Anonymous
Post 02/12/2017 16:35     Subject: Re:ILs and tooth fairy
OP - there is no reason to get over this! Your MIL should burn in hell for being nice to your child at your expense. How does a MIL not know that a lost tooth is all about the mother's feelings? Is she clueless? With a little plastic cement she could have put that tooth back in the child's mouth so that mom's dreams could come true. But that's just my opinion.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2017 11:34     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:The differences between older and younger generations are very much like cultural differences. When your MIL had young kids the culture was different. Kid loses a tooth, someone pops a quarter under the pillow. Nbd.

Now people come up with schemes, tooth fairy notes, glitter, expensive gifts and photo ops when a kid loses a tooth. It's a BIG DEAL.

I would give her a break for not knowing that you think it's a big deal and wanted to handle it yourself.


Holy cow people really do that? Parents need to CTFD.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:58     Subject: Re:ILs and tooth fairy
My parents watch my 5yo son sometimes and I haven't really thought about what would happen if he lost his first tooth when he's with them, but I think I'd be fine with whatever they decide. I'm kind of of the mindset that if you're watching my kid for me, then you get to decide about things like that. I also think that if my kid had a tooth loose enough to possibly be lost when he's with them then if I had some kind of rigid view of the tooth fairy thing I'd discuss it with them preemptively.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:53     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for your honesty. I'm just sad I missed this. It's hard!


By tooth #6 you'll be scrambled no in the morning to make the exchange and wishing your mil was dong it
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:53     Subject: Re:ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Free parenting tip: The Tooth Fairy is for your kid, not YOU. Get over it and perhaps study up on narcissistic personality disorder.


This is one of the meanest things I've read on DCUM in a long time. There's nothing wrong with a mom wanting to be there for the fun parts of her kids' childhoods, like Santa, the Tooth Fairy, teaching how to ride a bike, etc. I think MIL should have consulted the OP. I doubt the PP skips out on the fun parts in favor of her kids' grandparents getting to do them. In this case, the MIL lucked into a situation. Not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but I'd be annoyed. That said, OP took the risk when she accepted free babysitting.


Oh please, you anal parents need to get a life. It wasn't her MIL's fault that the kid lost a tooth. She did what every GM would do, be the tooth fairy.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:49     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:You are not being unreasonable. Your ILs should have called and told you and asked how you wanted to handle it. I think it made sense for the tooth fairy to "visit" while your kid was at their house, but I do not think it was okay for the ILs to do it without telling you and asking how you wanted to handle it. What if they gave something in a way you didn't want the tooth fairy to handle things (i.e. you want to give money and they gave a present or candy or something)?


Give me a f----ing break. It's your fault, you should have never let your child lose their tooth outside your bubble.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:47     Subject: Re:ILs and tooth fairy
You have got to be kidding. She did what you hope anyone would do. It's the tooth fairy, not the tooth mommy.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:14     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
You are not being unreasonable. Your ILs should have called and told you and asked how you wanted to handle it. I think it made sense for the tooth fairy to "visit" while your kid was at their house, but I do not think it was okay for the ILs to do it without telling you and asking how you wanted to handle it. What if they gave something in a way you didn't want the tooth fairy to handle things (i.e. you want to give money and they gave a present or candy or something)?
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:04     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
I know it's sad to miss a first, but ds was probably excited for it, and he shouldn't have had to wait. MiL wasn't trying to take something away from you. The night the tooth is lost the tooth fairy comes...don't blame her. And I'm a MIL hater. But this one isn't on her.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:02     Subject: Re:ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Free parenting tip: The Tooth Fairy is for your kid, not YOU. Get over it and perhaps study up on narcissistic personality disorder.


This is one of the meanest things I've read on DCUM in a long time. There's nothing wrong with a mom wanting to be there for the fun parts of her kids' childhoods, like Santa, the Tooth Fairy, teaching how to ride a bike, etc. I think MIL should have consulted the OP. I doubt the PP skips out on the fun parts in favor of her kids' grandparents getting to do them. In this case, the MIL lucked into a situation. Not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but I'd be annoyed. That said, OP took the risk when she accepted free babysitting.


Disagree. That poster is spot on. Being a parent means it's no longer about her. It's about the kid, she doesn't seem to get that yet.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 21:01     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
You wanted your kid to "wait until the next night" so you could do the tooth fairy? Of all the self-absorbed parenting things I've read on DCUM, this takes the cake. Yeah kid, hang on because mommy isnt there to capture the special moment you have to just sit tight.

You suck OP.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 19:12     Subject: Re:ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:Free parenting tip: The Tooth Fairy is for your kid, not YOU. Get over it and perhaps study up on narcissistic personality disorder.


This is one of the meanest things I've read on DCUM in a long time. There's nothing wrong with a mom wanting to be there for the fun parts of her kids' childhoods, like Santa, the Tooth Fairy, teaching how to ride a bike, etc. I think MIL should have consulted the OP. I doubt the PP skips out on the fun parts in favor of her kids' grandparents getting to do them. In this case, the MIL lucked into a situation. Not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but I'd be annoyed. That said, OP took the risk when she accepted free babysitting.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 18:43     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're not being unreasonable. That's a huge boundary. Tooth fairy is something that parents look forward to. It's like a grandparent playing Santa or buying a major milestone gift without consulting parents.


Geez!!! None of this is correct. It is not that huge a deal. Too bad you missed out on the first tooth coming out, but you had some free babysitting and your MIL was kind enough to fill in on the tooth fairy bit. Both OP and PP sound insufferable.


I quite agree.

OP, you need to get over your control issues. She didn't even "consult" you--please. Why isn't your dilemma, "How do I thank my MIL for being so helpful?"

Please send the woman some flowers. You don't know how lucky you are.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 18:03     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
Anonymous wrote:You're not being unreasonable. That's a huge boundary. Tooth fairy is something that parents look forward to. It's like a grandparent playing Santa or buying a major milestone gift without consulting parents.


Geez!!! None of this is correct. It is not that huge a deal. Too bad you missed out on the first tooth coming out, but you had some free babysitting and your MIL was kind enough to fill in on the tooth fairy bit. Both OP and PP sound insufferable.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2017 17:28     Subject: ILs and tooth fairy
Op you are attacking the wrong problem. You feel you are missing out on your kiddo's life, you resent that, and you're probably right to. This is not your sil's fault. Quit your job or go part time until kid is older. I'm sure you think you can't afford to but find out what it is you really need. Turns out we can't have it all. Pick your priorities carefully.