Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:26     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I have a girl and TBH, I'm kind of hoping she's not going to be a sitting quietly getting a mani pedi, or shopping kind of girl. I'm hoping she's going to be a mountain biking, hiking, ball of sass. But, she's going to be who she is, and I'm already anticipating I'm going to have to learn to use glitter and eyeshadow.

My SIL is deeply depressed about not having a girl. She had two really great little boys and can't even appreciate what an awesome family she has.

I wonder how many of you women deeply pining for a girl have unresolved mommy issues, or self esteem issues? Is it about wanting to mold someone into a mini me?


I hate it when people crow about their girls being "sassy" or "feisty". It's such gendered language that you rarely hear used to describe our sons.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:26     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have 2 boys and couldn't be happier. I am not good at any girly stuff -- I've never figured out curling irons or eye liner. I have had one manicure in my entire life, when my sister dragged me the day before my wedding. I never dreamed of being a princess or having a horse or a unicorn or any of that stuff. I'm sure if I had girls I would love them to pieces, but I am definitely super happy with my noisy boy family.


I'm so glad you are happy. But, just wanted to point out that not every girl uses curling irons, eye liners get manicures, pedicures, wear makeup, play Barbies etc. I am a women who never wears makeup and never did any of the things you mention. My girls did have a pink and purple phase and they like horses so they did lessons ( not much different than any other lesson) So, glad you are happy but, please don't make wide sweeping generalizations because they don't work for everyone.

Have a lovely day!


NP. I have to make the same point regarding the idea that all the boys are noisy and rambunctious and all the girls sit around quietly having tea parties. Not so much. I have one of each sex. They really are equally noisy and active. We, their parents, are athletic, active people. I could have had 10 daughters and I don't think any of them would sit around staring at books all day. It's not in our DNA.

The stereotypes are unbelievable. Also, gasp...some boys like art, music, theater, dancing, dolls, and other "girly" stuff.



Thank you ! I'm the pp. My DH is one of those boys who loves music and singing. He doesn't follow football at all and he questioned whether it bothered me and I said "heck NO that's one of the reasons I married you
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:24     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I have two boys and am perfectly happy with that in the day to day. I will admit that I am worried I will regret not having a girl when they're all grown up but not enough to want to raise a girl in the here and now.

Mother-daughter relationships seem harder but it seems if you come out of it as friends there are more benefits to having adult daughters than to having adult sons (access to grandkids, less complicated IL relationship, potential female friendship). Nothing is guaranteed, of course.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:23     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I have a son and I was so glad when I found out I was having a boy. I was telling myself I would be happy with either, but my initial reaction to having a girl would have been one of disappointment.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:21     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have 2 boys and couldn't be happier. I am not good at any girly stuff -- I've never figured out curling irons or eye liner. I have had one manicure in my entire life, when my sister dragged me the day before my wedding. I never dreamed of being a princess or having a horse or a unicorn or any of that stuff. I'm sure if I had girls I would love them to pieces, but I am definitely super happy with my noisy boy family.


I'm so glad you are happy. But, just wanted to point out that not every girl uses curling irons, eye liners get manicures, pedicures, wear makeup, play Barbies etc. I am a women who never wears makeup and never did any of the things you mention. My girls did have a pink and purple phase and they like horses so they did lessons ( not much different than any other lesson) So, glad you are happy but, please don't make wide sweeping generalizations because they don't work for everyone.

Have a lovely day!


NP. I have to make the same point regarding the idea that all the boys are noisy and rambunctious and all the girls sit around quietly having tea parties. Not so much. I have one of each sex. They really are equally noisy and active. We, their parents, are athletic, active people. I could have had 10 daughters and I don't think any of them would sit around staring at books all day. It's not in our DNA.

The stereotypes are unbelievable. Also, gasp...some boys like art, music, theater, dancing, dolls, and other "girly" stuff.

Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:20     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Someone was bored at work today and decided to rehash a weekly conversation had on DCUM.

How original.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:20     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I know several families with all boys. All the moms had expressed wanting a girl at some point, and some tried for #4 and got one. Then the man got snipped

forgot to mention, this is all on the west coast, so maybe they are more freerer out there about their opinions on this?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:19     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I know several families with all boys. All the moms had expressed wanting a girl at some point, and some tried for #4 and got one. Then the man got snipped
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:17     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:I have 2 boys and couldn't be happier. I am not good at any girly stuff -- I've never figured out curling irons or eye liner. I have had one manicure in my entire life, when my sister dragged me the day before my wedding. I never dreamed of being a princess or having a horse or a unicorn or any of that stuff. I'm sure if I had girls I would love them to pieces, but I am definitely super happy with my noisy boy family.


I'm so glad you are happy. But, just wanted to point out that not every girl uses curling irons, eye liners get manicures, pedicures, wear makeup, play Barbies etc. I am a women who never wears makeup and never did any of the things you mention. My girls did have a pink and purple phase and they like horses so they did lessons ( not much different than any other lesson) So, glad you are happy but, please don't make wide sweeping generalizations because they don't work for everyone.

Have a lovely day!
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:14     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a boy and he is likely my only. I am so sad that I didn't have a girl.


Your poor son.


I love my son to death. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. But that doesn't mean I can't admit to anon strangers that I wished he was a girl.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:14     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:i know this is so taboo on here, but why does everyone who only has boys pretend they're so content with this?


Because some people are? I very much wanted a girl, but my first was a boy. Once he came into my life, I was over the moon about being mom to a boy. I ended up hoping my second was a boy as well. But it was a girl. Now I love being a mom to both. But if I only had boys, I'm pretty sure I'd be thrilled with that as well.


This is me as well and I ended up with one of each. The thought of a little brother for my son, close in age, was definitely appealing as well. We are done with our 2 and son still asks all the time for a brother!
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:11     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I have 2 boys and couldn't be happier. I am not good at any girly stuff -- I've never figured out curling irons or eye liner. I have had one manicure in my entire life, when my sister dragged me the day before my wedding. I never dreamed of being a princess or having a horse or a unicorn or any of that stuff. I'm sure if I had girls I would love them to pieces, but I am definitely super happy with my noisy boy family.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:02     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
Anonymous wrote:i know this is so taboo on here, but why does everyone who only has boys pretend they're so content with this?


Some people prefer boys to girls...some people prefer girls to boys...what a useless thread. P.S not EVERYONE who has boys is content with this, what a silly statement to make. I think what you will find is that most people are content with what they have, regardless of sex.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 14:01     Subject: Re:can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I wish we wouldn't have posts like this because then we get the women saying they are so glad they don't have girls. I would have loved a boy but, didn't get one. Does that mean I have any regrets? Not really. I have a nephew I adore! Love whatever you have! It is all good.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 13:55     Subject: can anyone who only has boys ACTUALLY admit they wish they had a girl?
I have two sons and I'm so thankful for them. I'm not close to my mother and, honestly, I'm relieved that I don't have a daughter. But I'm hoping for an awesome daughter-in-law or two one day!