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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

WOW! I personally think physical violence is worse than cursing. You can go to jail if you knock your kid's teeth out. Maybe you are exaggerating but, damn you are scary.

Exaggeration or not, people.like this blow my mind. They draw the line at cursing, but aggression and anger are A-okay. Talk about screwed up priorities.

Interestingly (well, maybe to some), I cursed quite a bit but DS never picked up this bad habit and now, at age 17, I’ve never heard him curse. Looking at this kid who is a model of rectitude in many ways, I have cut down on my cursing.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, sort of

Shit, fuck, damn... I don't care

Retard, faggot, ugly, stupid, slut, etc... not allowed

So exclamation, I don't worry about.

Ugly language directed at people to hurt them, not allowed.

Right, I think it's about the intent. So, if a curse word is said out of surprise or pain, or even to colorfully punctuate a sentence, in ok with that. Anything directed at someone is not ok. One also has to consider where they are, so cursing is a no-go at school or temple, for example, or in a place where the rule is no cursing, like my cousin's house.

DH likes to tell a story about a time when his ex was listening to his side of a phone conversation with his mom. (They were about 19 years old.) When he hung up, her eyes were wide as she asked, "you talk to your mom like that???" My MIL had a filthy mouth, and didn't argue with her kids doing the same. But with the rules above.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

WOW! I personally think physical violence is worse than cursing. You can go to jail if you knock your kid's teeth out. Maybe you are exaggerating but, damn you are scary.

Anonymous wrote:Ughhhhh don't even get me started on the "like"...

And "so"...

Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

My oldest is 18 now and I don't say anything if he curses unless it's in front of his siblings, then I'll remind him to watch his language.

My younger kids are not allowed to curse, and generally don't-- my 3 year old said "dammit" the other day and he got a time out. My kids also think that shut up, stupid, and oh my God are bad words (they are 2 and 3).

I would find it disrespectful to have my kids curse in my home. My dh curses a lot, but not in front of the kids and not in front of his mother. I just don't want to hear my children speak with a foul mouth, even if they will out in the world.

Nope. Hold the standard high please. No one wants to be around a nasty mouth kid or adult. It defines what kind of person they are if you ask me. Just stop it. It's unnecessary and immature. Watch what you do with your mouth.

Anonymous wrote:My 15 year old swears at home. An F bomb gets him "the look" and he apologizes.

"What the hell?" or "Damn it" aren't something I'm going to worry about. He doesn't do it in front of his Grandmother. We learned with our first that there can be much bigger fish to fry, and chose a different route with this one. This is also the worst he does.. that and procrastinate on chores.

Same here.

Yes, sort of

Shit, fuck, damn... I don't care

Retard, faggot, ugly, stupid, slut, etc... not allowed

So exclamation, I don't worry about.

Ugly language directed at people to hurt them, not allowed.

I don't want to hear curse words coming out of my teenage boys' mouths, so they're not allowed to curse at home. But I also don't want them to rely on cursing instead of using other words to express themselves. It's a lazy way of talking. They have great vocabularies and they should use them.

What happens when Grandma is the one that curses? In our house, the only word I don't like is C**T. That is the worst word but, these are just words and I don't give them power over any other word. We don't curse in church etc. so we know when to do it.

Nope, don't allow it. I don't even like them saying "what the.." or "god!". I'm not religious or a prude, I just don't like hearing coarse language coming out of a kid's mouth. They have good vocabularies and they can use them.

The rule in our house is basically: know your audience. We've talked about how the way you talk with your friends is different than the way you talk with teachers/the way you speak to your brother is different than the way you speak to your grandmother. We have a no-name calling rule so generally when they curse it's because of a stubbed toe or missing Lego piece or something. When they got old enough to notice curse words in song lyrics we talked about how if they didn't want to listen to censored music they shouldn't be repeating those lyrics. I do have a zero tolerance policy on words that target people who are different/slurs/hate speech, which we've also discussed a few times over the years.