Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 16:12     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:I worked in daycares during college. Until you spend all day/every day at them, you have NO WAY of knowing what goes on there when parents aren't around.


+1
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 16:07     Subject: Re:Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:I worked at centers that are routinely described as "the best". All lead teachers were degreed. NAEYC accredited. Etc. I also worked for licensing. My experiences in daycares all over this area convinced me that my kids would never attend one. Just a couple of examples of hundreds - I taught the academic part of the day in a pre-K 4 class. Loved the kids! I was there from 8:30 until about 12:30. I saw a teacher put her coat over a child, pretend to hug him, and twist his little ear till he screamed in pain. And she bragged about doing it all the time because it left no mark. I saw a teacher shove a pacifier into a child's mouth in the toddler room causing his mouth to bleed. Incident report said he fell. I saw a teacher take a child into the bathroom out of sight (she thought) and hit her with shoe because the child kept taking shoes off. I saw a teacher literally throw a child into a chair. The child hit his head. Hard. Incident report said child slipped while trying to sit in a chair. I found a child in the daycare parking lot when I left one afternoon. No one had noticed he was missing. I could go in. These were degreed teachers that everyone raved about. The sad part is the kids still ran up and hugged them every day. Of course I reported. The teachers were "counseled".

Before I get accused of being a nanny, I would never leave a young child with a nanny either. No oversight at all. You say I am "lucky to have the choice to SAH". No. We made the choice. We sacrificed so that a parent would be the primary care giver.


Name the center.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 16:07     Subject: Re:Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
I worked at centers that are routinely described as "the best". All lead teachers were degreed. NAEYC accredited. Etc. I also worked for licensing. My experiences in daycares all over this area convinced me that my kids would never attend one. Just a couple of examples of hundreds - I taught the academic part of the day in a pre-K 4 class. Loved the kids! I was there from 8:30 until about 12:30. I saw a teacher put her coat over a child, pretend to hug him, and twist his little ear till he screamed in pain. And she bragged about doing it all the time because it left no mark. I saw a teacher shove a pacifier into a child's mouth in the toddler room causing his mouth to bleed. Incident report said he fell. I saw a teacher take a child into the bathroom out of sight (she thought) and hit her with shoe because the child kept taking shoes off. I saw a teacher literally throw a child into a chair. The child hit his head. Hard. Incident report said child slipped while trying to sit in a chair. I found a child in the daycare parking lot when I left one afternoon. No one had noticed he was missing. I could go in. These were degreed teachers that everyone raved about. The sad part is the kids still ran up and hugged them every day. Of course I reported. The teachers were "counseled".

Before I get accused of being a nanny, I would never leave a young child with a nanny either. No oversight at all. You say I am "lucky to have the choice to SAH". No. We made the choice. We sacrificed so that a parent would be the primary care giver.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:56     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
you should look at Childtime or Bar-T -- you might be happier there.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:52     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Another Simon Center parent and supporter here. The OP sounds a bit unhinged.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:50     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why was detergent given to children to play with?


Apparently, it was given to them as a "sensory experience." There are so many things that are wrong with this whole thing. Why would a daycare provider even think it would be a good idea to let children have soap at all? Masking it as a "sensory" experience is plain stupidity.


Gotta wash their hands


Oh, please. Of course children use soap to wash their hands. This provider gave the children laundry soap in a drinking cup.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:31     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why was detergent given to children to play with?


Apparently, it was given to them as a "sensory experience." There are so many things that are wrong with this whole thing. Why would a daycare provider even think it would be a good idea to let children have soap at all? Masking it as a "sensory" experience is plain stupidity.


Gotta wash their hands
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:27     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:Why was detergent given to children to play with?


Apparently, it was given to them as a "sensory experience." There are so many things that are wrong with this whole thing. Why would a daycare provider even think it would be a good idea to let children have soap at all? Masking it as a "sensory" experience is plain stupidity.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:22     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the daycare people are here posing as "parents." No body gets this defensive about a good experience at a daycare.

Don't think giving a 16 mo old detergent is acceptable. Preposterous. Who cares if he actually drank it?


Actually we ARE legit parents at the Simon Center. If you re-read, the detergent incident was NOT at the Simon Center. Nobody is here defending the alleged detergent incident at Bright Horizons. The parents commenting are with the Simon Center. Sounds like you must not make friends with you children's classmates' parents? Word does travel fast among a close knit community, so of course people might be flocking here to read this and want to weigh in. Have you not thought that we've already spoken with the administration about these alleged incidents and have heard the OTHER side of the story. One that also deserves a voice, yet sadly won't ever really get one.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:11     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Why was detergent given to children to play with?
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:11     Subject: Re:Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
We had kids at the Simon Center for a total of ten years. We are still friends with lots of Center kids and parents. I never witnessed or heard a single case of a child being mistreated. Frankly I don't believe it.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:07     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Yeah, the daycare people are here posing as "parents." No body gets this defensive about a good experience at a daycare.

Don't think giving a 16 mo old detergent is acceptable. Preposterous. Who cares if he actually drank it?
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:03     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Did the teacher give it to the kid as part of a project?
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:03     Subject: Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I worked in daycares during college. Until you spend all day/every day at them, you have NO WAY of knowing what goes on there when parents aren't around.


+1. I swore then that my kids would never spend so much as an hour in daycare. I've seen too much horrific stuff in too many "great daycares". I wouldn't leave a young child with a nanny either. Some things are just not worth the risk.


I"ve never worked in daycare, but my office overlooks an purportedly well respected day care facility. I have plenty of opportunity to observe the daycare workers interacting with the kids. I'm sure the parents of many of those kids also swear that those workers love their kids--and I"m sure that they do like them, but some of the behaviour is pretty eye-opening.


So who takes care of your kids? I'd MUCH prefer a large well-run daycare (which the ones with good reps generally are) to a nanny or home facility. If you saw me with my kids I've been known to snap at them, grab them at times if they misbehave, etc. I spend a LOT of time in our daycare, including when teachers don't see me, and I've never seen a teacher do either of those things. In fact, they love on the kids more than most parents do - and kids running to hug and kiss them? Laughing while being spun around or tickled? Pretty good indicator they're happy. B
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2017 15:02     Subject: Re:Daycare nightmare -- warning about Bright Horizons - Reston Commerce Metro and Simon Center
Anonymous wrote:

X1000!


Didn't she say her child actually had chemical burns in her throat? If true, she is hardly overreacting. Maybe your standards are a little low.


no- she said her doctor found 'throat irritation consistent with drinking detergent' Who knows what that means. She is a little hysterical. It could mean that OP took the child to the doctor, and the doctor said well her throat appears a little irrititated, and she said 'is that b/c she drank detergent' and the doctor said 'could be.'
It could also mean the child has a cold- or whatever.
The teacher stopped her child from drinking detergent. She went nuts and tried to have the teacher fired, left the center, reported it to licensing, and then tried public shaming by name.