Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend came over to my place last night and fixed my dishwasher.
He saved me probably $250.

After he did this, I asked him what I could give him as "payment" I was ready to treat him in anyway he wanted, ANYTHING.

His response was, no thanks.

Sounds like either miscommunication or maybe a sexual issue in the relationship.

How is your sexlife with this BF?
How often does he initiate sex?
How often do you reject sex?
How often do YOU initiate sex?
In what ways do you normally initiate?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow.

It would hurt my feelings if my man denied me like that.
Just ouch.

You need to figure out why he did that.

Is this unusual for him....?

BWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Said every man ever who has been denied sex on a regular basis!

Yes indeed. The woman's feelings are hurt by being denied, but men are supposed to accept being denied all the damn time

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Anonymous wrote:OP - just a slight tweak might have had better success:

When you were saying thank you and going in to plant that thank you kiss, grab his crotch and say "how about letting me work on your pipes?" with an accompanying sly smile.

Cue the porn music...

If a woman did this and then played some porn music on her phone I'd die laughing and know she's a keeper. Good sense of humor..

Then I'd ravage her...

Anonymous wrote:OP - just a slight tweak might have had better success:

When you were saying thank you and going in to plant that thank you kiss, grab his crotch and say "how about letting me work on your pipes?" with an accompanying sly smile.

Cue the porn music...

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

It would hurt my feelings if my man denied me like that.
Just ouch.

You need to figure out why he did that.

Is this unusual for him....?

BWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Said every man ever who has been denied sex on a regular basis!

Wow.

It would hurt my feelings if my man denied me like that.
Just ouch.

You need to figure out why he did that.

Is this unusual for him....?

This is like foxes giving hens advice to come on out of the henhouse at night, with some of the dumber hens clucking along about how it's harmless.

OP should have expected all these typical stupid replies.

Nothing wrong with her showing appreciation in a way that implied sex. That doesn't mean that she doesn't value her body or her relationship.

To the ends of him not asking for anything, I'd be wondering what his thought was- unclear of your suggestion or uninterested. Either way, ignore the unhappy and uptight replies

Anonymous wrote:WTF is wrong with the OP showing gratitude to her boyfriend by wanting to have sex or slobbering on his knob?

Maybe boyfreind was sore from working on the washer, or hands were dirty, or needed to get some rest since he had to be up early the next morning.

I've played handyman in past relationships so many times fixing everything from cars to kitchen appliances, plumbing, painting, etc. We always played the: poor single mother can't afford the bill, can we make some kind of alternative arrangement, game. Just as fun when the deed is offered before services are rendered.

It's not sex for hire. It's not a poor woman with little self-respect whoring herself out to get her dishwasher fixed. It's playful, sexy fun within a relationship where sex is freely given and enjoyed at any time and couples use their unique skill sets to help each other wherever they can.

Who knows why he didn't want to play along. I'm sure if he turned it down right after fixing the dishwasher, he won't turn it down later. Make the same offer again but don't mention his fixing the dishwasher or the word, payment and I'm sure he will go for it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - just a slight tweak might have had better success:

When you were saying thank you and going in to plant that thank you kiss, grab his crotch and say "how about letting me work on your pipes?" with an accompanying sly smile.

LMAO! This is so corny.

Corny or not, it works.

LOL. It's true. You are absolutely correct. Doesn't matter how you DTD as long as you do it, right?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - just a slight tweak might have had better success:

When you were saying thank you and going in to plant that thank you kiss, grab his crotch and say "how about letting me work on your pipes?" with an accompanying sly smile.

LMAO! This is so corny.

Corny or not, it works.