Anonymous
Post 02/07/2017 07:12     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
I don't get it. Youhave a sitter. The sitter comes for a few hrs and you go out. They can handle that, and if not they can have the decency to leave while you are out. Or if dh keeps his balls in his mums purse you can go out with a friend while he stays home and catches up w family.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2017 07:10     Subject: Re:Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I would be annoyed too. Your DH sounds like he has a very dysfunctional relationship with his parents. He should have told them to come another time.


Op here. Not dysfunctional at all. They're normal nice people. I get that no one owes me anything... thats why I got a babysitter I'll pay for. But if they don't help me, why do I have to drop everything for them?


So he is at least spineless. Next time, tell him to say "I'm sorry. Saturday isn't good for us. How about next weekend?" If he can't do that, he ihas a problem.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 21:29     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. He just can't talk to his parents and kept asking me what to do. He can't ask them for help when we need it or tell them anything he thinks they don't want to hear.

I'm already upset they didn't visit when we had the baby or help, so my feelings are already colored.


Why should they have helped you? Parents, in-laws, friends do owe you a damn thing. Your kid, your responsibility. You are a whining, lazy , entitled, PITA. GROW UP


Is it just me or has there been an uptick in these kinds of low effort troll posts?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 21:26     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. He just can't talk to his parents and kept asking me what to do. He can't ask them for help when we need it or tell them anything he thinks they don't want to hear.

I'm already upset they didn't visit when we had the baby or help, so my feelings are already colored.


Why should they have helped you? Parents, in-laws, friends do owe you a damn thing. Your kid, your responsibility. You are a whining, lazy , entitled, PITA. GROW UP


She already had childcare lined up for the weekend, dumbass.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 21:18     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:Op here. He just can't talk to his parents and kept asking me what to do. He can't ask them for help when we need it or tell them anything he thinks they don't want to hear.

I'm already upset they didn't visit when we had the baby or help, so my feelings are already colored.


Why should they have helped you? Parents, in-laws, friends do owe you a damn thing. Your kid, your responsibility. You are a whining, lazy , entitled, PITA. GROW UP
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 21:14     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:Dh and I had tickets to an event next Saturday and a babysitter lined up. We have a 4 month old and have rarely gotten to go out. His parents wanted to come stay with us (only Saturday) so dh cancelled everything. I am so upset. Inlaws live in central VA and rarely want to visit so that's why dh cancelled our event. My parents live cross county but come often to help. I know that if my parents were coming we would have asked them to babysit. It's been a rough few weeks and I really needed a night out. It was my valentines present.

I'm just pissed that inlaws never help, never visit and when they do, there's no advance planning. And that dh couldn't stand up for me.


Good god. Someday you will have a real problem. Stop whining.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 20:53     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:Grow up OP. You sound pathetic. Its your baby and you look after it. You are lucky your own parents help out. Stop complaining.

Oh STFU.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 14:58     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:Op here. He just can't talk to his parents and kept asking me what to do. He can't ask them for help when we need it or tell them anything he thinks they don't want to hear.

I'm already upset they didn't visit when we had the baby or help, so my feelings are already colored.


He asked you what to do. Why didn't you tell him "No! We have plans!"
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 14:55     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
The problem is your DH.

Alternatively you could try nicely asking your ILs for more notice. But, good luck with that...
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 13:39     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
OP, when he said he didn't know what to do, the words you say are, "Well, Honey, we already have plans, so that isn't a good weekend for us. Why don't you invite them for x or y weekend instead?"
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2017 11:12     Subject: Differences in how we treat in laws vs my parents
Anonymous wrote:Op here. He just can't talk to his parents and kept asking me what to do. He can't ask them for help when we need it or tell them anything he thinks they don't want to hear.

I'm already upset they didn't visit when we had the baby or help, so my feelings are already colored.


If he asked you what to do, did you tell him that you didn't want to cancel your plans? He needs to be up front with his parents, but you have to communicate with your DH, too.