Can a guest wear a white top?

Anonymous wrote:What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

I think it's a bigger thing in other parts of the country. I am from NYC, where we love fancy weddings, but this isn't so much of a thing. I told the moms to wear whatever they'd like, as long as it fit the level of formality of the wedding. I married a Texan, and the first question his female friends and relatives asked me when we got engaged was, "What are your COLORS?!???" Lol

Relax and don't become a bride-zilla! If what she wears is a "mistake" it will be on her and not you. 99% of the people at the wedding won't give a damn. Frankly, you should be more concerned that the bridesmaids dresses aren't hideous which seems to be the norm.

My bridesmaids wore navy blue dresses. My MIL asked what color they'd be wearing and then intentionally went out and bought a navy blue dress to match. I thought it was weird and definitely not what I would have chosen if she had asked my opinion...but she didn't ask my opinion so I just kept my mouth shut. It REALLY did not destroy the wedding...and we don't even have photos of the entire wedding party plus my MIL or anything...."wedding party photos" and "family photos" were separate anyway.

One of my mom's co-workers (a woman in her 50s) wore a white dress to my wedding. Odd...but whatever.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

That's what bridezilla says...you sound like a pain in the ass. Get over it.

What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

This happened at another wedding. I think the mom felt like it was her wedding on some level. They stopped her from wearing the white dress in the 11th hour.

Anonymous wrote:Only virgins wear white your mom had sex to make you

The bride has been around the block a few times too, so why can she wear it.

Is she wearing a veil?

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP, I get it, I don't know why everyone is jumping all over you. This is your wedding and you will have pictures of your family on this day for the rest of your life, and you don't want to cringe every time you look at those pictures.

If the color of your mother's dress would cause you to cringe, your mother isn't the problem.

Op, this is just ridiculous to get so upset over such a little thing. I smell drama queen. Take your mother out to lunch and go dress shopping, make a moment out of it and give her the attention she is craving. Then move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh OP, I get it, I don't know why everyone is jumping all over you. This is your wedding and you will have pictures of your family on this day for the rest of your life, and you don't want to cringe every time you look at those pictures.

My bridesmaids wore green and I told my mom to wear any color but purple, because I can't stand green and purple together. Guess what color dress she bought? I told her I was unhappy but didn't go as far as telling her she couldn't wear it. A week or so before the wedding, she told me that she tried on her dress again and didn't like the way it fit, so she went out and bought a lovely cranberry colored dress that looked great with the wedding party. If my opinion had anything to do with her choice she never admitted it to me. Hoping for a similar result for you -- maybe expressing your opinion and then letting it go will give her time to rethink.

It's obvious why you don't understand previous posters' responses to OP. You are someone that would seriously let the color of a family member's dress cause you to "cringe every time you look at those [wedding] pictures." You don't get how pathetic that is.

And name calling in an anonymous forum is definitely not pathetic. I was just adding a supportive voice to the conversation. It's one dress for one day, mom should listen to her daughter's opinion. When and if my daughters get married I will ask them what they want me to wear and listen to the answer. That's just basic consideration to a bride.

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP, I get it, I don't know why everyone is jumping all over you. This is your wedding and you will have pictures of your family on this day for the rest of your life, and you don't want to cringe every time you look at those pictures.

My bridesmaids wore green and I told my mom to wear any color but purple, because I can't stand green and purple together. Guess what color dress she bought? I told her I was unhappy but didn't go as far as telling her she couldn't wear it. A week or so before the wedding, she told me that she tried on her dress again and didn't like the way it fit, so she went out and bought a lovely cranberry colored dress that looked great with the wedding party. If my opinion had anything to do with her choice she never admitted it to me. Hoping for a similar result for you -- maybe expressing your opinion and then letting it go will give her time to rethink.

It's obvious why you don't understand previous posters' responses to OP. You are someone that would seriously let the color of a family member's dress cause you to "cringe every time you look at those [wedding] pictures." You don't get how pathetic that is.

Oh OP, I get it, I don't know why everyone is jumping all over you. This is your wedding and you will have pictures of your family on this day for the rest of your life, and you don't want to cringe every time you look at those pictures.

My bridesmaids wore green and I told my mom to wear any color but purple, because I can't stand green and purple together. Guess what color dress she bought? I told her I was unhappy but didn't go as far as telling her she couldn't wear it. A week or so before the wedding, she told me that she tried on her dress again and didn't like the way it fit, so she went out and bought a lovely cranberry colored dress that looked great with the wedding party. If my opinion had anything to do with her choice she never admitted it to me. Hoping for a similar result for you -- maybe expressing your opinion and then letting it go will give her time to rethink.

Do people really spend time obsessing over what their parents wear to their wedding? I can't fathom this.