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Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

This is a great question. My BF is older, but definitely could use some help to get to 100% instead of 75%. And I'd like 100% instead of 75%, too. Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

I'm 63 and 100% is much better than 75%. The key for me is to avoid more than a minimal amount of alcohol. If I have a little too much it doesn't take long for me to realize I'm not going to be at 100%. If I've limited my intake I get there very quickly and mentally I'm fired up. I've never had the need for a pill. If your BF has a problem make sure he limits his alcohol intake.

This is very true with my husband and it happened around the time he reached 50 when an extra drink or two began to have a real effect on his ability. On a night when I want to initiate I just say one drink please and he stops on a dime. I bet it's pretty common with older men.

My story just for comparison:

I was having trouble in my 40's. But at the time I was in a marriage that was at the beginning of the end and because of this I was depressed. Because of the depression I was not at my best, I was overweight, drinking too much wine, and not working out or sleeping well. I consulted my Dr. and he suggested Viagra.

I ended up getting divorced and once I was out of the depression, I started working out, eating right, and found my self again. Now I have NO problem getting and staying hard and often get off on a daily basis.

There are 2 points here:

1. The fact that you want to discuss this with your husband is fantastic. I would have welcomed that conversation and had she been loving and compassionate enough to have that talk (and many others like it), we may still be married. Have the talk!

2. I would explore all non-medication avenues first. Thirties are way too young!

This thread is from 2017. It was resurrected by a spambot. That aside, Cialis is better than Viagra.

Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

Of course!

DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

This thread is from 2017. It was resurrected by a spambot. That aside, Cialis is better than Viagra.

Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

Of course!

DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone.

Geez I thought my DW was the only one who did that.

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ZachF wrote:It could be an early warning sign. He needs a physical to check his cholesterol, blood pressure, etc and overall fitness. If all is good, tell him you'd like to experiment with it. Maybe a 1/4 pill, see what it's like to be 16 again. If he tries it, he will probably be hooked from then on. Make it sound sexy, not like a failing and...

Did you really fing ask him if he's gay because of erectile issues? SMH

Um, some men are secretly gay. If she asked, it's probably because deep down she suspects.

Oh STFU with this stupid bullshit.

I know people who have been in this situation. The wife always suspected. Always. You'd never ask your husband if he's gay unless you had an inkling.

That’s in the wife then - if she suspected why did she marry a gay man? To have kids with him and then break up with him? Sounds reasonable and smart.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

This is a great question. My BF is older, but definitely could use some help to get to 100% instead of 75%. And I'd like 100% instead of 75%, too. Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

I'm 63 and 100% is much better than 75%. The key for me is to avoid more than a minimal amount of alcohol. If I have a little too much it doesn't take long for me to realize I'm not going to be at 100%. If I've limited my intake I get there very quickly and mentally I'm fired up. I've never had the need for a pill. If your BF has a problem make sure he limits his alcohol intake.

Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

33 would be a deal breaker for me. 33??? That’s a serious problem there.

Invictus wrote:A consult with a urologist. I don't know where you're located but I go to a great doc who works out of Annapolis and Greenbelt. PM me for info. I'll just say that at 33, I had zero problems with sexual function, so there are several medical possibilities for your husband's ED, including overuse of porn, stress, poor diet, low thyroid function, diabetes. Hit me up for my doctor's name.

Just post the doctors name. What’s the harm?

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Anonymous wrote:He could be gay?

I was gay but still got hard and had sex with my wife.

Bisexual then? Isn’t that what it’s called?

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Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

This is a great question. My BF is older, but definitely could use some help to get to 100% instead of 75%. And I'd like 100% instead of 75%, too. Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

Yes it's more enjoyable, especially for DW so I feed off her enjoyment. I'm 48 and didn't start having problems until 2 years ago. I initiated the conversation with my doctor, not sure why guys are afraid of asking their doctor if the enjoy sex. I could get it up but would sometimes go limp. After that happened it just messed with my head. Every time we went to have sex I would be worried about not being able to maintain my erection and sure enough I wouldn't be able to. DW has a habit of during foreplay deciding to bring about her days events maybe because we are finally alone. That was a real mood killer, but now once I am erect I stay that way so it's definitely more enjoyable for both of us.
33 seems way too be having this problem unless he's drinking heavy, masturbating daily or has a health problem

Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

This is a great question. My BF is older, but definitely could use some help to get to 100% instead of 75%. And I'd like 100% instead of 75%, too. Can I ask the guys here ... does your enjoyment increase when you can be at 100% erection, or is it just me?

Here are some viagra coupons huh I love the advice from Anonymous above relating to weight loss and building up a muscle body - all this can really favor testosterone producing and improving sexual performance. Sex is about health, first of all.

A consult with a urologist. I don't know where you're located but I go to a great doc who works out of Annapolis and Greenbelt. PM me for info. I'll just say that at 33, I had zero problems with sexual function, so there are several medical possibilities for your husband's ED, including overuse of porn, stress, poor diet, low thyroid function, diabetes. Hit me up for my doctor's name.

It's hard to get up the nerve, but if you come at it straight forward, don't beat around the bush, it won't be as hard to swallow.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is usually willing to have sex but can't perform the whole time (trying to avoid getting moved to explicit forum). How can I tactful tell him he really needs a little blue pill? He is only 33.

I think you be frank with him. That's tactful enough. Tell him to see a doctor for his enjoyment.


33 is young. Is he masturbating or watching porn to excess?

We had problems with porn use 10 years ago. I would like to say it isn't a problem now but who knows?

I bet it still is

Agreed. Given that it was a problem before it seems likely.