There is a 19 year age gap between my husband and myself, so... if they're happy, it could be a good experience for both of them.

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Anonymous wrote:They are happy!!!!! You know your son. As long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about. I am a woman and I would not date your her men (my husband is 12 years older than me), but if she is attracted to someone younger then why not! Who cares what people think. All that matters is that your son is happy and that none is taking advantage of him.

You're not a mother, are you?

What do you mean, "as long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about?" What an idiotic statement. People can be "very happy" when they are about to drive over a cliff.

I have two daughters thank you very much... a happy kid does not want to die. Yours is the idiotic statement.

Whoooishhhhnn. That was the sound of pp's point going right over your head.

When you just present the facts of their ages and circumstances, yes, it does seem weird and troubling. But, you say that it works for them and you like her and the influence she has on your son. So, go with that. Sometimes the basic facts are not the most essential ones-- and if you know it's okay, then be okay with it. As others have noted, don't lie about her age. But, I would sidestep the question with "a lady never tells" and a wink or something like that. Don't open up yourself or your son to judgment.

I think the age difference and with her being older is odd. But it's more important that she is kind and a good person. If he were dating someone his own age who was messed up or mean, etc, I would consider that more of a problem.

President Macron of France married his former teacher who is 24 years older than he. DW is 8 years younger than I. It was a little weird when I was a 30 year old lawyer and she was a 22 year old college dropout. But the age gap means nothing now. I had an affair with my 25 year old speech therapist when I was 16. My father guessed that this was going on because he was only paying for one hour sessions but she had a free hour afterwards and always invited me to stay. It didn't bother my father and it did me a world of good. I never got a broken heart because I never expected it to last. But it was great. She changed jobs and right after that I found a girl one year my junior. Granted that felt a little weird to me because I wasn't used to dating a virgin who was nervous about sex. But I had to learn to accept that.

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Anonymous wrote:The relationship either speaks very highly about your son as a mature individual or very lowly about the girl as an individual with emotional maturity as an 18 y/o man.

+1. I wouldn't like this. At all. Not much you can do about it, but I wouldn't be particularly welcoming to this person. That is, I would be polite and friendly, as I am to all visitors to my home, but I wouldn't invite her to family activities/gatherings or allow DS to invite her on vacation with us, etc.

Oooh, you're a cold fish! I feel bad for whoever marriies into your family.
This is just two young people enjoying some of their youth together and your panties are all in a bunch!

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Anonymous wrote:They are happy!!!!! You know your son. As long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about. I am a woman and I would not date your her men (my husband is 12 years older than me), but if she is attracted to someone younger then why not! Who cares what people think. All that matters is that your son is happy and that none is taking advantage of him.

You're not a mother, are you?

What do you mean, "as long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about?" What an idiotic statement. People can be "very happy" when they are about to drive over a cliff.

I have two daughters thank you very much... a happy kid does not want to die. Yours is the idiotic statement.

Anonymous wrote:They are happy!!!!! You know your son. As long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about. I am a woman and I would not date your her men (my husband is 12 years older than me), but if she is attracted to someone younger then why not! Who cares what people think. All that matters is that your son is happy and that none is taking advantage of him.

You're not a mother, are you?

What do you mean, "as long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about?" What an idiotic statement. People can be "very happy" when they are about to drive over a cliff.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think most would bar an eye if your son were the older one.

You bet I would. What would a 24 year old man be doing with a *high school* senior. To put it into perspective, a 24 year old could be a first year associate at a law firm. I can only imagine the incredulity of everyone at the office if he were to bring in his high school girlfriend to work functions.

+1000

It's weird, OP. Please don't tell us that he took her to the prom. And that she actually agreed to go.

They are happy!!!!! You know your son. As long as he is happy that is all you should be concerned about. I am a woman and I would not date your her men (my husband is 12 years older than me), but if she is attracted to someone younger then why not! Who cares what people think. All that matters is that your son is happy and that none is taking advantage of him.

New French president is married to a woman 24 years his senior. So there.

Sorry - the relationship violates the Basic Law of Age Gaps. Older persons Age, divided by 2 and then add 7. That is as young as you can go. Prefer closer in Age but the Law of Age Gaps is the Law. For a 24 year old, the youngest she can go is 19.