Anonymous wrote:I know I'll get slammed for saying this but why do you need your mothers help? Unless you have a house full of kids or some medical issue, why can't you handle the baby by yourself? I don't mean to sound like some Super Mom or anything but I've had 3 kids and not once needed someone to come over to help me deal with the baby. Baby sitting maybe but certainly not carring for my baby.

This is totally self destructive to have a young child and not to have any help around. How do you find time to exercise or to take care of yourself?

Anonymous wrote:I assume because of the cold water thing she's from another country/culture? If it were me, I'd have her stop coming over, but I have a low tolerance for being bossed around like that. You have to decide how much of it you're willing to take in exchange for the help. I doubt she'll change.

This so not wise. Having a great help with a young child for the price of the bowl of dates and washing your hands with warm water? I will take it.

OP, look at the big picture. There is no one loves you and your baby as much as your mom. You may laugh at her requests, but it is really nothing for what she is doing for you. And remember, you still have many years ahead when you will need a babysitter. I wouldn't ruin relations over the water temperature.