous
05/15/2017 10:01
Subject: Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DD is 14 and came out to us as gay a few months ago. Totally expected and we're fine. However, how do we handle same-sex friendships and sleepovers. She has friends of both genders and often wants to spend the night at her male friends house because of shared interests. On the same token, she often wants to spend the night with female friends and we don't know how to approach it. I don't like the idea of her staying the night at her male friends house, because although she may not be interested they may be and I'd hate if she was in a position where she had little to no power. Her two best friends are male, and sweet boys (ahem and nerdy) so I trust them more than most boys that age. Thoughts? How will I know if her same sex friends coming over are just friends?
Ask her?
Oh sure. And if she plans on having a night full of hot sex, do you think she would be stupid enough to tell mom she's attracted to her?
If you can't talk to your kid and/or don't trust your kid to give you a straight answer, then that's the issue right there. Not the kid's sexual orientation.
Anonymous
05/15/2017 07:33
Subject: Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Err on the side of caution. No to any sleepovers with anyone. There's no need. Friends can come over. She can go over friends' houses. But no sleepovers.
--lesbian mom of 2 teenagers
Seems like the child would be robbed of some quintessential teenage social events because of her sexual orientation.
"Sexual orientation" at 14? Please.
i knew I was straight at 14. no different
True but barring molestation you don't know if you got for the other team until probably 16 and lots of therapy
You're a fucking idiot.
Anonymous
05/15/2017 07:12
Subject: Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't think most people would have a problem with teen sex if the possibility of pregnancy wasn't in the equation.
In your scenario it pregnancy isn't a possible outcome.
So do you have a problem with a teen in a mutually agreed upon and safe sexual relationship?
(Not OP) A lot of parents don't feel that kids are ready for sex at 14...and there is no such thing as 100% safe sex. Especially with a young teen's judgement.
No shit. I wouldn't want my 14 year old daughter engaging in oral sex with a male OR female. Even if there's no chance of pregnancy.
What you want and what your daughter does are two different things. There is a pretty high statistical probability that your daughter already is have oral sex.
Anonymous
05/15/2017 00:01
Subject: Sleepovers with lesbian identified DD
Anonymous wrote:I simply asked my daughter if there was anything more than a friendship between them. I was satisfied with the answer and moved on. Her other dear friend is straight.
Most people start having some type of sex in high school. Let's not kid ourselves.
Yeah, and most parents don't give their approval.