Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:25     Subject: Re:While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Many years ago I was at a conference out west and ran into a married former business associate. She was very attractive. We had dinner with a small group and then we all headed to the bar. As the event wore down it was just the two of us chatting for quite awhile. Nothing extremely personal, but fun. At the end of the evening we took the same elevator up to our rooms. I was on an upper floor. As she was getting off she turned and kissed me far more than a peck on the cheek. She then asked if I would like to get off and I said something clever like "no thanks". To be honest, it was quite a rush to be hit on but I was and still am happily married. I never told my DW as it would have led to questions about did I lead her on?
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:21     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I messaged her, telling her, this is not who I am. End of story.


Now we find out, by her reaction, if she is psycho or not....
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:18     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I messaged her, telling her, this is not who I am. End of story.

Not the end. work on your marriage.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:17     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I messaged her, telling her, this is not who I am. End of story.


Good for you, OP. That's the first step. The next step is to work on your marriage. I'd consider counseling if I were you.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:10     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
OP here. I messaged her, telling her, this is not who I am. End of story.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:09     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
How could he be tracked down on FB without giving his full name? Something doesn't smell right with this story.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:09     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Ah did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss spring training gal.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:05     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She pieced together how to find you on fb and has now sent you multiple messages? She's crazy. Ignore. Block. Don't invite this into your family.


I agree. She sounds crazy, OP. If you're gonna screw around, pick someone who doesn't seem determined to have you at all costs. This'll blow up in your face if you even respond to her message(s!). Block and move on.


It won't be long before she is also getting in touch with your wife, then telling her what an amazing time she had with you at spring training. And you'll be denying something that never happened but will your wife believe you? You guys aren't screwing ("relations"? Seriously you said "relations"?) so there's some issue going on there. Run, don't walk from this woman
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 10:04     Subject: Re:While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Married man here, not the OP.

I don't think baseball chick sounds crazy. It's not really that uncommon. OP sounds like he is average looking without a ton of confidence so it's uncommon for him. I am attractive and outgoing (and not very humble) so this happens to me sometimes: women you end up chatting to develop chemistry and it leads to something sexual. How do you think most affairs start?

Not to say OP should go for it, but nothing here raises unique red flags. All affairs carry risks.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 09:56     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Anonymous wrote:She pieced together how to find you on fb and has now sent you multiple messages? She's crazy. Ignore. Block. Don't invite this into your family.


I agree. She sounds crazy, OP. If you're gonna screw around, pick someone who doesn't seem determined to have you at all costs. This'll blow up in your face if you even respond to her message(s!). Block and move on.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 09:52     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Anonymous wrote:I took an annual personal trip to visit family and enjoy some early baseball. While watching the game, I (watching alone), was seated next to a woman roughly my age who was also alone. We started talking -- about the game and the team. We had a good time, and joked "see you at Nats Park". The next day, we ran into each other at the next game (even though it was a long drive), and found ourselves chatting some more.

Naive me was thinking this is a nice person. I do not think of myself as attractive, or anything. I am middle aged, and feel it. The mistake is when, after the game, she suggested we get dinner. I figured, I have to eat, and I had referenced my wife and kid multiple times in the conversation. At dinner, she touched my hand....I had not felt a spark like that in 30 years. She suggested we continue the evening together (my hotel for the night was nearby, she had to drive back to where she was staying; I was staying nearby for a flight). I begged off, saying 1) I probably would do something I would regret, and 2) I had an early flight the next morning.

I was going to shake hands, but she went in for the hug, and kissed me. I enjoyed it, and she could feel that I was enjoying it. We parted.

This was the first time in my life I had basically been offered sex, but turned it down. I was wondering how I could be so dense not to read the signs to shut it down earlier, and yet I was really turned on; I wanted to, but knew the consequences for me.

I had not given her contact information, but she was able to piece together enough information to find me on Facebook. She messaged me, saying she had a good time.

I have not responded; I am conflicted, and know what the right thing to do is (and will do it).

But, I get back home, and my wife starts ripping into me about something trivial that she had to do while I was away; this (the nagging and yelling) is not an uncommon thing. And we have not had relations in quite a while. I keep thinking how nice it would be to spend time with someone who is nice to me. But then, I think, the woman from Florida must have her own flaws. If nothing else, she is trying to seduce a married man.

And yet, I can not stop thinking of her. I have not responded to her messages (now plural) or her friend request. Part of me is willing to risk everything for the potential, but part of me is saying this is not who I am....

Not sure what I am looking for in posting. Probably just writing it down.



WTF?
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 09:36     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Maybe she is looking for fresh prey to blackmail. She's weird. Avoid like the plague.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 09:27     Subject: Re:While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Your marriage needs serious work but if you choose to have an affair, find another woman. This one is TROUBLE...sending you multiple FB messages after you turned her down is a no.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 09:21     Subject: Re:While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
Tracking you down on FB is a step too far. She doesn't want things to end and it will end badly if you don't shut her off. If you are in a cold marriage and you get hit on by an attractive woman it can be intoxicating. But it's dangerous. My recommendation is that you and your wife thoroughly assess the state of your marriage and the potential to make it work.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2017 08:59     Subject: While on travel, I met someone; nothing happened, .but I can not stop comparing her to my wife
You kissed. Something happened, not nothing.