Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 16:05     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did a few years of travel teams and the parents were likely 75% male, 25% female. With kids in tow I never saw people trying to hook up. The whole environment was about as non affair friendly as I can imagine. Right up there with church work group trips. If people are looking to stray there are many better places like hotel bars on business trips.


This.

I've done travel sport for 4 years, I have not seen any affairs yet. It would be quite difficult to start one. You don't want to get anything started with your kids teammates' parents. I don't find that environment affiair friendly - everyone is fixated on their kid.


My experience has been different as I have had some success with a mother on son's hockey team. It is easier to work logistics as they get older in terms of getting in a play date while the kids have a movie night.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 15:59     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP what makes you thing something is going on?
Either way you need to get to the bottom of it, but don't let on to your spouse.


There is another Dad that has been acting a little strange around me and totally standoffish when my wife and I are at a game or practice. Nothing solid just a feeling but I am watching closely now.


Is this a noticeable change from how he acted towards you before? You may just bring him up to your wife. Nothing accusatory but perhaps that you think that you are interested in getting drinks with him. See how she reacts.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 15:41     Subject: Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Affairs happen everywhere there is an opportunity


But only among deeply flawed people. I have had plenty of opportunity through work travel, etc., but it never happened


Exactly. And someone willing to subject their health and their partner's to a deadly std.


Big assumption: the married couple have sex.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 14:18     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:OP what makes you thing something is going on?
Either way you need to get to the bottom of it, but don't let on to your spouse.


There is another Dad that has been acting a little strange around me and totally standoffish when my wife and I are at a game or practice. Nothing solid just a feeling but I am watching closely now.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 12:45     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:I did a few years of travel teams and the parents were likely 75% male, 25% female. With kids in tow I never saw people trying to hook up. The whole environment was about as non affair friendly as I can imagine. Right up there with church work group trips. If people are looking to stray there are many better places like hotel bars on business trips.


This.

I've done travel sport for 4 years, I have not seen any affairs yet. It would be quite difficult to start one. You don't want to get anything started with your kids teammates' parents. I don't find that environment affiair friendly - everyone is fixated on their kid.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 12:00     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have heard a tale of an affair amongst one travel team. I'm always amazed when I hear of parents at a school having an affair with another parent. Poor kids!


There are two parents on my kid's classic soccer team that we have our suspicions about.

I'm sure it happens.


It does happen but a lot of what I see is flirting like HS. Perhaps it makes some people feel they are still attractive?


There are 2 parents always chatting it up and together. My son left his ball at the practice field. We drive back an hour later, everyone was gone but they were still talking while the kids were playing. Seems questionable.


Perhaps their kids just are friends. There are frequently kids who want to stay and play after my son's travel practice.
Anonymous
Post 04/01/2017 11:11     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have heard a tale of an affair amongst one travel team. I'm always amazed when I hear of parents at a school having an affair with another parent. Poor kids!


There are two parents on my kid's classic soccer team that we have our suspicions about.

I'm sure it happens.


It does happen but a lot of what I see is flirting like HS. Perhaps it makes some people feel they are still attractive?


There are 2 parents always chatting it up and together. My son left his ball at the practice field. We drive back an hour later, everyone was gone but they were still talking while the kids were playing. Seems questionable.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 19:03     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a 42 year old divorced male with two sons on travel teams. I'm also quite active with the PTA and other school parent activities. While the travel teams seem to be Dad oriented, the rest of my activities are very female dominated. I'm a decent looking successful guy and I am amazed at how many of the women subtly flirt asking about my dating life and would I like to meet for coffee some day. Some are single, but quite a few are married. So far I've politely said no as getting involved with a local school mom sounds like a potential train wreck. I don't need it nor do my kids. I really prefer the travel teams because it's mostly guys and the women are with their kids and its all very sports and kid oriented discussions.



Why do men think that if a woman shows interest in his life or if she smiles at him that she wants to f&$@ him? LOL


Oh please the cues are "I'd really like to get to know you better" or "i think we'd have a lot in common" or my personal favorite "You are SO unlike my husband". Some of us didn't just fall off the turnip truck. I run a public company and 2 minutes of googling and someone can find out what I earn. I do have lady friends who show an interest in my life because they know I'm a single dad with a big job and they really do want to help. I cherish them! Some are single, some are married but they all really care about me but especially my kids.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:56     Subject: Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Affairs happen everywhere there is an opportunity


But only among deeply flawed people. I have had plenty of opportunity through work travel, etc., but it never happened


Good grief, we are all flawed.


Just not deeply....
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:31     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:I'm a 42 year old divorced male with two sons on travel teams. I'm also quite active with the PTA and other school parent activities. While the travel teams seem to be Dad oriented, the rest of my activities are very female dominated. I'm a decent looking successful guy and I am amazed at how many of the women subtly flirt asking about my dating life and would I like to meet for coffee some day. Some are single, but quite a few are married. So far I've politely said no as getting involved with a local school mom sounds like a potential train wreck. I don't need it nor do my kids. I really prefer the travel teams because it's mostly guys and the women are with their kids and its all very sports and kid oriented discussions.



Why do men think that if a woman shows interest in his life or if she smiles at him that she wants to f&$@ him? LOL
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:31     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Never between parents. Butbetween a coach, and parent yes, I've heard that. Some of those soccer coaches are yummy.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:28     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
I'm a 42 year old divorced male with two sons on travel teams. I'm also quite active with the PTA and other school parent activities. While the travel teams seem to be Dad oriented, the rest of my activities are very female dominated. I'm a decent looking successful guy and I am amazed at how many of the women subtly flirt asking about my dating life and would I like to meet for coffee some day. Some are single, but quite a few are married. So far I've politely said no as getting involved with a local school mom sounds like a potential train wreck. I don't need it nor do my kids. I really prefer the travel teams because it's mostly guys and the women are with their kids and its all very sports and kid oriented discussions.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:19     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have heard a tale of an affair amongst one travel team. I'm always amazed when I hear of parents at a school having an affair with another parent. Poor kids!


There are two parents on my kid's classic soccer team that we have our suspicions about.

I'm sure it happens.


It does happen but a lot of what I see is flirting like HS. Perhaps it makes some people feel they are still attractive?
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:17     Subject: Re:Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:I have heard a tale of an affair amongst one travel team. I'm always amazed when I hear of parents at a school having an affair with another parent. Poor kids!


There are two parents on my kid's classic soccer team that we have our suspicions about.

I'm sure it happens.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 18:10     Subject: Travel Sport Affairs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Affairs happen everywhere there is an opportunity


But only among deeply flawed people. I have had plenty of opportunity through work travel, etc., but it never happened


I have had opportunities through women I meet at work but no woman on the planet is worth destroying my family. They trust, support, and believe in me.