OP here. i just want a reality check. Thank most of you for confirming I'm not crazy.

OP has not come back. Perhaps this thread was fake. I hope so.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would need more details as to why he is going on the solo vacation.

+1. Did he just decide he needs a week away from you and Thailand seems nice, or is it a business trip, or something in
Between?

+2. And I would also need to know if you wanted/were able to go. I have done several solo and solo plus kids trips because my DH had prior commitments.

What does your gut tell you, OP? These responses must be hard to see, especially if they aren't something you want to be honest with yourself about. Have there been other signs of your husband being dishonest? This might be the right time to reevaluate your relationship--even if he isn't doing anything immoral.

Never in a million years would I dream of telling a partner that he couldn't do something. Never in a million years did I think my now exDH would partake in the Thai sex industry. It didn't come out until 3-5 years later, but that aspect of his many infidelities is one of the things that made me lose all respect for him, as it illustrated to me that he had no respect or care for others despite a carefully constructed facade.

i wouldn't forbid him from travelling, but I would ask/talk with him about what it means to be a male solo traveler in these regions, whether he's ever been approached, how did he handle it, has he participated in prostitution in the past, whether he's committed to be faithful to you while travelling, and how you would feel if you ever found out he was unfaithful including risk of STDs, and what it means moral to be a participant in a sex industry that basically lures and traps women into lives of abuse.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross. Your husband is nasty and possibly a pedophile.

The pedophile thing is most concerning. Is that what people go to Thailand for?

Yes, men do.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_prostitution_in_Thailand

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross. Your husband is nasty and possibly a pedophile.

The pedophile thing is most concerning. Is that what people go to Thailand for?

Who knows how old some of these working girls in Bangkok and Pattaya are. Some look 14

Why a SOLO vacation to Thailand? 1) does he really need a solo vacation (is this normal for you guys to take vacations without each other? It is one thing to do a girls trip or a guys trip, but a solo vacation?)

Does it have to be Thailand? Why is he going somewhere he's been? And so far away?

And, of course, the sex trade question. I don't even need to spell that out for you, do I? Can't he get prostitutes at home? Is he transitioning?

All of this screams wrong.

Anonymous wrote:Gross. Your husband is nasty and possibly a pedophile.

The pedophile thing is most concerning. Is that what people go to Thailand for?

Anonymous wrote:"Let" him? Adults can do what they want. He can go if you say no, OP. Get ready!

This.

Maybe he wants a week with a sexy Lady Boy. What's the problem?

Happy ending trip? No.

Anonymous wrote:I would need more details as to why he is going on the solo vacation.

+1. Did he just decide he needs a week away from you and Thailand seems nice, or is it a business trip, or something in
Between?

OP, why didn't you go with him? I'm curious

I would let mine go. He's not the type to stray. My DH would never want to go on a solo vacation to Thailand. We also can't afford it!