Anonymous
02/27/2017 01:02
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This was a one-time / 1st time event but now thinking back I can see his examples of his anger emerge. I'm going back to our therapist.
You are both sleep deprived. He had a one time blow up. The first year of parenthood is very stressful. Don't forget about this in case it happens again but I'm now team 'you're overreacting'.
Not overreacting. You said "our therapist" so there are some prior difficulties in your marriage...related to anger management, perhaps?
From lack of sex and intimacy
I could be flippant here, but I won't, because if you already had such serious issues before the baby came along, you guys are going to have trouble surviving the next few years, which are the toughest on a marriage. Good luck with the therapist. Get some rest and try to be on each other's side and have understanding for shortcomings. And make yourselves have sex. It has a way of making couples more forgiving of each other.
Anonymous
02/26/2017 22:27
Subject: Re:DH threatened violence
I know a guy who once made a threat when someone towed his car, but he didn't actually do what he threatened to do, and that was like 20 years ago. So, it might mean nothing?
Anonymous
02/26/2017 22:23
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:Don't get anyone 'overacting' here. Just like in the long string of posts where there were calls of double standards in reactions to wife wiping toddler's mouth roughly and cursing - this is husband endangering baby in locked car, screaming at an attendant about property that OP says wasn't even damaged, threatening to eviscerate him. All the calls for that husband to leave because then and this is an overreaction? This to me is the definition of my line. To lose it over property and put the child at risk - not to mention his family as he certainly was close to the line if not over of assaulting - again over perceived damage to property. There is no excuse for this and OP should separate herself and her child from this time-bomb until he shows he sees what he did without excusing it and makes changes so that he controls his anger and impulses
The child was not at risk when her father lost it and yelled at the parking attendant.
I call TROLL. Probably one in the same.
Anonymous
02/26/2017 22:18
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:This was a one-time / 1st time event but now thinking back I can see his examples of his anger emerge. I'm going back to our therapist.
You're thinking back/fishing for 'violent tendencies' to have power over him.
You're also most likely blowing this situation out of proportion too. You should go to therapy, you are right.
Anonymous
02/26/2017 22:16
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This was a one-time / 1st time event but now thinking back I can see his examples of his anger emerge. I'm going back to our therapist.
You are both sleep deprived. He had a one time blow up. The first year of parenthood is very stressful. Don't forget about this in case it happens again but I'm now team 'you're overreacting'.
Not overreacting. You said "our therapist" so there are some prior difficulties in your marriage...related to anger management, perhaps?
From lack of sex and intimacy
Anonymous
02/26/2017 22:12
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This was a one-time / 1st time event but now thinking back I can see his examples of his anger emerge. I'm going back to our therapist.
You are both sleep deprived. He had a one time blow up. The first year of parenthood is very stressful. Don't forget about this in case it happens again but I'm now team 'you're overreacting'.
Not overreacting. You said "our therapist" so there are some prior difficulties in your marriage...related to anger management, perhaps?
Anonymous
02/26/2017 22:09
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:This was a one-time / 1st time event but now thinking back I can see his examples of his anger emerge. I'm going back to our therapist.
You are both sleep deprived. He had a one time blow up. The first year of parenthood is very stressful. Don't forget about this in case it happens again but I'm now team 'you're overreacting'.
Anonymous
02/26/2017 21:46
Subject: DH threatened violence
This was a one-time / 1st time event but now thinking back I can see his examples of his anger emerge. I'm going back to our therapist.
Anonymous
02/26/2017 21:36
Subject: DH threatened violence
Until op answers the question of whether this was a completely out of character one off or the last in a series of incidents this question can't be answered.
No one should be judged off one terrible moment, but if it's a pattern then you should get out.
Also pps let's be real he should have put the baby in the car but the baby was not endangered
No one should be judged off one terrible moment, but if it's a pattern then you should get out.
Also pps let's be real he should have put the baby in the car but the baby was not endangered
ZachF
02/26/2017 21:18
Subject: DH threatened violence
Anonymous wrote:Look, the guy drives a BMW. What do you expect?
+1 Says it all right there.