Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:32     Subject: He won't spend the night
I hate spending the night. I don't sleep well. Often need to take ambien. I don't want to take ambien around someone new that I'm dating. So I leave. Eventually, I relax but it takes a lot more than 5 weeks.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:32     Subject: He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women here, I never spent the night. Sex was ok - but sleeping over was for relationships.


So when does it become a relationship?

Seems like five weeks of sex would become a relationship.


Depends. Sometimes sex is just sex. Sex doesn't turn into a relationship. Talking and feelings and time do.

5 weeks of sex to me is just 5 weeks of sex. But many people have said I'm an emotionless drone.


You sound like an emotionless drone.


Thank you!
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:28     Subject: He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women here, I never spent the night. Sex was ok - but sleeping over was for relationships.


So when does it become a relationship?

Seems like five weeks of sex would become a relationship.


Depends. Sometimes sex is just sex. Sex doesn't turn into a relationship. Talking and feelings and time do.

5 weeks of sex to me is just 5 weeks of sex. But many people have said I'm an emotionless drone.


You sound like an emotionless drone.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:27     Subject: He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women here, I never spent the night. Sex was ok - but sleeping over was for relationships.


So when does it become a relationship?

Seems like five weeks of sex would become a relationship.


Depends. Sometimes sex is just sex. Sex doesn't turn into a relationship. Talking and feelings and time do.

5 weeks of sex to me is just 5 weeks of sex. But many people have said I'm an emotionless drone.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:24     Subject: He won't spend the night
Why would he spend the night? Sex is over, time to go
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:23     Subject: He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:Women here, I never spent the night. Sex was ok - but sleeping over was for relationships.


So when does it become a relationship?

Seems like five weeks of sex would become a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:18     Subject: He won't spend the night
Women here, I never spent the night. Sex was ok - but sleeping over was for relationships.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:03     Subject: Re:He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:Falling asleep with someone is one thing, waking up the next morning is another..he's not ready for the commitment that implies.


Yeah, it may mean he's not ready to spend back-to-back days.
Or it could be sleeping habits, snoring, etc.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 07:02     Subject: He won't spend the night
He wants sex, not a relationship. And if you met him online, he's probably juggling other sex partners.

Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 06:58     Subject: He won't spend the night
5 weeks is definitely not too soon for sex OP. Don't listen to these crazies.

Not sleeping over would be an immediate dealbreaker for me. I'd be so offended and cuddling all night is the best part.

Ask him though!
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 06:58     Subject: Re:He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when you sleep with someone you barely know.



Next time, get to know someone enough to know whether he will spend the night, before sleeping with him.


Don't listen to this bitch. Sometimes there's no way to know .


If you spend enough time with someone while fully clothed, you can learn pretty much everything you need to know before moving to an intimate relationship.


Absolutely not true in the case of some potential partners.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 06:57     Subject: He won't spend the night
I have a hard time sleeping in a new bed, maybe he's the same way.

What would happen if you tried to sleep over at his house?
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 06:54     Subject: He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:Five weeks is rushing sex and rushing spending the night. Slow down. You don't know him.


What? One of the main reasons to be in an adult relationship is sex so why wouldn't you do that rather sooner than later? Female here and some of you are unbelievable

OP I got nothing but guessing intimacy issues
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 06:45     Subject: He won't spend the night
Five weeks is rushing sex and rushing spending the night. Slow down. You don't know him.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2017 06:30     Subject: Re:He won't spend the night
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when you sleep with someone you barely know.



Next time, get to know someone enough to know whether he will spend the night, before sleeping with him.


Don't listen to this bitch. Sometimes there's no way to know .


If you spend enough time with someone while fully clothed, you can learn pretty much everything you need to know before moving to an intimate relationship.


Except whether an intimate relationship works for either of you. You don't really know how mismatched your libidos or skills are until you have a long-term sexual relationship.

Signed,
Someone who married a virgin