Anonymous wrote:Well my SIL is insufferable on FB and in person!

+1 We must have the same SIL. Mine likes to post on FB about what an amazing parent she is. And I'm like, your kids live in a state of semi-neglect. I mean, they rarely bathe. I unfollowed her on FB a while ago. Wish I could unfollow her in real life too but unfortunately family events make that difficult.

Anonymous wrote:What makes her different than other people on FB. Look, I sympathize, but 90% of my relatives who are on FB annoy me.

I have the pretentious relative
I have the oversharer
I have the Meme of the Day Queen
I have the politiki -- one from the Left and one from the Right
I have the "I'm just here to update my photo log with 79 photos of the kids' day at the Park."
I have the "It's sooo obvious you are not on my special and select list of close friends."

That's good. I got off FB but one would always post pictures of her with the "booby" shirt. I'd classify her as an attention grabber or narcissist. A 40 year old with all booby shirts is a sad reality, lol.

I can't stand the narcissist or sociopath on FB. Tons of photos of themselves, and if there are other people they are in the photo. I have a niece and a former acquaintance. The acquaintance probably had 200 photos.

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Anonymous wrote:I can live with brags, humble or otherwise. It's the trying too hard to be witty, self-deprecating, etc that bugs me. How much time do people spend trying to come up with some of these dumb posts?

I agree, but THE worst are the vague, cryptic messages, like
"Worst day ever" or "Just shoot me" or "why does everything happen to me??".

They try & draw you in, but never, ever give details... classic attention seeking behavior!

Vaguebooking! It's the worst.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what I don't understand, and my SIL is like this too. Every single person I know who humblebrags frequently on FB has tons of FB friends posting supportive comments like "Wow, that's amazing, good for you" or "You deserve that Mercedes," etc. and has tons of FB friends and in real life. The ones I know who never humblebrag on FB (like me) rarely get any comments in general and don't have many friends on FB or real life. So my question is, if humblebragging is seen as so annoying and self-serving, then why are the humblebraggers so popular????

Because the humble brag or's friend one another. There are drawn together like magnets into online mutual appreciation echo chambers where they reward one another's bad behavior.

True -- and the "friendships" are no doubt incredibly superficial and shallow.

You know these people are probably lonely because they're living abroad and are so transient. They probably don't have a lot of friends or a support network IRL so they post a lot to FB.

I'm a little surprised to be defending this because I have zero interest in ever living abroad and the whole D.C. obsession with doing so annoys the shit out of me.

Np. So I have a mildly annoying fb friend who just pushed it over the edge....

Wife of foreign service, kids in tow, international living in various cities. Again, already mildly annoying. I see they're moving again from one too destination to another. The first day I see a hashtag indicating 30 days left... I think "uh oh. Is this going to be a daily post? 30 times?" Yep. I think we are on day 3, folks. .

Yes I will be unfollowing.

But all I want to say is... if the posts were more humble I could stomach it. Like, "look at this neat friend we've made here. She is the best." Or "I am so humbled to have been here during X event." Then focus on something outside yourself. No, it's like "we've been here for THREE different springs! I love the food, can't get this anywhere else. We just found it so mundane but now I appreciate it for being really cool." The whole attitude reeks.

This stuff comes up more because of the D.C. Connection. Why I moved away. I can't stand a lot of people humble bragging, or straight bragging, about experiences that, frankly, you AND your next door neighbor of get through government! Not that unique. OR experiences that corporate friends have to pay through the nose for. No sensitivity. I grew up with a dad with lots of these amazing (gov-related) experiences, but I feel like we kept it as a family treasure, didn't need to be talking about how cool he was when he was with friends.

Anonymous wrote:Here's what I don't understand, and my SIL is like this too. Every single person I know who humblebrags frequently on FB has tons of FB friends posting supportive comments like "Wow, that's amazing, good for you" or "You deserve that Mercedes," etc. and has tons of FB friends and in real life. The ones I know who never humblebrag on FB (like me) rarely get any comments in general and don't have many friends on FB or real life. So my question is, if humblebragging is seen as so annoying and self-serving, then why are the humblebraggers so popular????

Because the humble brag or's friend one another. There are drawn together like magnets into online mutual appreciation echo chambers where they reward one another's bad behavior.

Anonymous wrote:I can live with brags, humble or otherwise. It's the trying too hard to be witty, self-deprecating, etc that bugs me. How much time do people spend trying to come up with some of these dumb posts?

I agree, but THE worst are the vague, cryptic messages, like
"Worst day ever" or "Just shoot me" or "why does everything happen to me??".

They try & draw you in, but never, ever give details... classic attention seeking behavior!