I feel like you should be able to flush the toilet whenever you need to. That part of the request is unreasonable.

I do feel like laundry is something you can realistically wait to do - there's no reason to run the wash at 11:00 if you know it bugs your neighbors. I think it's fair to ask that in general, you try not to shower after hours if you know the noise bothers people. When you live in shared housing, there are certain things you need to do to keep the people around you happy.

I had a roommate for awhile who would come in very, very late from work and go in and out of her room and the bathroom, shutting the door loudly each time. One night I counted 19 door slams in a 30-minute period. Between that and the late night frying in oil without using the exhaust fan (so I'd wake up to what smelled like the house burning down), plus a bunch of other reasons, she didn't live with me for long.

I had renter neighbors who made all kinds of random noise at night, including hammering something into the wall next to my bed at 2:00 a.m. I'm sorry, but really? Who the F hammers into a shared wall at 2:00 a.m.?

I think you're both jerks. OP you KNOW you have a downstairs neighbor, you should not use the dishwasher, washing machine, nor garbage disposable between 10pm and 8am. That's just common curtesy.

You need to have padded rugs and only let the kids run around the top level. Kids should only be walking on the main level. If they need to run around take them outside.

Anonymous wrote:We live in a townhouse style condo. We have two levels, but there is one unit that lives below our downstairs neighbors wrote a letter complaining about the level of noise. They say we are the loudest upstairs neighbors they have had. We have three kids, including one clumsy 6 year old boy - but we try to minimize the thumping and everyday kid noises. On top of walking noise complaints, they say the noise from flushing toilets (on either level), washing machine (that is on our top floor), and garbage disposal are bothering them, and they bang loudly on their ceiling if we use any of these after 11 pm. They also bang on the ceiling at night if our cat walks across the floor, or the roomba is running.

I can (and do) refrain from using the washer and garbage disposal in the evening if possible, but I think it's unreasonable to set limits on when we can flush our toilets. I have a newborn (so just out of the 'up ten times a night to pee' phase), but we have to be able to use our washer if we need to. Am I the one being unreasonable?

That must be one huge cat!!!

Do you think maybe there is an insulation problem the landlord should investigate? I just can't imagine a cat's footsteps being that loud otherwise.

What about people who work nights? Should they not be allowed to live in condos? Maybe they feel people should STFU during the day!

If you choose to live in a condo, you choose to deal with noise. It's 11:45 here now, and I'm doing laundry. I'm laying in bed, but my laundry is spinning. I'm in a SFH, but if I wasn't, it's still my prerogative to wash my clothing when I choose.

Things to consider when you move into share d quarters.

Anonymous wrote:They would go bat shit crazy if they lived under me. I vacuum at midnight, play music loud, raise the garage door all day and night, heavy walk, flush a lot, sometimes I move furniture not to mention hammer at night.

If I pay rent, I do what I want.

Ya know, some people do shift work. They should be grateful you don't. Maybe the next renters will make them wish you were still there.

Wow, aren't you lovely....

I would try and be considerate of loud noises after 11PM,
but even I would have to draw the line at flushing a toilet or even showering any time you want.

That is just outrageous if you ask me.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are way louder than you realize and the walls and floors have very little insulation. In your home, if you are living there long term, with 3 kids, you need to invest in very good padding and wall to wall carpet. There is nothing you can really do about the plumbing noises unless you are willing to do some more insulation. It's likely the neighbor is pissed at themselves for not thinking about how much noise there is in shared wall living

It's not our house, it's a rental. Landlord loves the hard wood floors. We have rugs down, but carpet is not an option.

Do the rugs have offing underneath? If not, get padding this weekend for underneath them.

Make a house rule that there is no running or jumping off of things in the house. Enforce it all the time. This includes running up and down the stairs.

You may want to go visit the neighbors house and listen for yourself. I am betting you would be shocked by how loud you all are being.