I once asked my DH what he wanted out of marriage. And he said, "Truthfully? A little ironing."

We have been very happily married for two decades. And no, I do not do his ironing.

Getting all tied up in knots about an offhand remark - after you put him on the spot expecting some well-thought out, perfect answer - isn't smart. His answer is just fine. He thinks you two fit each other. What is wrong with that?

I understand you feel confused and concerned with your fiances response. Have you talked to him about it? Communication is very important. Also have you both talked about pre-martial counseling? Pre-marital counseling can really help with these kind of questions. Praying for your future marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Okay, in movie chick flick terms, what he said was "You complete me."

Does that make it make more sense?

This.

Anonymous wrote:WTF OP. What he said was sweet. Men think more logically than women. They rationalize big decisions like marriage. You complete the puzzle. Everything fits with you. He's not trying to make it work, it works because it's right. Good Lord you're dense.

What he said.

I don't even remember the reason my DH gave for wanting to marry me. I don't even remember how we got engaged - I just know that he went ring shopping with my mother. I just know that I could not see ever living without him after 5 years of knowing him. I think he said he loved me once - like oh, I love you- and that was IT. For 30 years now.
He does stuff like bring me coffee in the morning and he's a wonder with the kids and still fun to be with after all this time.
Who needs platitudes? Either you can't imagine life without him or you can.

Sounds like something a guy would say.

My brother told me he was marrying his girlfriend because "it's the next logical step." Lol. 13 years later, they are still incredibly happy together and have two great kids.

Anonymous wrote:Please cancel the wedding ASAP to spare yourself the pain ten years down the line when you're worn down by his inability to communicate romantically in a way that pleases you. There is nothing wrong with what he said unless you are the kind of person who craves romance. You're engaged. You are getting, as Chris Rock once said, not your fiance but 'the ambassador of' him. He will become more direct as the years go by and it will drive you crazy.

+1.